Is it possible to truely forgive someone when they have done something so totally stupid that really pissed you off? And still be friends?
Maybe.
It depends.
Details please, I love a good scandal.
Depends.
There’s a world of difference between doing something “stupid” and being a world class dithering dipshit, after all.
I’m all for forgiving someone if he/she was stupid. After all, everyone has his moments. What I have a hard time forgiving is deliberate betrayal and meanness. So, for what little info you’ve provided so far, my answer would be Yes.
Yes! It is possible to forgive! “Matthew 25:40 Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.”
But that woman! She did me so bad!
But…Matthew 25:40 Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.
But… the things she did!
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!
I’d like to believe so…but I don’t think it’s humanly possible for very traumatic experiences.
Example: Guy meets girl…Guy and Girl become good friends…guy and girl become very best friends…guy realizes he’s had feelings for girl for the last couple years he’s know her. Girl eventually admits her love for guy on the most recent valentines day. A month of pure bliss passes…then girl drops the bomb…her feelings for guy are conflicting with feelings for another guy she has known for years. She needs time to sort them out. Alrighty, give her time and space…a week later she breaks up with guy, saying she was really in love with the other guy and this whole relationship was merely a experiment. Guy and girl go back to being best friends, but guy has huge whole in heart. Even though he’s told her she’s been forgiven, that it’s human nature, the relation as friends is never the same…guy finds he has a new distance towards her as a person and can’t look at her the same ever again.
Now that’s the stuff traumatic experiences are written of, and a weird, confusing lesson in how giving forgiveness is not a easy thing in some situations.
it is very, very hard, but worth it
but it doesn’t mean to have to trust them, again
it is so much easier to forgive some one who is out of your life
Yes, definitely…I find that when they are constantly in your life its a struggle because you have to consistently live through the aftermath of what happened.
stupidity-yes
malice-conditionally maybe
malice with premeditation- f**k em and feed em fishheads
Well, the stupid thing I did was drive by and make sure my friend was where he said he was and he saw me. I was out anyway and just drove by his apartment and was going to srop but he was not home. He saw me at the next intersection and it pissed him off because he thought I was checking on him. It was stupid and I am sorry and will not do it again.
I’m wondering how much you trust this person in the first place, to be checking on his alibi like that. (Because you were.)
Ask yourself if there are things you need to sort out personally, or if there are things you need to sort out a deux, before working yourself into knots over receiving forgiveness.
Yes, I guess I was checking up on him because he lied to me last week. I would not have known but he told me he had lied and I forgave him. But there was this overwhelming need to see if he was lieing again.
yes, it’s possible to forgive. but part of forgiving means letting go of whatever it was the other person did. and sometimes that proves to be too much for us mere mortals to do. 
you can’t truly forgive and still hold someone’s actions over his head.
You are so right. I think part of it is our own self-perservation instinct kicking in. We do not want to be hurt again.
Forgive a one-time event, yes it’s possible.
Checking if it might be an on-going problem, after he’s said he won’t do it again & you’ve said he’s forgiven, is actually realistic.
Then if all is OK when you check a couple of times, you can start to relax.
And if it is an on-going problem, now you know and can manage your life.
Him getting pissed off seeing you near his place and you somehow becoming the guilty one…wouldn’t build my trust.
So very true, he is just turning it back on me because he feels guilty. For what is the harm of my checking if we truely are just “friends”?
Sure, but hey, if you’re young, it was a great experience for you.
Try not to forget it so you don’t repeat the experience.
I wish I was young.
Id like to say its possible to really forgive, but personally theres a guy I know, I dont think I could ever totally forgive some of the things he said. That could just be me being the weaker person but ye know still…
As regards what happened with you, I should hope that he forgives you checking up on him. The guy told you he lied before which is good of him, but how are you to know if hes not lying this time?