Sex is - well, it ranges from “meh” to a very pleasant way to spend an afternoon to OH MY GODDDD!
I remember one time I had sex with my third boyfriend and - well, it was memorable, let’s just say that. I’ve got this one particular scene locked in my mind forever. And he was gorgeous, too, which doesn’t hurt.
Masturbation is also very pleasant. It’s not as exciting as sex, but also not as nerve-wracking if something goes wrong, and as Truman Capote (?) put it, you don’t have to dress up.
It’s really very sad that you feel this way, drainthelizard. As far as I’m concerned, sex (with or without a partner :D) is one of the very best parts of being human.
There really is no feeling in the world that can compare to getting the big O, and the more creative, intimate, and passionate the acts leading up to it, the better it is.
When I was single and having “casual” sex, it was great, and tremendous fun, and after being in a wonderful marriage for 13 years, all I can do is echo matt_mcl…oh MY GOD!!!
I wonder if you are not maybe taking it all too seriously, drainthelizard. No matter who you are with, sex should be, at the very least, about having fun and giving each other pleasure. I think PRISM02 has the right idea, get creative and playful with it, and realize that the only limits you have are the ones you and your partner decide on.
Sex? Ha! Silly humans! We higher beings see no value in such foolishness.
No, really, how could sex possibly be overrated? Is there some other form of human communication that is anywhere near as effective in capturing and expressing, with perfect honesty, the most basic needs and emotions of two (or more) people and that results in an immediate reward to our most basic as well as our loftiest desires? What have I been missing out on that makes sex pale in comparison?
Now, not all sex fits my definition of the potential of sex. That’s a good thing. I think it’s very important to have many sexual encounters of a casual nature so as to tune and train ones body and mind to more naturally respond to and please one’s partner. That way, when the timing and chemistry is right for that divine communion, you won’t encounter any limitations as a result of inexperience or trepidation.
Failure to strike an appropriate balance between having sex and making love (I hate that expression, btw) could lead to boredom. Fear not, though. Someone will come along who will have, or will inspire you to have the desire to breach the limitations that are the source of disinterest.
is sex overrated?..
no
and it will help you live longer.
I think that casual sex is overrated…being in love rocks…making love is even better!
But I know I’m striking out on all three counts so who cares what the hell I think?
Gosh, the responses to this thread are all very interesting. Many seem to take the form “yes, it’s overrated, BUT…” So I’m not sure what to think.
I suppose I could just be jaded with life, and unreachable by the same old stimuli. Maybe I should check out what people in the BBQ Pit are saying about me this hour.
Right on, UncleBeer. Although I’d assume it is the latter.
Drainthelizard, you say “I’ve done plenty.” Is this to say you done “it” many times, or with many people? I’m going to agree with UncBeer and say that, maybe, you haven’t found the right person. JMHO of course.
Silver Fire- Not quite sure how to answer that. It depends on your point of view or how many is a “lot.”
I think the real problem here is me. Lately I just have no desire to be that close to a woman anymore (or a man, although that would never be an option for me. I like the ladies)
Prism02’s advice was well taken, but ultimately futile. No matter what I do, I have no desire to get naked and sweaty with ANYONE. I’m not sure what brought on this mental state, but it’s definitely for real. Everyone here seems to be of the opinion that sooner or later I will wake up and see just how great sex is/can be. I find that hard to believe, because right now I can’t imagine doing it at all with anybody, so how can it get better? We’re talking total death of my libido here. It’s kind of scary, because I’m not impotent, nor have I recently gone through a horrible breakup, and my stress level is high, but not that high.
Maybe I’m getting annoyed when other people carry on about sex because it’s something I can’t enjoy anymore.
You could be suffering from Clincal depression.
Really, go see a doctor. It’s not normal to stop caring about sex that way. Now if you were ok with this loss it would be no problem. You seem to be comlaining though.
And to chime in. Yeah, sex itself is ok. Walking is ok. Eating is ok.
But, sex with the right person is amazing. Walking in Yosemite in winter is amazing. Eating a fabulous dinner is amazing. Sex is just an action like writing or sailing. It’s how you do it that makes it special.
Sex is promoted by the marketing industry to sell anything it chooses.
So what you get is the media take on it which is always going to be for their agenda, dammit I’m starting to sound like a pinko.
No what I’m trying to say is that when it turns out differant to your expectations which have been media implanted it isn’t too surpising that you feel let down.
My 2cents anyway.
Are you on anything like Paxil or Prozac? Paxil, by the way, is not used just for depression. Paxil or Prozac can, in some men, wipe out the libido. It cannot only make the ability to have sex difficult, but can depress the urge to do so.
Sometimes, if one has been having sex on a regular basis, they can weary of it, especially if the sex has been OK and not great. Then, if they abstain for a time, (no whacking off either) like a couple of weeks, it returns.