Men with time to read all this...give me a little hope about this relationship, pleas

[PunditLisa]

@Ferret Herder

My WAG is that yes, he did want to break up (for whatever reason, it doesn’t matter in the end that much), and that’s why he picked the fight - but his making up with you is just a reaction to your freakout, and it won’t last.

Pstt! It didn’t last. They’re not seeing each other anymore.

[Ferret_Herder]

@PunditLisa

Pstt! It didn’t last. They’re not seeing each other anymore.

Gah, sorry, I read the thread in its entirety when it was first posted, and then blanked on the end result when posting that early this morning.

I amend my response to say that if he would get back together soon, he might be just guilty about how you reacted, and apt to bolt again.

And as others said, it is apparently over in its own time, by his schedule. Rarely do relationships end mutually, simultaneously for both partners.

[madsircool]

@astro

I think part of it is issues with the dissolution of his marriage, but more importantly it simply sounds like, despite his good characteristics, he’s the kind of guy who’s a bit of an ambivalent waffler about making discrete choices.

In a sense, from a sexual perspective you have adopted the stereotypically male role in this relationship, and for guys with a somewhat wobbly sense of their self worth as men, providers & “in control” individuals (and this not unusual for guys coming out of a divorce) this can be disconcerting. He’s the pursued “woman” and you’re the pursuing “man” in this context.

Beyond all that, I’d bet that part of the issue *is * the age difference, and he is resisting taking it further and investing in a relationship he sees (in a practical sense) as a probable dead end over the long haul, regardless of how pleasurable it is currently.

As an aside I’m 48, and dating via match.com and getting amazing, wild money sex with women my age (and some even a little bit older). The fact that you’re in my age cohort, and upfront and direct about the needs of your hot little pussy is enormously gratifying. You go girl!

Have any of these women ever been seen alive again?

[Happy_Lendervedder]

@madsircool

Have any of these women ever been seen alive again?

You bump a nine-year-old thread, with this?

[Omar_Little]

Zombies don’t have sex.

[Rigamarole]

@Happy_Lendervedder

You bump a nine-year-old thread, with this?

And it’s not even a new poster, as the vast majority of necrotizers tend to be. Quite interesting.

[Asimovian]

@Happy_Lendervedder

You bump a nine-year-old thread, with this?

Agreed.

Thread closed.