[QUOTE=Giles]
Well, if you want to be really nitpicky, it should be the possessive form, i.e.:
Is there any problem with Mrs. Rhymer & my using the Dope on the same computer?
However, that looks so bad that you might want to redraft, e.g.:
Can both Mrs. Rhymer & I use the Dope on the same computer?
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Why are you attacking my husband’s grammar? He didn’t do anything to you and he didn’t do anything but write the way people speak. Please stop!
[QUOTE=Kim the Rhymer]
Why are you attacking my husband’s grammar? He didn’t do anything to you and he didn’t do anything but write the way people speak. Please stop!
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Ignore the above. My husband assures me you guys are just being playful.
[QUOTE=Giles]
Well, if you want to be really nitpicky, it should be the possessive form, i.e.:
Is there any problem with Mrs. Rhymer & my using the Dope on the same computer?
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Not if you don’t force the possessive.
"Is there any problem with Mrs. Rhymer?
“Is there any problem with Mrs. Rhymer using the Dope?”
"Is there any problem with me?
“Is there any problem with Mrs. Rhymer and/or me using the Dope?”
Avoid the possessive and it sounds better, IMHO. The minute you use “my using…” you have to match the other name, too.
[QUOTE=Kim the Rhymer]
Ignore the above. My husband assures me you guys are just being playful.
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Welcome to the jungle, the beast is yet to come.
Glad to have you, we’ve heard many good things about you.
We nitpick here: That’s what we do. The fact that we’re nitpicking small, insignificant things about Skald is an indicator that we don’t have any big things to nitpick about him. This is a good thing.
[QUOTE=Kim the Rhymer]
he didn’t do anything but write the way people speak.
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That’s many folks’ first mistake.
Just playing. 
[QUOTE=Chronos]
We nitpick here: That’s what we do. The fact that we’re nitpicking small, insignificant things about Skald is an indicator that we don’t have any big things to nitpick about him. This is a good thing.
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Nitpick: you can’t really nitpick big things.
[QUOTE=Chronos]
We nitpick here: That’s what we do. The fact that we’re nitpicking small, insignificant things about Skald is an indicator that we don’t have any big things to nitpick about him. This is a good thing.
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Thank you, Chronos. If you go to the location we previously discussed, you will find your cats, mostly unharmed.
[QUOTE=fachverwirrt]
Nitpick: you can’t really nitpick big things.
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Well, they seem like big things to us nit-pickers 
(But I long ago stopped correcting people’s grammar, unless:
[QUOTE=Giles]
Well, if you want to be really nitpicky, it should be the possessive form, i.e.:
Is there any problem with Mrs. Rhymer & my using the Dope on the same computer?
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To enlarge a bit on what Musicat wrote, it also depends whether you construe “using” as a gerund or part of a participial phrase. Those two choices have different shades of meaning, and the writer must decide which one he/she wishes to use.
Welcome aboard, Kim! 