When I’m having a shitty day, I’m going to re-read this thread, specifically post#70.
On a more serious note, I read the thread with interest as I once was in a loosely similar situation. I was rooting for the OP to get his game together as there was a point where he had a small chance of turning it around, or at least mitigating the damage. Alas…
The only chance one has in these situations is calling it off before it snowballs.
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I haven’t told anyone at work with the exception of the friend who she told. I have admitted everything to her. Funny enough, her and the friend hate each other now because of this. The friend has told me a lot about her, and from her behavior, not just regarding this situation, she is absolutely terrifying.
The girl had deleted every text from me up until the point she got caught, so there isn’t a ton of info, but there is enough.
This is unfortunately not trolling. If I told every detail, it would sound even more like it.
And to Duckster - She is 23, been with this company for 7 years, been a supervisor for 5 years, manager for 6 months, and it is my first boss gig.
Yeah, I know. This thread is like a coin-funnel: it draws your eyes even though you know everyone is going to end up down the drain.
There’s something about a an energetic struggle, by someone in total denial, against impossible odds that is both gripping and yet sad at the same time.
Well, you knocked that out of the park.
More important than this little melodrama seems to be a question of why you’ve got self-destructive tendencies or wandered into self-d habits. I would tell her to STOP discussing this with other people, and ask her to question what her unconscious motivations as to herself and you might be that she’d be blabbing about it to all and sundry.
I suggest seeking out a counselor as time allows.
Personally, having seen all manner of businesses deal with this issue, I would NOT bring it up with management unless it’s brought up. Statistically, chances are you won’t get any appreciable points for having raised the topic with someone else first. For all you know, management knows and has decided to take a “wait and see what happens” approach.
I don’t see any viable lawsuit on the crazy woman’s end, given all the evidence and witness that was friend of hers presumably willing to testify about what occurred.
OK, I’ll play along.
You have stated in this thread that two coworkers know. So, you have only admitted this to one of them? Was that verbally, or did you write it in an email or text?
The point you make about knowing she deleted the texts…you don’t know that. As well as making bad decisions with your dick, you also seem very gullible. This whole thing sounds like it is a bunch of junior high drama. Grow up.
If there is nothing written, I suggest you tell the one coworker to STFU and not to discuss or bring to up again to you or anybody else, with a tone that says he/she will be sorry if the conversations continue. Don’t tell HR or anybody else this happened, and deny if they ever approach you.
Two co-workers know. One is the girl herself, the other was her friend. I know the girl deleted them because I have seen her phone myself, before this was found out. There was nothing from me. I saw her delete my entire text thread while I was with her before as well. Since her husband found out, we have had a few text conversations and I don’t know if those were deleted. I refuse speak to her in text anymore, just phone conversations.
I have admitted it to her friend, as she already knew and the evidence she had was indisputable. I’m not worried about the friend in the slightest.
I don’t even know if this was mentioned earlier, but she told me the other day her husband wanted $1500 or he would go to corporate. I told her hell no, and her husband could contact me directly if he wanted something.
I do need to grow up, and this has certainly taught me a very important lesson.
You’re still talking to her AT ALL???
Yes you do, and no, it hasn’t.
Started working at 16, supervisor at 18…Is this Burger King?
because smart phones cant record…
all my texts sync to 2 pcs and my tablet via an app called mighty text. those texts could very well exits still even if you checked her phone.
I’m thinking he’s the one that’s been working there for 7 years, not her.
Sorry, I was answering questions and didn’t make it clear. She is 23. I’ve been with the company for 7 years, been a supervisor for 5, and manager for 6 months. I’m a bit older.
Agreed. Can’t say that I’ve ever read or heard a woman say “…And my vagina loves him” in my life.
And now blackmail. This just gets better and better. :rolleyes:
My original question was directed at you, but thanks for the additional info.
So how old are you?
herewego, I would DIRECTLY advise the husband that if what his wife conveyed is accurate, it is called blackmail and it is a criminal act. For all we know, she’s part of the nonsense (is she still living with him?) and you need to grow a spine and advise that any further contact (indirect or otherwise) will be reason to contact the police about his criminal demand. I’d also tell the “girl” to stop (ostensibly or actually) conveying messages from her husband, and not simply that “he can tell me himself if he wants something” (paraphrased).