How can you stop loving someone? He hasn’t stoped loving me, I know, but he has someone to distract him. Every little thing I love about him is the same, he hasn’t changed.
I’ll think on that, crunchy. Thank you.
I don’t want to stop talking to him, but thats the only way we can seperate ourselves more. We havent even seen each other since oct 15.
I want to talk to him face to face. But how.
How long has it been since you two have broken up? Earlier today, yesterday? My opinion is you should wait until you both have time to settle your emotions. Unless someone knows a better way besides time and distance to get perspective on a situation.
The first reaction is to want to fix things right now, ASAP. If things can be fixed, they can be fixed in a week or two as well as today. Take time out to examine your feelings, emotions, and motives.
We broke up Jan 29th, Crunchy.
Besides, theres no posibility of seeing each other until Mar. 10th. And that is only if I can convince my 'rents. They want to tag along if I go. They don’t know anything is wrong between us. I really don’t comunicate lots with them. My Dad and I… well, long story.
Relic, take the time to distance yourself from the situation just the tiniest bit. You’re already in good shape just from realizing that you still love him and that he still loves you.
Even though you can’t be together the way you were before (and I’m not saying to give up hope on this, just that this is the way it is for the time being), you can still express your love for him, even if you have to temper it with the cooler waters of friendship. Expressing your love for him is more than the grand romantic gestures, indeed one can argue that it’s the more subtle things that count.
One of the best things you can do right now is to be happy for him, even if you’re miserable for yourself. You say that he’s still not happy, even with this other girl, and my WAG is that at least part of this is because he knows how much you’re hurting. So be strong for him, let him know that you’re going to be okay. This will make him feel better for you and hopefully lead to better communications between the two of you. I’m not saying to lie to him and say that you’re all peachy keen, but just reassure him that you’ll still be there for him and that you, personally, will be fine.
Say it by phone if you think you’re up to it, or write a letter or even an email, if you’re more comfortable with that right now. Just talk things out when you can do so relatively calmly, and see where things go from there. Best of luck, relic.
I wrote him an email. I told him I can’t let this go, and be friends, unless we talk, face to face. I think we owe it to each other. How can I accept something like this, and or get closure, unless we see each other? Breaking up an engagement through the internet and phone, thats BS. I’m sorry, Sailor, but I deserve that respectfulness. And I think I deserve a promise from you. And I hope I will get that.
Look at that. A hijack, nearly mid sentence. In my own thread. I asked him to read this thread, and I know he will. Write me, Sailor, and I’ll tell you the promise. Actualy, I deserve that promise from her, too. And if she wants to be my friend, and if you want to be a friend too, you’ll make it.
bump, for visibility.
Me and her had a talk online. We were getting along and working things out and I think she misunerstood something I said and went off line. Told me to kiss off 
Honestly, we all came to an agreement, and working things out and I think we can be friends. I actualy LIKE her! She’s a wonderful person!
I want to be friends, Hon! Please!
He’s gone. He doesn’t want to speak to me. Doesn’t want to be friends. He will stoop to emailing me, but only to inform me about his dad, whom I care about as well.
He can’t even talk to me.
Awww, relic. I am so sorry to hear that things are not going so great. I hope that he comes around; many times they do.
(((((((relic)))))))
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It doesn’t sound like either of them want to be true friends. It sounds more like something they are saying to salve their own consciences, for being duplicitous.
You have lots of friends here, and will have a loving, true relationship with someone who is worthy of you. I think it could almost be considered a good thing that this happened early on in the relationship (as opposed to, say, after you were married). Now you know that you cannot trust him, and you will someday find someone whom you can.
I’m sorry to hear the news, relic. You still have an open invitation to email me if you need to bitch, moan, vent, cry, or whatever you need to do to help yourself through this. I can empathize, I’ve been there.
I spent the evening with my (gay, so don’t think anything) friend Matt. He was a real sweetheart.
Thanks for listening. I might have more to say later, but for now… I’m out.
Im sorry to have caused you so much pain but i was never trying to hurt you and leave untill you and i can be friends because for right now I dont think we can deal with each other as friends or anything i think you should listin to these people and deal with this pain at your own pace and when you are ready you and me can be friends once again but i dont think our relationship will ever be again im sorry that you belived it might on day because the truth is i love amanda now and i cant love you or anything we had and i know im the bad guy in all this so fuck anyone who wishes to say anything about how im treating you because nobody here know me or you no matter how much they say they do so rel if you wish to work this all out wake up because untill we both can see each other with out pain in both of our hearts we will never be friends
sailorboy
Well David, it’s hard not to feel pain when your fiance fucks you over and expects to be happy.
But, oh! I need to grow up! I’m sorry for trying to be a “child” and talk things out.
Leave me alone for a while. When we both calm down, we can talk.
Is it just a little weird or should this breaking up stuff be done in person sailorboy… sure you both are posting messages and all but… by the way, what gives you the username “Sailorboy”
-Mikey (fellow sailor)
But Mikey! He CAN’T see me!
:shuts up, shuts up, shuts up:
No more. Too bitter.