Not too concerned right now but I am kind of wondering about the future. My sex drive died when my girlfriend passed. It has been 4 months now. I am 70 years old and noticed some slowing down before she passed. Hard to explain but it kind of feels like one of those things that isn’t coming back. Have others experienced this? I see a positive side to it as I can move on to bigger and better things.
Its kind of unrelated, but didn’t your insomnia clear up for a decade after a bad relationship failed a few decades ago? If so, do you think your issues may be psychosomatic rather than biological?
It almost certainly is psychosomatic, but that doesn’t mean that it’s not biological. The brain is part of the body, and the nervous and endocrine systems are constantly interacting.
To the OP, I’d say not to worry about it, since if you don’t have a partner, then you don’t really need those systems working, anyway. Maybe you’ll find someone else, and maybe if you do, it’ll come back.
Of course, many men even with partners find themselves facing ED at your age. And we’re fortunate to live in a time when there are treatments for that that actually work.
I was already getting the point that I required more stimulation and could tolerate less distraction. I am kind of thinking this was just a matter of tipping the iceburg. A friend of mine, very attractive and 42 years old has been staying with me the past couple of months so she can save up for an apt. I have enjoyed her company. We share a bed. She tends to get cuddly every now and then which I don’t mind but I have zero interest in going any further. I try to think of scenarios that would turn me on and I draw a blank every time, there just seems to be no interest at all. Prior to my girlfriend passing 2 or 3 times a week was our norm with 2 times becoming more common than 3 so it was progressing.
I’m not a man, so I can’t speak about ED, but women (at least some of us) go through loss of libido all the time. I have experienced this after child birth, during stressful times, etc. I think it’s both psychosomatic & hormonal. I say, let it ride & I think it will return for the right person/situation.
You share a bed with a woman who gets cuddly with you. Dude, you are partnered. You may not think of it that way, but she probably does. Talk to her.
Not really like that. I only have one bed so it is share a bed or a sleeping bag. I think she is asleeep when she gets cuddly.
I’m 73, and haven’t had an erection in about 7-8 years. Frankly, I don’t miss it. There are so many other ways in which my husband and I interact romantically, it just takes a little imagination. I’ve tried Viagra and Cialis, and they had no effect other than making me feel clammy.
Talk to the woman who’s staying with you, and see how she feels about cuddling when she’s awake.
Yeah, IDK, it seems like to me it would pushing it a bit. Your girlfriend hasn’t been gone that long. Your roomie may or may not be interested. Don’t do anything you’ll regret. Bide your time. It will happen when it happens, or not.
I find it encouraging that you are even thinking about it. Good luck.