I had a wonderful night a few nights ago, and last night for that matter, but we’ve been having a strange problem. I can’t get off. I just won’t ejaculate and I don’t know why.
The first night we were together we had an extended amount of foreplay before we moved on. I noticed I was releasing an unusual amount of pre-ejaculatory fluid, but I never actually ejaculated. When we finally did have sex I apparently lasted quite a while. I felt(and heard :-D) that she orgasmed 3 times. Afterwhich she told me I had exhausted her. I still hadn’t came. I figured it was the condom(standard trojan-enz). But She then gave me a blowjob and a handjob, she just couldn’t get me off. I felt like I was on the edge the whole time, but i never climaxed. We fell asleep in each other’s arms – I was still hard.
Last night was the same deal. except we concluded in an HOUR-long handjob in which I still didn’t climax. I felt like I was on edge the entire time, but I just never came. In the end it felt like I had orgasmed(felt damn good, and I felt the smooth muscles in my urethra work), but I never came. This time we fell asleep, and I wasn’t hard.
what the heck is the deal? It never takes me this long to get off if I masturbate, and I actually climax with ejaculate. I’d experiment now to see if I still do, but, last night left me with some chafing…
The only thing I can figure is that I was so nervous about performing, that I actually just performed extremely well(for my first time I think anyway). Is there such a thing as reverse-performance-anxiety?
Eee, I just re-read this. Almost sounds like a brag =/
Well it isn’t, but I am a bit worried. Could I possibly have damaged the vas deferens or something? I’d hate to have given myself a vastectomy somehow.
I had the same problem when I first did it too. I just make sure I’m extra horny now and there’s no problem. However, if someone knows of a way to get it so I can get off as many times with someone else as I can with myself it’d be nice!
I had a similar problem at one stage, which I attributed a side-effect of the anti-depressants I was taking at the time (Prozac and later Effexor).
Don’t believe the people who tell you that this will make it easy to keep your girlfriend. 5-hour fucks with seventeen orgasms are not, apparently, always adequate compensation for a woman’s feelings of failure if she cannot pleasure her man. My girlfriend of the time got quite hung up on this and insisted on my discontinuing the drugs. I got depressed and we broke up.
And that is why communication is a central part of any relationship. The most important thing you can do here, Harmonix, is to explain your problems to her and to include her in any treatment you may pursue, medical or otherwise.
After all, sex without a partner is just jerking off.
(It’s vital for you to understand that I’m an irreverant son of a bitch who will probably be howling with laughter when I’m up against the wall.)
