Rubystreak, I really feel for you. I’ve been in a few weddings from hell. One of my friends weddings was so horrible and such a nightmare that no one spoke to each other again after the wedding. In that case it was the mother of the bride causing the problems.
I’ve been a bridesmaid I think seven times, and had a couple wedding of my own and they were all pretty awlful and not worth the trouble & expense.
Hear, hear. After witnessing this wedding from the front row, I’m going to get married in Vegas. I’m more than half serious about this-- the whole shebang seems like conspicuous consumption and a waste of time and energy. Bad feelings go all around, and it’s not really a celebration of marriage and commitment, it’s an orgy of feminine insanity.
That said, my friend is not being a bridezilla. She’s swept along with the tide and really has almost no clue how to work this thing. The machinations of her mom, her fiance’s mom and the bridal party are operating way over her head. I will still love her just as much after the wedding, but the MOH? Off the Christmas list for sure…
Would you prefer to kick your bro while I hold him, or you hold him and I punch him?
Ain’t no-one can screw your life like your own bloods, that’s for sure…
Good news for the OP: this bitch ain’t your sister 
HIJACK- Random thought that I felt I would share.
I just heard a very sad story. Picture this, Mom, Dad, 4 kids, 2 cars, suburban house, etc… As the children enter their teens, one by one, tragedy strikes. 3 daughters, 1 son. The Son dies in a car accident at the age of sixteen. He is the firstborn.
Daughter #1, gets a rare blood disease at the age of 19, just in college, dies at 20. Daughter #2 declares she is a lesbian and the father disowns her at the age of 19. Just three weeks ago, Daughter #3 dies of Cancer, she was 24 and had been battling it for years.
One by one, this family lost all of their children and both parents are still alive. I say lost all, because the one disowned child, is still disowned, even after all of this. Even as the funeral for Daughter #3 is being planned, someone in the extended family mentions to the father that Daughter #2 called and would like to come to the funeral. They also tell the father that she really wants to rekindle the relationship and become part of the family again.
Father contemplates this, one can see the wheels in his head moving. He gets up from the room, leaves and goes to his den. He emerges 2 hours later, obvious signs of tears and the sadness that overwhlemed him show on his face. The extended family member had been talking to his wife while he was gone and she really wants to see Daughter #2. Extended family member and wife greet husband as he emerges, hugs ensue, tears, a moment of enlightenment. Wife says, let’s send her a ticket to fly in immediately. Husband replies, “No, I don’t have anymore daughters and I don’t want to know her as long as she is a lesbian”.
Wife tries to talk to him more, but the issue is closed in his mind.
My husband’s father told us this story a few weeks ago when he pulled his sons aside at a family get together to tell them: He was proud of them, he loved them and he always would. To see a family torn apart like this truly moved him and his only comment on the father’s actions were, “Even after all this, he just can’t let go of his hatred. I just don’t understand that”.
This story impacted me so much because it was obvious the father truly thought about this issue when he was approached. He was truly saddened and was unable to even face others when he thought about how much he had lost . But, even after reflection, he could just not let go of a bias and prejudice that overcame devotion to his children, despite losing all his children.
I so wanted to hear about a “Lifetime Television Movie” ending to the story, but the sad reality is that this father had a heart attack 3 weeks after the funeral. He was lying in the hospital and was being readied for surgery that was necessary to save his life. Daughter #2 flew in to see him… He refused to see her. He died during surgery.
End Hijack
I hate to break it to ya - but one of the more extravagant wedding affairs I’ve gone to in the last few years had two little grooms on top of the wedding cake. 
It appears that the insanity is catching, first across cultures, and now across gender roles … you don’t need a bride to have a bridezilla, it seems. 
What can I say, I’m amused by people who announce that they’re departing the thread never to return and then post again an hour later.
Sorry for the hijack, but this is a wonderful sentiment. I would like it embroidered on a throw pillow.
Just out of curiosity, what the hell is wrong with you? Did you suffer serious head injuries in a car accident at some point? I mean, how the hell many moronic threads have you started that all sound like “OMG I LOST AT INTERNET POKER YET AGAIN WHAT A HORRIBLE COINCIDENCE BECAUSE IT’S NOT POSSIBLE IT REFLECTS ON MY PLAYING STYLE”? Jesus, you’re such a consistently worthless poster and now you’ve taken upon yourself to castigate someone for not being enough of a bitch to her friends Maid of Honor? Seriously, what in the world could you possibly be thinking?
Something just occurred to me. Maybe the best approach with the decorations would have been to tell the maid of honor that you’d be happy to let her borrow them for her son’s party, then tell her you’d pick them up in a few days or something. Sorry, but I guess the more I think about it, the more I think it’s a bit ridiculous for grown women to argue over pirate decorations.
Also, to add to what some others have said, in my experience it has not been customary for the MOH to throw the bridal shower. It’s usually done by people in the bride’s church family members (aunts, generally), or family friends. (In my case, I had one larger shower at the church which my aunts helped plan, and a smaller one with my husband’s family.) In fact, the first time I was MOH for someone, I absolutely did not realize that I was expected to plan a shower for her. I think, like many traditions, it depends on where you live.
As compared to the total number of threads I’ve started? Not that many. Considered on their own? Still really not that many, and none for quite a while.
That’s hilarious, coming from someone so nondescript that I couldn’t tell you the content of a single post or thread they’d ever made if my life depended on it.
In what freakshow universe is asking someone not to steal from you being a bitch? I suggested that she should have said “no” to the person, and then suggested that she should have taken the MOH aside away from the bride. At no time did I suggest being rude, loud, obnoxious or in any other way inappropriate with the thieving cow. How you can possibly interpret that as suggesting that the OP behave like a bitch is beyond me. Says way more about you than it does about me.
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Amusement is not the word I’d use to describe how you’ve treated me in this thread. You ate your Bitcheo’s yesterday and then came in here and dispensed with your pearls of wisdom. I’m ever so sorry I didn’t handle it the way you would have. I am not generally a shrinking violet, but I had no opportunity to get my deocrations back without making a scene. You don’t believe me? Fine. You could have done it better? Fine. You win the thread!
Jesus, are you ever whiny. The reason you don’t see me often is because - in case you haven’t noticed, and most likely you’re not astute enough to do so - there are two types of discussions on this board. There are discussions, in GQ, maybe GD, occasionally the pit, about interesting, complex topics that are frequented by intelligent people. And then there are the sort of worthless gabfests that infest the special-ed forums that you participate in. Of course you don’t know me, because I don’t have so much spare time that I feel the need to spend it having conversations like, “What is your favorite color of ink?” and “Do you like peel-n-stick envelopes or the kind you lick?” and “OH MY GOD SOMEONE WIPED THE FLOOR WITH ME AT INTERNET POKER YET AGAIN AND IT’S PURE COINCIDENCE IT’S NOT LIKE I SUCK OR ANYTHING!”
Why the hell would you know me? To put it briefly, I don’t hang out with the moron brigade. Of course I seem nondescript to you - because you don’t spend any time in discussions about anything more relevant than favorite flavors of cookies.
Oh my God. Looking through threads you’ve participated it is like a crash course in patheticness. I don’t like this brownie commercial! Which aliens from syndicated TV shows would you most like to have sex with? Shit, looking at your posting history is starting to make me feel sorry for you. How the hell much time can a person devote to yammering about nothing at all?
In what freakshow universe is throwing a tantrum on an internet message board because a total stranger didn’t run her own life to your satisfaction not the epitome of social maladjustment?
And then you threw a gigantic, screaming tantrum. That would be the part I find so puzzling.
Eh, I’ve read most of this thread but I’ve been skimmed some of the sniping, but has anyone suggested sitting the MOH down and talking about all of this. If it’s that big a deal to you then do that in person, or over the phone, calmly explain all your concerns and that you don’t think this is what the bride would want. Sorry if you’ve already done that and I missed it.
For what it’s worth I already think you’ve jumped through to many hoops, as DDG said, just leave it and let the disasters happen. As long as the wedding itself goes off relatively hitch free then no one will remember naff showers or crap parties, except perhaps with “remember that bachelorette party you through, god that was lame” and a laugh.
So don’t sweat the preliminaries, certainly don’t let it stew and cause bad feelings on the wedding. Just do what you can to make sure the wedding appears perfect from the point of view of the Bridge and Groom (there can be cake, blood and tears round the back as long as they never find out).
Excalibre? Nondescript? What the hell board are YOU reading?
Anyway, Rubystreak, count me in as one who doesn’t feel that some bitch’s jackassery compels you, the better person, to make a scene. Sure, if you had thought of a non-confrontational, witty comment at the time it would have been great, but isn’t that always the case?
Hmmm. Funny, but “pirate theme” doesn’t really bring up the thought that anyone is taking it too seriously. 
P.S. Rubystreak, you just go on and vent, girl. Let people stir the shit up all they want. It doesn’t make you any less right. Anyone can “coulda, woulda, shoulda” about anything, hindsight being 20/20, and plenty of people troll the pit looking for anything they can stomp on. And I vote for letting the MOH drop the ball and having a good laugh at her expense.
You’re funny. You’re complaining about my posting style and I’m the one who’s whiny. It’s neat how you make up definitions for words that don’t actually mean that.
Actually, I participate in GQ, CS, IMHO, MPSIMS and the Pit, with occasional forays into ATMB and Comments on Staff Reports. I don’t frequent GD because I find when I did in the past it was loaded with twats just like you, who think they’re a lot smarter than they are and get all superior about what fora they post to, as if there aren’t plenty of people who aren’t pretentious asses like you, who thinks you’re the shit because of where you choose to post, who choose to spend time outside GQ and GD. You may only be interested in deep philosophical debate or whatever, but I come to this board to have all sorts of different fun. Sometimes that’s in GQ and sometimes it’s in MPSIMS. Sometimes it’s in a discussion of what fictional character I’d like to bone (although I’ll thank you to note that I named a cartoon character, not an alien; if you’re gonna bag my shit kindly bag the right shit)
Not sure why you feel the need to denigrate me, and by extension everyone who has posting patterns similar to me, because your choice on how to spend your time here is no more valid than mine or anyone else’s. Acting like you’re somehow a better person or a more worthy Doper because you only go to certain forums doesn’t make you superior. It just makes you a jerk.
Probably the same freakshow universe where anything I’ve said in this thread can be reasonably characterized as a “screaming tantrum.”
Um, sweetie? Nobody gives a shit.
Aw, do you not like being denigrated? Does it hurt your widdle feelings? Then why do you come into other people’s threads and take a dump on them? Does the golden rule not apply to you, only to Excalibre?
You’re cute when you’re wrongheadedly self-righteous. Now get outta my thread with your irrelevancies, OK, honey?
Um, sweetie? Wasn’t talking to you.
Actually, I couldn’t care much less whether Excalibre denigrates me or not. I merely said I find it curious that he feels the need to, and that doing so smacks of phony elitism.
You’re pathetic when you…well, really, you’re just sort of pathetic.
Yeah, but you are hijacking my thread, so go talk somewhere else.
Go play some more online poker, you completely not-pathetic person, you.
Why is it that people think they are entitled to decorations? My company hosts a picnic each year at a local amusement park. A planning committee comes up with a theme, buys decorations, spends all morning decorating the picnic area, etc. And each year, despite putting up signs that read “PLEASE DO NOT TAKE THE DECORATIONS!” we still end up losing half of them to thievery.
One year my aunt, who works at the HQ for a national grocery chain got into a fight with a woman who was making off with, yes, a huge cardboard and paper mache palm tree. Who knew cardboard palm trees were so in demand? Unlike rubystreak, she got the decorations back. (Off topic: Another year she had to stop a man from wheeling out coolers full of soda pop. His argument? “Well, we COULD have sat here all day and drank them and you wouldn’t have had a problem with it! What difference does it make if I take them home to drink them?”)
Folks, thievery is thievery is thievery. If it ain’t yours, don’t assume you can take it home. Geesh.
P.S. As far as the bachelorette party, she is the MOH. She can’t help it that her home is not conveniently located. Go and have a good time. And if you don’t want a sex toy, don’t buy one.