I’m the exception that proves the rule I guess but I’m very aware of even minor changes that women make to thier hair. The only thing I’ve ever complimented female coworkers on is changes to thier hair and then only when I sincerely thought it looked good. Some guys are leg men, some are boob men, I’m a good hair man.
My ex wife would have preferred that I kept my nose out of her hair business, most likely. I couldn’t resist commenting.
No. It’s not important to them.
They aren’t girls.
Being irritated at them because they aren’t girls is a waste of energy.
I don’t notice when he gets some new car accessory, which to him is basically the same damn thing as a color and cut is to me. I don’t see why they even have to notice.
No, because I’m the type of person not to notice such things.
alice, what is wrong with those blokes up in Calgary who aren’t hounding you and competing for your attentions? Has all of the fluoridation sapped and impurified all of their precious bodily fluids?
Anyway, although I’m not a woman (or at least, not as of five minutes ago when I last used the urinal), I’ll just note that from a guy’s perspective, slight changes in appearance aren’t generally worth noticing. I mean, if you make a critical comment about a “good” haircut (“Did you really mean to cut it that short?”) then you’re totally in the doghouse, and if it turns out to be a “bad” haircut (from the woman’s point of view) complementing it is insensitive and adding insult to injury. Better to complement her on her shoes (you almost never go wrong there) or say nothing at all.
And a dramatic change in hairstyle is, in my experience, usually a harbinger of some turbulent emotional conjuncture. If The Princess comes in missing several inches of hair without prior notification (donating to a wig charity explicitly excepted) then it’s best to remain as still as possible, make no noise, and blend into the surroundings until you can affect a clean escape.
When a dude gets a haircut, on the other hand, it’s usually ‘cause it’s hot or it’s blocking his sight. Trust me, ladies, you don’t what your men to start acting and talking like women; it would drive you as crazy as it makes us. And be damned glad that we don’t have, as a (female) friend of mine recently said, “Girl Ears”. Just sayin’.
Stranger
Too close to “Does my butt look fat in this dress territory…” :smack:
Just curious–why would you be irritated? Meaning, do you believe it’s deliberate in some way? I don’t get this.
I find woman have memories and minds for certain details utterly alien to me. My wife will ask me if I remember the drapes at a certain couple’s party. I don’t remember the drapes. I don’t remember for sure if they had drapes. I don’t remember what the house was like. Something really memorable has to occur for me to recall the details (“Remember that party where the living room caught fire?” “Yep.”). Hell, I may not remember the couple, if they were people we visited only once and enough time has passed. I just don’t register those kinds of things, just don’t notice them. My wife does.
Fortunately, she’s a sweetheart and doesn’t hold it against me or roll her eyes or anything (not usually anyway).
Blow $90 fishing for compliments?
A group of my friends are breast cancer survivors. Being a guy, I have found that when it comes to hair changes, the “don’t ask – don’t tell” approach is safest.
Me: “Hey, your hair looks nice.”
Her 1: “It’s a wig. My hair fell out during treatment over Christmas.”
Me: “Hey, your wig looks nice.”
Her 2: “That’s not a wig.”
Her 3: “Haven’t you noticed my hair?”
Me: “I prefered rubbing the peach fuzz.”
And then there was the night an elderly lady in a flaming orange babydoll negligee danced in through the dining room and out into the night, draped with half a dozen bras and prosthetic breasts.
Me: “Your hair looks nice.”
No, spent $90 to get my hair done, which I would do whether I was with someone or not. I don’t consider it money “blown” in the least. He compliments me in some way every day whether I get my hair done or not.
I didn’t actually get mad at him or anything, but it did cross my mind. And that’s why I asked you guys. I figured you’d give me a rational answer.
My husband always notices, but I think it’s because he always expects me to notice if he gets an eighth of an inch of trimmed off, or clips back his moustache impercptively. I try to make note of hair left in the sink so I can respond appropriately.
I work with about sixty-some-odd guys. In the past, I’ve shaved off my beard, and it’s been days before anyone even noticed.
Guys just don’t notice that sort of thing.
As others have said, when a woman asks a man about her appearance, it is a potential minefield. :eek:
“Does this dress make me look fat?”
I think women should brief us on the correct answers!
Mine notices. I can tell because every time she gets her hair done she’ll start to ask and then say, “but you don’t like it because it’s too short anyways”.
I just sit through the passive aggressive BS in silence. Not worth fighting about.
-Joe
What could they possibly do to your hair that was worth 90 dollars? did you get a happy ending?
Perhaps a hairgasm?
-Joe
I find this concept of $90 haircuts intriguing. I have started a thread on it here to investigate further.
**Indygirl **did say a haircut and color. 90 dollars is not that surprising for all that.
Muffin,
Thanks for the guffaw!
Cut and color done by a professional that I trust. Not having to worry about the stylist screwing up my hair is priceless. I was very happy with the ending. 
Way back in the mists of time when I was married, I got my hair highlighted for the first time. My (now ex) husband had been griping about my hair, saying it was time for a cut, so I went off to the salon, and while there allowed myself to be talked into getting some highlights put in. I thought my husband would be pleased. He was always griping about my hair…he wanted it long, or to stay in the same style it was when he first met me. Since I don’t like short short hair, keeping in long(er) was never a problem, but I would get it cut to collar length every once in a while just to get rid of the scraggliness. Or I would get some kind of perm, which he hated more than anything because of the smell for the first few days…but he wanted me to have curly hair, and the only way to make my stick-straight hair curl is a perm!
So he generally noticed when I got my hair done. My brother was visiting, and noticed the unplanned highlighting as soon as I came home from the salon. We jokingly said, “Let’s see how long it takes before Bob notices”, thinking he’d notice the cut but not the highlights. When three days had gone by and my husband hadn’t said a word about even the cut itself and I was getting very annoyed, my brother told my husband. This probably marked the beginning of the end of our relationship, because the reason he wasn’t paying any attention to me was that he was having an affair, though I didn’t know about it for a few more years. In fact, if I had been smarter and more worldly back then, I would have realized that his griping about my hair was a signal that he was embarking on another one of his romantic liasons…criticizing me for not “taking care of myself” made him feel justified in cheating.
I think I’d be more pissed if he didn’t notice some serious drastic injury-say a black eye, or my arm in a sling.
Or, if I got my head SHAVED, for some strange reason, then I’d be pissed.
But like I said, I’m the type who rarely notices these changes until they’re pointed out to me, so I can’t complain.