Alright folks, I can’t believe I’m posting this here. This is far from my style, usually I do quiet research on my own and keep my problems to myself. But this is something I think I’m probably going to find extremely daunting.
This is mostly a pouring out of my soul and thoughts on my issues and a call for some support since I’m stepping way out of my comfort zone. So let the reader beware.
I’m 21 years old, I learned to masturbate when I was 13 I think. And I’ve been a regular ‘user’ ever since. The longest I think I’ve ever gone without a self induced orgasm is probably 10 days, maybe 2 weeks, and I’ve done many days of multiple orgasms.
I’m still a virgin, mostly by choice. In high school I saw my friends go from enjoying it to having it wreck relationships. I didn’t see the value of it so I never sought it. Rosy never left me and was always ready. Though I never had to turn a naked woman away.
Now I’m in college and I’m beginning to explore more, my last girlfriend and I did a few things including her attempting oral sex on me, but what we discovered was much like what Incubus posted in a similar thread, my body wasn’t sensitive enough to accept the pleasure of her mouth. She attributed it to nervousness, and I didn’t disagree because I didn’t want rumors to spread. I trust her, but she has a tendency to get drunk among our group of friends and let us just say she is not the best at keeping secrets at times like that.
This trouble caused me lots and lots of anxiety and it didn’t help that it was over multiple failed attempts. So I began worrying something might be wrong with the system until I realized I could still whack-it fine.
So the technical realization I came to was that over presence of stimuli leads to a lessening of response to stimuli. To make it sound scientific. So, in theory, if I don’t provide ‘it’ with my hand, it’ll, in theory, return to its normal sensitivity. If it doesn’t then, then I have problems.
Past that, I’ve also discovered I’m suffering from what CSI called, “Porn Creep.” Too much porn has trained my brain to be aroused by more and more pornish stuff, such that even cuddling with a very very attractive woman this past week hardly stirred my penis.
So the problems are obvious, and now’s the time to take steps to right what my body has been doing for 8 years. I don’t expect it to be easy. I expect it to be like an addict going through withdrawals.
I recall seeing the movie, “40 days” where the main character took a 40 day pledge of abstinence and nearly went insane while trying to avoid orgasm. I’m hoping it won’t be that bad, but who knows. Going cold turkey is going to be rough, but I don’t trust myself to be able to ween myself off it.
Hopefully I’ll find results.
Thanks for reading, I’m going to go try and return to my comfort zone now.