I hate love, its like ‘nailling jello to the wall’ as people in the states say, but its also has the alluring effect of which makes you attempt and attempt again…why? I have been let down and down again by it, so why keep perpetuating that pain? It astounds me what people do for love, it is like climbing a mountain to get to the peak, I’m babbling here, but I dunno, I just don’t think love is worth the hassle anymore, or the sacrifice, or anything else for that matter…so officially declare that in my view love sucks.
How is sucking a bad thing? Perhaps you do not know love as well as you allude to. Or perhaps you should choose better words next time.
why oh why did you post in my thread?
I think it might be because
Shut up Ryan Liam.
The SDMB is not your personal LJ, do not treat it as one. Now, please go away so us adults can conduct mature conversaitions.
I’ve seen you’re posts and threads and I have to say jerk, you are the child here…
I can’t wait to see the word ‘banned’ under your username, I bid you good day Jerk.
Do you take joy in annoying everybody around you?
You are not a victim of love, you are a viictim of childish crushes. Please come back when you are more grown up and have a accurate view of things.
Who the hell are you?
That’s not rhetorical. Seriously. I’ve never seen you post anything before. Who are you?
Who are you? Have you not read you’re own threads you’re the most annoying prick on the boards at the moment, since you are an adult, and children learn most things from adults, I must then have to follow ure example :wally
WTF is going on here? God, I always show up in this kinda crap.
You’d think I’d learn…but NOoooooooooooooo…
I am a poster on the internet message board for the newspaper column the straight dope. I am also your lord and saviour. Please bow down and show your respect properly. 
And just what the hell are you talking about?
Bring back pie and hopefully maturity when you come back.
I think we’re feeing a you know what guys here, I’m not responding to anymore of his rubbish…
Ryan, having locked off the idea of risking love for a great deal of my adult life and then having gotten the guts to be vulnerable, I do have to disagree with your OP. It does, however, hurt a lot when things go wrong. Ignoring the problems that this thread may be having, do you want to talk (or rant) about what went wrong? I might have something helpful to say if I knew something more than that you’re pissed off about love hurting so much, and I can at least be a sympathetic ear … well, eye, considering we’re typing this stuff, but you know what I mean. 
My dear Ryan, I’m hoping you might find some solace in this passage from The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran:
Yeah, what Polycarp said. I was too busy trippin’ over the above “conversation” to even address your OP. Sorry 'bout that.
Feel free to vent to me, as well, Ryan. Email’s in the profile. I have a good “eye” sometimes, too.
Hey thanks Polycarp I guess my anger comes from frustration and lonliness, and when I attempt to do something about it I get ‘chewed and spat back out’ Or I feel like a doormat or they are not good enough for me, or my families opinion of the ‘right girl’ for me…I think it has to do with my self-confidence and self-esteem…I just don’t wanna put myself in a position where I wanna be hurt again, ever.
Thanks again Polycarp.
I think we’ve all been there, Ryan. I guess the one thing I’ve learned, after being hurt more times than I want to admit to during the course of my life so far, is that the pain of losing love is still worth the risk. And pain is how we all learn and grow.
Sounds like you’re feeling bummed out about people right now. I don’t know if it helps, but please do know that you’re not alone in your feelings. I think almost everybody has been there at some point in their life.
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There is nothing as wonderful as being in love. Nothing.
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There is nothing as painful as losing it. Nothing.
But you cannot know the joy of being in it AND avoid the pain of losing it (or having it elude you) at the same time. To get the high, you have to risk feeling the low.
Yeah, that does suck, but what are gonna do?
Cue J. Geils Band
…I’ve had the blues
The reds and the pinks
One thing for sure
(Love stinks)
Love stinks yeah yeah
(Love stinks)
Love stinks yeah yeah…
I agree wholeheartedly with the OP’s lament. Sorry I have no great words of advice here.
You either keep on trying…or you lock your heart up for good. The first has more risk, but also more likelihood of you finding someone, the second is safer, but drastically reduces your chances of finding someone.
Way to state the obvious here I know (sorry), but that’s about what we’re all stuck with.
You don’t know me personally so I don’t expect this to be the great light, but after thiking I found the “one” 4 times, I finally did. It so happened she was never married either and neither of us had kids till we married.
BTW, whe was 31 and I was 30. Sometimes it takes time. love is patient and will find you
(Fuck, that was sappy)