Have any of you ever had sex with a guy who was a virgin when you yourself were no longer one? Was the first time awkward? Were you expecting to be disappointed what with the fact that he had no prior experience?
And are there any of you who, for the same reasons, usually try to stay clear from guys who still have their virginity?
>Have any of you ever had sex with a guy who was a virgin >when you yourself were no longer one?
Yes
>Was the first time awkward?
No
>Were you expecting to be disappointed what with the fact that >he had no prior experience?
No, although I did expect him to be inexperienced (duh). I was looking forward to “breaking him in.” I’d imagine that a women who thought of sex as a time they lay motionless while the guy “got to work” would feel otherwise.
>And are there any of you who, for the same reasons, usually try >to stay clear from guys who still have their virginity?
Not at all. I have never spoken to a female who was turned off by a guy who was otherwise fantastic but still a virgin. It’s more likely that the reason the person is a virgin is one that makes him somehow unattractive to most women.
Yeah, I did this. It was definitely very awkward, but the guy in question is kind of an awkward guy to begin with… I wasn’t expecting to be disappointed, it was kind of a “well, if it’s bad… oh well.” I wasn’t disappointed, really, I mean, it wasn’t awful. It was the worst sex I’ve ever had, but that’s not saying much as I’ve only had sex four times. So… i dunno. I don’t think I’d avoid virgins… Not actively seeking them out, though…
Absolutely not. On the contrary, it was very fresh and, ahem, exciting. Kinda like taking a vacation to somewhere you’ve never been before, but you are immensely looking forward to it.
Not really, because he’d been so damn enthusiastic and willing to learn about everything else we’d experienced together. Oh, and he was VERY talented about all things leading up to that point. I had no reason to fear that this would be otherwise and he proved my hunch correct.
:::falls into remembering dreamily and fondly:::
Well, I’m married now, so that’s really a moot point. However, if I wasn’t, I’d happily be involved with a virgin again, as long as they held the right chemistry (ie: great personality, etc.), we connected and they were willing to try/experiment/learn. That’s key, I think. I mean, everyone has to start somewhere and it’d be no fun to discriminate against all those potentially fabulous partners, right? You might miss out if so. Besides, it’s a very special thing to have such an important passage bestowed upon you. One should be, IMHO, honored. I was and would be again.
Have any of you ever experienced the opposite? A man turning you down because you weren’t a virgin and they were saving themselves for someone who was?
Yes, I have. It could have been a quite awkward experience, as there were, um, complications about which he became embarassed, but I was able to put his mind at ease and it turned out to be an incredibly delightful experience.
I wasn’t expecting it to be disappointing, and I didn’t let it be. It’s all what you make of it. We went on to have a wonderfully loving relationship for a year afterwards.
As for the last question, I’ll have to say that is no longer applicable as I’m quite happily married, but in the intervening time I did not have the pleasure of acquainting another first-timer. It is, however, an experience that were I not married, I think would not be an issue.
No, I never really thought of the quality of the experience being solely his responsibility, y’know?
No, I wouldn’t avoid virgins as such, but I’m 32 now, I imagine if I was dating someone near my age and they turned out to be a virgin, that’d be highly unusual. C’mon, it’s instant immortality, for better or worse you don’t forget your first.
Sortof, it wasn’t as if we were getting ready to “do it” but on one of our early dates (the last one that is, I think there were three or so) this guy made it clear that he was looking for a wife, and that casual sex would be okay, but that the only person he’d consider for a potential wife would be a virgin.
I thought it was MUNDO weird since he’d already been married and then divorced and was in his late 20s, and he was clear that he’d been having casual sex for years… But to each his own I guess. BTW, I declined his offer of casual sex and dumped him immediately.
I have some expertise here.
Two of my previous boyfriends were virgins…and my fiance …ahem…was a virgin before we got engaged.
No I was NOT disappointed (except for one of them who couldnt wait for actual contact) haha…
but the others had impressive stamina…very thorough, open minded, uninhibited…perhaps savoring the time spent?
I would never have steared clear of a virgin (im now engaged so isnt applicable now)…
The second part of the question…has anyone turned down because I wasnt a virgin…uh…noo.
“Have any of you ever had sex with a guy who was a virgin when you yourself were no longer one?”
Yes.
“Was the first time awkward?”
No.
“Were you expecting to be disappointed what with the fact that he had no prior experience?”
No.
“And are there any of you who, for the same reasons, usually try to stay clear from guys who still have their virginity?”
No.
Put off repeating the experience?
Sort of.
It was supposed to be casual fling, but he got a little overboard about it. Which I put down to the fact that your first time is this really emotional thing, and you get quite attached. So I wouldn’t do it again, not because the sex itself was bad, but because I wouldn’t want the scary levels of devotion that seemd to ensue.