Why do they say BROKEN hearted? It wasn’t broken, it was ripped it out of my chest (in front of our D&D group), tossed it out a car window, and stampeded by wildebeests.
Two step program to geting over it:
OBSESS over the former sweetie. Think about the good times, the bad times, what your wedding would have been like, what her funeral will be like (heh heh). Think about her until you’re sick. THEN
Transfer your obsession to someone you could not possibly get. I only made it through the breakup because of Trent Reznor and a guy named Jeff in my class, who was engaged. Fantasized your brains out about this person, but do not let them know your feelings. When you get over this person, you will be ready to face the world again. The rebound relationship (which are usually horrible) was all in your head!
Good luck, keep your chin up, and don’t drink too much.
I’ll be there
Where I’ll teach what I’ve been taught
And I’ve been taught…
Well, it does sound like she is rather immature and felt intimidated by you. Do you recognize that in her letters? Do you recall things you did that were perhaps intimidating? I think posting this where you hope she’ll see all your supporters saying, “we didn’t like her in the 1st place & you could do better,” could be considered intimidating.
I don’t really know you, but you seem to have a BIG personality. You’re fun, intelligent, & outspoken. Maybe weak people are initially innervated in your presence, but eventually burn out around you. Sounds like she was burnt out and without the strength to explain it to you clearly. Also, I got that she doesn’t think you’d listen.
I don’t say this to make you feel lousy about it, rather to add to your musings now that you ponder your next steps. Good luck.
I like to think I am not unreasonable when it comes to conversations. I like to listen as well as talk. It’s just that, all too often, she didn’t really like what I had to say.
As for posting where she would see it, I can only say that this is the LEAST likely place she would come. She only came here because it was a place that I enjoyed, and really, she hated it here nd even complained about our aborted get-together with Polycarp and a few other people in the Raleigh area.
In fact, she laid it on me that she met a guy on-line who lived in Raleigh and if it was okay if he came along. I said, sure, why not? She seemed almost upset by this, as if she wanted me to complain and be called upon it.
The fact that she didn’t like what you had to say isn’t so bad. That she was unable to deal with the disagreement, and the “on-line Raleigh guy” incident speak volumes about her maturity level.
Which just goes to show that you shouldn’t date someone with “issues”.
At least she was mature enough to recognize that you two shouldn’t be together.
Next time, go for your intellectual equal (if such a person exists ;)).
