On first read, I thought that said… aw, never mind.
I forgot to add:
I will stay as long as it takes, it’s not like I’m clock-watching or anything. When I start a job, I finish it.
Y’know I think tonight the Rum Munkey will shave, break out the Listerine and pay special attention to the clock.
I’m happy to oblige (one of the “all night” gentlemen checking in). Personally, I enjoy giving her a trim in the shower. Some soap, some moisturizer, and then extra-thick shaving foam; a brand new Gilette Mach 3; and twenty minutes of my time keeps her nice and neat for about a week. A week of delicious fun.
And for what it’s worth, I submit to the numb-mouth crowd that if you can’t stay down there for as long as she wants you there, perhaps you’re doing something wrong.
Heh, that’s funny, I though most women kept theirs trimmed and nice. I wouldn’t dream of expecting someone to go down unless it was nice and tidy.
So are you saying I’m a liar, or that my husband’s no good at it? :wally
Perhaps all women and men are different with respects to love-making, and just because someone else’s experience is outside your frame of reference does not automatically make them “amateurs and/or totally faking”
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All depends, can be as fast as 5 minutes [especially when mrAru was out to sea for a few months, homecoming can be fun] or several hours if he has me tied down and is tormenting me by keeping me close and not letting me finish…
And mrAru can take from 5 minutes to an hour or so [if I have him tied down and am torturing him…i love the little tufts of feathers that come with the kamasutra kit=)]
Sometimes we will forgo the old in-out and just do oral. Nobody says that penile penetration is the only way to have fun in bed=)
I really don’t get this at all.
Oral has always been about either foreplay, or actually getting the other person off, not something you sit around enjoying for 30 minutes like a massage. I think 20 minutes, fully engaged at it, is too long for either.
“orgasm is not the goal, it’s a side effect of an activity we really enjoy”. Come on. A woman actually enjoys having something that big and long engaging her gag reflex for 20 minutes???
A man really enjoys having his face that close to an ass and a pee-hole licking and kissing something that is NOT made to be licked and kissed with his neck craned for 20 minutes???
It’s like saying “I like to masturbate for 20 minutes, but orgasm isn’t really the point. I just really like doing it.” Any takers on that one?
I’d like to see a follow-up poll about how long some of you with the 20 minute box-chowers have been with the box-chower. . .anyone over 6 months?
For those of you that tend to take what seems to me to be a long time (20+ minutes) to orgams, do you also tend to take a while to orgasm during penetrative sex?
I am blessed (as you guys have read above) with a wife that is able to orgasm quite easily for me, no matter what our activities entail. I certainly don’t chalk it up to me being an extraordinary lover, but I do know that we’re both very receptive to each other emotionally, so that helps. No holding back.
I like pleasuring her orally, but if it lasted over 15 minutes or so without her having at least 1 orgasm, I’d wonder that either a) I’m doing it wrong or b) there’s something else on her mind.
Disclaimer: I’ve been married a long time, so anything I say about variety among women goes back a ways.
My goal in lovemaking is to make sure she comes. If she gets fireworks, I’m happy, even it I don’t. Anyway, some women can’t tolerate direct, intense stimulation of the clitoris; it hurts. I once dated such a woman. She told me she rarely came, which made me more determined to bring her off. I stretched out the early foreplay, with the “spider’s legs” barely touching her skin, slow fondling. I backed off every part of my usual efforts a coupla notches, gently, gently getting her close, starting over at her toes and her back, easing back to her tender parts. After several cycles like that, she finally, finally got to the pulling-my-hair-and-screaming part. Then, she was writing sonnets, and I was exhausted. She was raving about my touch, my touch, my touch; I couldn’t speak clearly for a half hour. She was eager to get me off, but I don’t remember much about that. She had come, spectacularly, and that was the main thing.
I’ve been thinking about this topic a lot lately. The best conclusion I can come to is that everyone is different from each other, and different from day to day. One thing I have consistently noticed is that a woman wants to feel special, wants to experience that “connection” to the man (or woman) who is doing the deed. If you can make them feel connected an orgasm is a short time away.
Yeah, many men enjoy it immensely. MANY. Not meant to be licked and kissed? I beg to differ.
You seem to have such disdain for the female genitalia. I don’t know if it’s because you’ve been with dirty women or if you are just disgusted by women in general. Either way, I feel sorry for the women who end up in bed with you.
Box chower? You sure are a charmer. :rolleyes:
A. I’m not usually thinking “hmm, this is close to where she urinates” or anything along those lines. Also, my neck is not usually craned. I’d ask how you’re so certain she wasn’t made to be licked but I sense it’s probably from the same place the rest of this is from;)
I have never timed her, but it’s between 5 and 20 minutes. I do it because I enjoy it. Generally if you enjoy doing something, time isn’t what you’re focused on. Three guesses what you are focused on;)
Hmmm…maybe you’re the one who’s doing it wrong - after all, you dont’ seem to think that oral sex is really only enjoyed by the person receiving, not giving. I enjoy going down on my boyfriend, and boyfriends before him, too. For 20 minutes, even more if necessary or I just feel like making it last. Same for my boyfriend, and it seems a lot of other people’s, too. I’d much rather give or receive a mind-blowing orgasm than one that takes five minutes but is just meh (disclaimer not that quickies are bad! quickies are GOOD, but not for every single time you have sex).
And yes, oral sex is something you can enjoy like a massage - it’s relaxing, it feels great, all the attention is on you. In the end, you do get an orgasm, but getting there is half the fun.
The way I see it is like a meal - an orgasm is just the dessert. Just because I’m looking forward to dessert eventually doesn’t mean I need to rush through dinner and not enjoy it just to get to the cake.
I would add only a mild rebuke to parties on both sides of the 20-minutes-is-great/20-minutes-is-bizarre debate who question, when not met with agreement, the other Doper’s skills in this arena. There’s alll sorts of coochies out there, folks.
20 minutes of oral sounds long to me, on a male or a female. But if both are enjoying, then rock on I say.
giggle, chower or chowee?
FWIW, mrAru and I have been together for just about 15 years, married and dating.
Dont know about anybody you have been with, but if chowing is going to occur, we both have freshly showered, and whereas mrAru is slightly larger than the statistical norm [ok, for the prurient among us, 2 inches widest point, 7.75 long, measured along the top surface] one simply doesnt spend the entire time deepthroating, that would be boring…one teases the tip, nibbles various areas, licks portions, takes various lengths and varies the actions so it doesn’t get boring. Feathers, honey or other tasty liquids can be fun [banana sundae?] and witholding release can make the final release so much more intense…and after an hour of being kept on edge, the release can be mind shatteringly fantastic.
Try it, you might like it. Otherwise just slamming away doing one action during fellatio, you might as well use rosie and her 5 friends and get off as fast as possible. I would suggest finding a compliant male prostitute and telling him to take the full hour and tease you before getting you off but most men have slammed any openmindedness they have on any form of male sexual interaction firmly shut.
And FWIW, I have done and been done by women. Confirmed hetero here, but not closeminded! [I guess you could therefore claim i am bi.]
So, you’re close-minded if you aren’t willing to have homosexual experiences? Haha, some of us just aren’t gay. Male or female, I wouldn’t call them closed-minded if they didn’t have those desires.
To each their own, but that’s really judgmental.
Uh, yeah. Emphatically. First of all, if there’s anything on this planet that seems perfectly engineered for licking and kissing, it’s womens’ genitalia. If it came in a can, I’d get it by the caselot.
Is there anything better? Hell, I’ll go out of my way to get unlubricated jimmies and wash the latex dust off so penetrative sex doesn’t make it unpleasant to take a couple more trips down south before the finish.
You can tell that I’m happiest in a relationship when the end of my nose is semipermanently chafed.
Good god, man. Is this really open to debate?
I just gotta say it:
How you doin’,Larry Mudd?
Wise words.
Trunk, you have “issues” I think you ought to deal with. Find a nice “box” and get “chowing”. 
Another data point… my gf takes a varying amount of time… quickest was when we were living apart and only saw each other every couple of weeks. Then it could be as little as five minutes from the time I walked in the front door (literally, that is, not metaphorically…) If we’ve been getting it together reguarly and there’s less pent-up tension then it might take 15 to 20 minutes. But who’s timing? I only get a vague idea of time by how many songs have passed by on the stereo, if we have a CD on.
On the other hand, for me, oral is sometimes not enough on its own, so, pleasant as it is, I sometimes have to, er, finish off in the location nature intended…
Another male of the species checking in. I could keep going as long as it needed done, 2 minutes, 20 minutes, or two hours, as long as I can hold my head up and breathe on my own, i’m fine. Speaking of breathing, This little number can come in handy fellas. And well said Larry, well said.