> I don’t think there’s a sociatal double-standard,
> however. I think what you’re running up against is the
> simple fact that “heavier” (however you define that)
> women are tired of being stereotyped as unattractive,
> seeing models in the magazines who are thin enough that
> they probably never eat…and are starting to get very
> vocal about it.
I understand that I might have hit a sore spot. Believe me, I’m not calling women who are – oh, hell, I can’t think of an unoffensive, inclusive, politically correct term to describe it, so I’ll just say “larger than me” – unattractive. Take a look at Mode magazine, for instance. While these women may be attractive, per se, I can’t find myself in a relationship with them. They don’t do anything for me – I can see that they’re “pretty,” but there’s no attraction.
Still, I can understand and relate to the frustration of women that constantly hear “such a pretty face, but …” I’m 5’10", and I was never called “short” until I moved to Denver. Yes, as a whole, people here in Colorado are overall much thinner and taller than in other places I’ve lived.
If I puruse online personal ads (call me a loser, but I do), the vast majority of women are seeking men who are taller than they are, and a majority of that subsect are looking for guys that are at least three or four inches taller. I get upset when I see short women seeking out 6’ tall men, who make it quite clear that they their ideal man must be tall. Short woman + tall man is the norm, and few give it a second thought, as superficial as it may seem. Men who post ads online, however, have to be very careful about how they word their physical preferences, lest they be flamed.
Still, there’s no vocal outrage from short men regarding their status as “undesirable” – well, there might be some grumblings, but the voices of short men aren’t being listened to, unlike that of larger women. Women who aren’t skinny are extremely vocal about their situation, and there’s no shortage of media coverage, Web sites, and so on.
From a standpoint of physical attraction, I don’t really have a particular “type.” I do usually find myself more attracted to “accessible” women, those who are more “cute” than “gorgeous.” Jeanae Garafalo is the woman of my dreams, to be quite honest. I’ve been attracted to “chunky” women, but the edge of that attraction seems to be drawn when it just feels like a woman is larger than me.
I’ll say it again, for the people that didn’t get it the first two times I said it. I DON’T GO OUT OF MY WAY TO FIND SOMEONE UNATTRACTIVE TO ME!!! I think most of us have particular, “hardwired” concepts of what we find to be attractive. It just seems that it’s wrong for men to hold certain standards of physical attraction, while it’s okay for women to reject guys because they aren’t buff or tall enough.