I’m being somewhat facetious of course.
There is this book I just read recently, called The Game.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0060554738/102-9037864-7961757?v=glance&n=283155&s=books&v=glance
Basically, a bunch of nerds who were helpless with women set about answering this question methodically and carefully using sound scientific method. You see, they couldn’t get girls and they wanted to figure out how. They developed surefire techniqes and methodolodies that worked over and over again. Some of this “technology” was incredibly sophisticated, involving things like Neuro linguistic programming, including the hilarious “condiment bonding.”
The bottom line though is that a woman will find you desirable for only a very few reasons. There are basically three reasons:
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A woman will find you desirable if she associates you with things are feelings that she also finds desirable. This is the NLP part of it.
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A woman will find you desirable if she feels she can increase her status by gaining your attentions.
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A woman cannot find you desirable unless she feels comfortable and unthreatened by you.
That’s it, but they have huge ramifications. For example, one of the offshoots of number 2 is that if a woman has your attentions there is not really anything particularly desirable.
One of their backbone techniques is to approach a group of people containing the target. Such a group is called a set. Let’s say the target woman in in a group of four.
You must be noticeable when you approach the set. These guys call it “peacock theory.” Wear or do something slightly outlandish that makes you noticeable and interesting.
The first thing you do is qualify your entrance timewise. Say you can only stay a minute, that way they don’t feel like they’ve been invaded.
Your goal for the next few minutes is to get everybody in the group to think you’re cool while pointedly ignoring your target. You do this by a “value demonstration,” which you’ve prerehearsed. It can be a tried and true conversational topic, a story, a magic trick, a test (like a Cosmo type test) or several other possibilities. There’s a lot of field tested ones that you can select from.
When everybody appreciates your value demonstration and you are bonding with the targets friends she will recognize that you have value, and she will feel slightly uncomfortable that she has not been included and that you are not bonding with her or recognizing her value. She may at this time try to gain your attention. Whether or not she does, you need to hit her with a “neg.” A neg is a left-handed compliment or mild insult.
“Those shoes look very comfortable.”
“Wow, you have big hands.”
“I love the way your nose is all scrunchy.”
“Is that your reall hair or a wig? Oh, well I think it looks great.”
If you have done this all properly than the girl will feel that you have value, and feel the need to demonstrate value to you since she feels she is at a deficit.
It’s a tightwalk for a while. If you accept her value propositions and attentions to easily than your value is lessened. Conversely if you do not recognize her value offerings she may consider you to be just an asshole.
Engage in conversation and bonding, use value demonstrations and negs, give her attention and take it away in such a fashion as to keep her on edge.
At some point, you will recognize when she has made a decision and decided that you are desirable. It’s a little surrender. At this point in time, you move for the “kiss close.”
“Do you want to kiss me?” you ask?
Very rarely, the girl will say yes, in which case, go for it.
Most often she will hesitate or give a noncommital answer. Say “well, let’s find out.” and kiss her.
Sometimes she will say “No.”
Say “I didn’t say you could. It looked like you had something on your mind.”
There’s more to it, and it takes practice. These guys have really hyperdefined attraction down to an equation and made a science out of it, and, apparently, it worked.
It’s an interesting read though. As these nerds become superswingers by having reduced seduction to a formula they kind of lose their souls.
One funny thing is that it works better on smart women than dumb ones.
disclaimer I just read the book. I never actually tried any of this crap.
