NightRabbit wrote:
Actually, I’d say men get more of both. Since men are the ones doing the asking, they’d get more of the active rejection, PLUS since no one comes up to ask them out, they don’t get hit on either! 
I cannot speak for the men. I am also not someone who places a great deal of importance on my looks. I am not gorgeous, but I don’t think I’m totally ugly. In all honesty I’d rather think someone was rejecting me for my looks than be rejected by someone who placed a higher value on personality. That would cut me more.
But I also have to agree with both Sunspace and twickster
twickster said: ‘it depends on the man, it depends on the woman’ - and thats totally true. What format of rejection most hurts someone differs from individual to individual - there’s no set universal way for either gender to respond to rejection. Some shrug it off, some are devastated.
and Sunspace said: The worst thing is to be rejected and not know why. And I think that is a very common feeling. When someone just says ‘no.’ and you can’t extract any further information - that haunts you for weeks while you try to figure it out. ‘Is s/he already seeing someone? Am I unattractive? Just not their type? Do I come across as stupid? Do I remind him/her of a fascist dictator?’ (well, maybe not so much that one, but you catch my drift).
This is exactly true. Women who are less attractive are percieved as being “lesser than”. Even fairytales we teach to children ingrain the beautiful=good, ugly=evil assumption. It’s not uncommon for beauty to be associated with femininity itself, so that unattractive women don’t even feel like “real women”.