I have to agree, again, with even sven. There is nothing wrong with a “booty call” or “friends with benefits” or however you choose to name a purely/mostly sexual relationship. As long as both parties are aware and willing and IMHO the most important aspect respectful. As someone who works in the nightclub industry, I see just about every permutation of this possible, from the random hook-ups to two friends just deciding to go home together.
Nothing wrong with it.
But, yet again, I have to state that,
A-your worrying (note I didn’t say obsessing) about what amounts to perhaps 5 sentences worth of texts seems a bit much, especially if all you’ve ever done is some kissing.
B-Going over to said someones place after a 1AM text from a bar just reeks, to me, of maybe not desperation, but certainly a lack of self respect. Now, I don’t know your schedule. I work 2-4 nights a week from 9PM to 5AM. Any one of my friends would know that if I’m not working, I’d be wide awake. Most “normal” people, even on a weekend, aren’t willing to pick-up and head over to someone’s place at that time to “hang out”. Now, he was wrong to make ANY assumptions, but after some drinking, texting a woman that he’s already had some romantic contact to come over, a booty call may very well be what he was thinking.
Now, while most of us have been looking at this from one way, there certainly are many other possibilities. I don’t know the ages or any other details about either one of you, but is it possible that he’s a little embarrassed about his attempt at a drunken booty call?
There is a pretty simple way to find out.
Call him.
If your still interested, which I think you are, try actually speaking to him on the phone (or in person). If he doesn’t answer, leave a message asking him to call you back. Perhaps mention that you’re interested in making actual plans to get together. Even with emoticons, there is FAR too much that simply can not be conveyed via text messages. Or Email, or posts on a message board. Emotional content of our voices (or body language for those who sign) carries information that is vital to meaningful conversation. You’re not exchanging long letters filled with your hopes and dreams, you’re texting.
It’s a pretty lousy way to really communicate.