In Which I Pit Myself For Being a Little Bitch

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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(Before I begin, has anyone else pitted themselves before?)

There I am in class earlier today, and a girl expresses some confusion over the material that will be on the test next week. At that point I have it in mind to ask her after class if she’d like to get together at some point to study for the test. This is problematic for several reasons:

  1. I don’t go to a school known for its female population. In fact, it’s more accurate to say that it’s known for its lack of a female population.
  2. The girl is fairly attractive. I think all men are somewhat intimated by attractive women, or have been at some point in their past. As a continuation of point 1), my contact with the opposite gender is more limited than I would like, and so I freeze up that much more around very attractive girls.

I exit the room before her when class ends, intending to wait for her out in the hall. But then I catch sight of her leaving the room and I made my way right out of the god damn building. In short, I pussied out like a little bitch. This happened hours ago, and I’m still disgusted with myself. Talk about an epic fail.

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Do you go to Georgia Tech?

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Haha. You nailed it.

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Self-pittings generally belong in MPSIMS, not the Pit. I’ll move it.

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You can do it tomorrow.

Bet you can!

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haha, we’ve all been there. Thing to remember is… fuck it! seriously, who cares if she says yes or no? If she says yes, great! if it’s no, oh well! Go into it with a nonchalant attitude and you’ll be much more relaxed and, in turn, much more confident.

I used to be intimidated by girls who didn’t speak any english (I live in Japan and my Japanese is passable, but not good enough for full conversations) but now it doesn’t matter, it’s all about your attitude

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Wow, go me.

Don’t beat yourself too bad. Tomorrow’s another day (like jali) said. Instead of jumping right into asking her out, how about starting up a simple conversation? When class lets out, walk beside her and try to chat. Maybe make the topic be about something other than school. Establish some casual rapport before putting her on the spot with a study date request.

Don’t assume that because just she’s a reasonably attractive woman she’s got guys falling out of the trees over her. Tech runneth over with guys too afraid to say hi.

Good luck.

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Well, that’s better than the way I handled it as a senior in high school…

Precalculus. Fourth hour. The hottest gal in the entire school, a junior, was sitting in a separate “learning group” of four people. The teacher, a complete noob, was trying to explain what differentiation was (and doing a horrible job of it).

Me: I don’t understand; the odometer on a car doesn’t move backwards when you’re in reverse?
Teacher: Yes it does.
Other students: Umm, no it doesn’t.
Me: Well, let’s use the example of just a simple wheel that has an odometer on it that’s allowed it to go in reverse (the specific example was that of a bug).
Hot Girl: Why don’t you just shut up so we can move on!
Me: Why don’t you just shut up and suck my dick?!
Teacher: flabergasted
Other students: flabbergasted / stifled laughter
Teacher: You need to apologize right now, or leave my classroom!
Me: picks up things, leaves classroom

Fortunately, the next day when I was called into the office, the ACT results had just come into the main office, and the assistant principal had just looked at them. The conversation looked like this.

Assistant Principal: Santo! I can’t believe something like this came out of your mouth!
Me: Me either, ma’am. I don’t know what came over me.
AP: Are we going to have to tell your mother?
Me: No, ma’am, it won’t happen again.

The point of my story is that I used to be pretty intimidated, if you could call it that, by beautiful women. However, I’m doing pretty darn well now, if I must say so myself. Some of the progress came with meeting random girls on the internet that I already had a bit of common with (which in some cases was just that we both wanted to fuck). However, for me, personally, the biggest thing that allowed me to break out of my shell and not be a jackass was getting drunk at parties and talking to girls. It’s friggin’ hard to do sober if you’re not used to it. Your heart starts beating faster. It feels kind of the same way as when your mom comes home early and catches you frying bugs with a lighter and a can of hairspray. But, if you call a few gals that you get numbers from online, it’ll be just like calling a friend to see what he’s doing tonight. Just like anything else, you’ve got to work up to it if it’s that difficult for you. Even if it’s just pretending to ask her when you’re alone in your room. Sounds silly, but you’ll feel less silly when you do it for real, I promise. Good luck, buddy.

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Every guy I’ve ever met that seems to be dating well above where he should in terms of quality, if you know what I mean, has one thing in common.

He asked her.

The worst she can do is say no, and that’s so little downside compared to the upside.

Your user name kicks ass too, by the way.

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If only more men were “intimated” by attractive women. :slight_smile:

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:eek:
Santo… this explains SO much…

All kidding aside though, you call that being intimidated? That’s not something I’d EVER say in a million years if i was INTIMIDATED by someone… Wow. :smiley:

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I have always been intimidated unless the girl was obviously already super into me. In which case I was a suave motherfucker. Otherwise I wasn’t. Though I did seduce a couple who weren’t that into me, but then it was that they were flattered that someone wanted them specifically that badly.

Just going up to girls has always been hard for me.

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Holy shit, that was my first mental response as well! I went there from 91-93, and it was a vast wasteland. Of course, I was a humongous dork who couldn’t talk to a girl and didn’t get laid until I was 26, with my future wife, but it was still a vast wasteland.

Real advice, taught to me by 11 years in a great relationship : pretend to be confident, and just ask. Don’t pussy out. The worst thing that will happen is she’ll go “Pfft! No!” Then, get drunk, and ask another girl tomorrow. Someone will bite (heh) eventually.

Joe

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Explain.

Joe

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I wish I could find a link to the actual strip, but this will have to do.

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I’m absolutely astonished at your prowess, sir. You are only the second person in my 10-year history of using this alias on various message boards, IM clients, etc. to know the background of my user name.
To everyone who’s responded so far, thank you. I wasn’t looking for encouragement when I originally posted this thread, but I find it both welcome and reassuring.

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I guess I just meant I didn’t know how to talk to girls in high school, so instead of actually talking to her and saying something smooth, I said the rudest thing I could think of at the time.

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Take this one step further: be confident because you know the material and she doesn’t. In other words, you have something to be confident about. Use that and just let it spread to the rest of your personality. Maybe it’s a bluff, but it’s the best way to come across.

Now, if you ask and she says yes, then you have the onus of making your interest in her clear when you’re studying. Don’t let yourself get caught in Friendsville.

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Hey, here’s a quick tip– when speaking with said attractive woman, try not to use the terms ‘pussy’ and ‘little bitch.’ By some stretch of her imagination might make you look like you think women and their genitals are somehow inferior.

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Thanks - I thought it might have to do with Calvin and Hobbes, and I recognize that particular strip…

Joe