Oooh! I’m shakin’ in my boots! 
Okay, even with the smilie that was unnecessarily snotty, but if you read Dave’s and my latest round you’ll see that we have come to a mutual understanding and that I have a clearer idea of the situation. My first post was based on his OP. I had not read his earlier posts, since I can’t read everything posted here, even though it sometimes seems like I live here. I actually try to avoid depressing threads, leaving support in the hands of people who do it better. But when somebody posts a despair-filled rant at 12:55AM (my time, but life’s pretty dozey around the ol’ Dope Ranch at that time) it’s important for them to know there is someone listening, someone who has their best interests in mind.
As for my “pop-psychology,” I took Psychology in college. I even went to class, sometimes. Really, just because a way of looking at things is “popular” does not mean it’s invalid. What I told him, the nice stuff at least, is actually true and works. Don’t write people off because they use the word “communication.” And, as I have said elsewhere, I do not see separation as anything but a prelude to divorce. Dave loves his wife. She loves him. They’re getting on each other’s nerves to the max lately, but I think there are better avenues to follow. So I said so.
I have grown weary of an attitude here that would have us be supportive despite our own beliefs at the risk of being ostracized. We do nobody any favors by doing that. Friends aren’t just for hugging, and a beautiful part of the SDMB is that we have a lot of people here who have a lot of life experience and a lot of good ideas. Shit, I’ve talked with you people about things I haven’t talked about with RL friends or my wife, even. Sometimes you just need somebody else’s perspective, and our anominity and the fact that most of us DON’T know each other IRL is an asset. This is a resource that I will continue to use.
However, techchick, you have only temporarily deflected the path of my pop-psychology beam from YOU. Although you only seem to talk to me when you want to <sniff> YELL at me! {{{{{techchick))>>><—(me grabbing her bottom)
Dave, haven’t forgotten about you. I really want you two to work this out, either way. It probably isn’t necessary to say this, but keep us posted. {{{{{wierddave}}}}}
JTR, quit apologizing. I’m the one who misunderstood and went flying off the handle.
lifecrisis, I want to apologize to you. It was the combination of yours and Dave’s problems that got me thinking you folks should grow up. I thought he had disguised his problems beyond changing his name and gender. It was a terrible mistake on my part. But could you post an update? It’s wierd, you folks all being virtual and all, but I do get concerned. {{{{{lifecrisis}}}}}