I hear you. I thought you were talking directly to me. My mistake.
The point of my post was that although I might have a preference for tall men, I frequently end up with short guys. The preference might affect what movie stars I fantasize about but in when it comes to real world situations it doesn’t seem to make much difference.
It does to a lot of women… Some ONLY seem to care about how tall you are.
For some, it’s a dealbreaker. And? You don’t have any dealbreakers?
I do… But I don’t list them so as not to offend people who don’t fit my particular standards for attraction.
Please, know that makes them shallow, not you. Intelligence, wit and humor are, hands down, the most attractive things about a person. Inches? Meh.
Feeling brave? What are your deal breakers?
Speaking for myself, I have dealbreakers. But they are generally for things one can control. A prospective mate’s height is no issue. Being a Trumpy or a Scientologist are dealbreakers.
If it makes you feel any better, I feel uncomfortable when someone towers over me, and I’ve only dated men within a few inches of my height. (in both directions.)
Yeah, it sucks to be a short man, or a fat woman.
It’s sort of crass to list them, but it also saves a lot of time and in-person embarrassment. Same with guys who list things like “attractive women only” or “no fatties”. It lets you know ahead of time that they’re not the kind of person you want to be around.
Or old or have a disability.
I forgot to add, I strongly recommend The Princess Who Stood On Her Own Two Feet from Stories For Free Children. It is among other things the story of a woman who learns to accept that being tall doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with her.
Or you could just just not start conversations with someone who doesn’t meet your requirements, and tell the ones that ask why that they are simply not your type… unless you’re being catfished, it’s not like you’re going into it in the dark.
Yes, I find that there are some women like you with a preference but not a requirement. There are however many in which tall is a requirement. I might not like it, but I can’t really say it is wrong. Who am I to tell somebody who they should be attracted to? People like what they like.
I’ve known other short men who seem to do well with women, and I’ve known tall men who don’t do well with women. I’ve also known tall men who do very well with women, but I don’t think I’ve known any short men who do very well with women. And by “very well,” I mean some sexist standard of never going home alone.
Thanks for the recommendation. I am always looking for books for bring to my 3 yo grand daughter. Given genetics and nurture, she is likely to be strong willed, outspoken, red-haired, left-handed and liberal. I’m looking to to raise her to be an egalitarian, self accepting and empowering of otherness.
That’s very true. But the other way to look at it is that if they’re that shallow, then wouldn’t you rather know before you waste any time? Them putting that sort of thing on their profile is like a big stamp that says “this person is a jerk; don’t waste your time”. I’m not fat, but if I ever see “no obese women” in a guy’s profile, I know they’re not for me before I invest any energy.
That’s part of the reason why I started this thread. I don’t think women know how much it hurts to see that listed all the time. So a lot of women do it. Not knowing they’re being ‘jerks’.
I also remember a wild animal who’s never seen a human (though they intentionally use the word “man”). Various animals describe a man (The giraffe for example says 'A man is like me but with a short neck.") spoiler eventually the protagonist meets a man. But the man does not know what a man looks like because he was born blind. The blind man then invites the animal to be petted and the story ends ‘He knew what a man whas. A man was some one who could love.’
As I recall, they’re all good stories. But The Princess Who Stood On Her Own Two Feet is the best.
I’m sorry if it hurts your feelings, but the fact is that there are women who don’t want to be partners with somebody shorter than themselves. There are plenty of others who don’t care. Better you know it up front.
Blah blah blah. Your post was nothing but “you did this to us, so we can do it to you.” That’s the textbook definition of toddler logic right there, and it’s so deliciously ironic that you want to attack others as “intellectually devoid.”
Maybe I’m simple, I’m for not shaming each other, and especially not for shaming people who never shamed anyone, but I guess that doesn’t fit your revanchist worldview.
Sorry, haven’t read the whole thread, but is it still safe to make fun of small penis guys that compensate with ARs and coal-rolling trucks?