Hang in there buddy. Make yourself some of your grandmother’s recipes and remember that she will always live through you and your memories of her.
Thank you to everyone for posting. I know I sound like a broken record, but I do mean everything I say.
She is worse today according to my mother (who is taking care of her with the hospice people). The doctors are not saying much, but Linda from the Hospice called me today to say that she could be gone as soon as tommorow. I am praying that she is right.
My mother is an incredible woman as well. Her two sisters are not doing much other than arguing over who is going to get Granny’s house and land (worth about 10K if that), so my mom is doing everything. Why does it seem like the worst comes out when someone dies or is dying? How can some… inhuman person do this?
I wont go into great detail, but my family is ripping apart now. Sad really, and even worse at the moment.
Cristi: Thanks, I do apprecaite it. Much love to you.
My thoughts and prayers are wtih your family too, robgruver. I wish you all courage, serenity and wisdom in this troubling time.
Rob, I am so sorry to hear about your grandmother and sorrier still to hear about how your aunts are behaving. You must be so thankful that you got the caring genes. Bless you and your mother and your families. I hope your aunts come 'round.
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You’ve got my number, and my phone is always on.
My prayers are with you and your family.
Robin
Rob, I’m so sorry. I can’t say anything to ease your pain, but I’m here if you need me. You have my email address, I believe, but it is in my profile, too.
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Rob, I’m so sorry that you have to go through this.
I’m no good at soothing platitudes and comforting words, so I’ll just say that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your Granny.
Zappo
Man, I’m so sorry. I’ll keep you and your family in my prayers.
For a slight update to the goings on, please wander over to the Pit.
i’m sorry you and your family are going through this. y’all are in my thoughts and prayers. may you be granted peace and strength.
At 5:40pm CST Granny passed on. It was a long struggle, but she finally released her body and has gone on. My family wanted me to thank everyone for there good wishes and prayers. It is much apprecaited, especially from me.
The inevitable question is how I am doing. To be quite honest I am dying inside. One of the three women in this world that I love is dead and I have no idea how to deal with it. I have been trying to prepare myself over the last few days since I found she was going to die, but it was for naught. I can’t grasp thoughts, and the tears won’t come. It’s almost like being drunk in a way. My stomach is tight, and my chest hurts. I have a lot of pressure in my temples too.
I don’t know what to do.
I know it isn’t much, but remind yourself she’s at peace now and the pain is finally gone.
When my grandmother died a few years ago, my brothers, mother, uncle and I got through by sharing stories about her with each other, remembering her the way she would have wanted.
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
((((rob & family))))
I wish there was something I could do for you, to help ease your pain.
Just remember that your Granny will always be with you. As long as one is remembered, one is never really gone.
Love, Cristi
I’m sorry to hear it rob. Words are so often useless in this situation but at least you got the chance to say goodbye (ie it wasn’t too sudden). I’m sure she knew how much you loved her and that would have helped.
At least her suffering is over.
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It’ll be hard but try to celebrate her life rather than mourn her passing. She sounds wonderful.
You asked what you can do rob. You can refuse to be drawn into the drama that is unfolding around you and face this time with the wisdom and grace you have so obviously learned from your granny. You can remember the wonderful way she embraced life and strive to do the same.
You know where we all are if you need to talk at all, and you know you’re in all our thoughts.
Be kind to yourself rob, and remember you have friends who care.
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and prayers that granny is now somewhere peaceful and wonderful
Damn, how awful Rob…remember to keep the good things about her in your heart…and try to be a credit to her. And you know there are lots of people here who are willing to listen to you…take advantage of their kindness.
Keith
I searched the web for a quotation from someone famous that would help you through this, but after 15 minutes of clicking, I gave it up. Instead I wish to tell you this: You, Rob, are your grandmother’s legacy and in you she will live forever. Rejoice in this, Rob, because that is the greatest present you could ever give your grandmother: Rememberance.
Sincerely,
Quasimodem
Rob, much of what I’d like to say has already been put beautifully by other members of our Straight Dope family. It may not be apparent to you now, but aside from the thousands of little treasures such as recipes and stories your grandmother has no doubt left you, the greatest gift she has given you was the last, and that is strength. Your pain will transform into strength, your anger will become acceptance, and your grief will become remembrance.
Neither be afraid to cry, nor to stop crying. Your grandmother’s life is a thing to be celebrated.
You will smile again. That’s for certain. And when you do, a familiar, beloved face will be smiling right back down at you.
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I am so sorry to hear about this. Nothing I say could possibly make you feel better, but I am available to listen, and although I don’t know exactly how you feel, I can definitely sympathize.
Robin