Are you saying that when some men bodyshame women, the men who don’t do so benefit? How so?
I’d be more worried about neuropathy than a small wanker what with that numb foot and all!
I never said I had a small wanker.
No, you didn’t.
never mind
I said average.
But who cares… Go on and take it I’m a small fry. Don’t care.
It’s an anonymous message board. We have no idea of OP’s stature and we sure as hell know even less about what’s in his pants. I realize that the OP has a legit complaint about how the world generally looks at shorter men. But nobody really knows what’s in his pants and telling people about his insecurities only works to draw people’s attention to them. Virtually everybody has experienced some sort of body image problem at one time or another. But most of those problems are things nobody else even notices. Unless you draw people’s attention to them. My advice is that the OP tries to avoid doing so. The only people who should know the size of his dick are those he’s intimate with. If they are not complaining, then don’t give anyone else a reason to think otherwise.
I don’t think he’s complaining about the size of his dick. In fact, he seems OK with it. What he’s complaining about is BODY SHAMING.
It’s like saying a black person shouldn’t discuss discrimination based on skin color because doing so is “calling attention” to the fact their skin is dark.
Regardless of the actual size of the OP’s penis, regardless of how he, personally feels about it, body-shaming men based on penis-size is wrong. And saying so is not “drawing attention” to the OP’s dick, it’s “drawing attention” to a practice that, in an ideal world, no one should be doing at all.
Do you really not get that?
I’m worried about your foot!
The only downside to having a small one is that I’d really love to get a powerful sports car, but then someone would inevitably say “So… what are you compensating for?”
And then I’d have to bring up my penis…
(and as some of us know from experience, nothing good comes of that in public…)
I’m typing this with my penis.
Hold on, I’m being thrown off the bus.
On topic: It does bug me, that for instance Trump gets mocked for having a small one. Who, aside from every 2-bit hooker in Atlantic City, knows how large it is. But it has nothing whatsoever to do with how weak and inept he is. There are so many reasons to mock Trump, don’t do it for something he can’t control.
Right. Got it. Nothing more to add.
I’m a little self conscious of my size, but I’m okay. I worry about smaller people.
At 5’3", I’m a short guy. I think being short is still mostly “safe” for body shaming. I’m not saying it’s right, just that a push back against short jokes hasn’t really occurred the way it has against fat jokes and gay jokes. If a late night host makes a joke about short people in his (and that’s a whole other problem) monologue, I don’t think there are going to be very large repercussions. 20 years ago there wouldn’t have been any for a fat joke or gay joke. That’s changed somewhat. “Fat” is still probably safe enough to not be a career ending move.
That’s why I like my electric car. I can pretend like I got it because it’s all green and save the planet, when really all I wanted was a muscle car. Except unlike say, a Hellcat, nobody is going to accuse me of compensating for something. I’m only joking a little bit; I’m too old to care if people think I’m compensating.
It is not and I am very sorry it happens to you or anyone.
Whatever gave you this idea? It’s as endemic and shameless as ever.
There seem to be two polar opposite approaches being advocated by certain parties in this thread.
One says: Men are body shamed and I know women are too and always have been. So let’s have a little less body shaming and knock it all off.
The other says: Women are body shamed and always have been and we’re not going to take it any more. So let’s have a little more body shaming and give men some shit too.
Which is the better response?
I think I see the outlines in this thread of a poster or two rising to fill the vacuum left by the late departed ZPG_Zealot.
Cite? I’m not seeing that anywhere. I’m seeing someone say, “Patriarchal men that body-shame women are the root of the problem, and until the root of it changes, you’re unlikely to see a change in the result,.”
This would be me.
And knock off age -shaming(and stereotyping, horrifying level of THAT in SDMB) as well as ableism and of course racism while we are all at it.