Mental and physical techniques for improving quality of sex (e.g. orgasms?)

In My Humble Opinion
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Hi SD,

In general, I’m looking to get more in touch with my own body. I have been disabled for a number of years now and I feel sexually I would benefit from learning how to deeper understand myself. But I have no idea where to start. I feel like I’ve spent a lot of time punishing my body and I want to learn how to access new parts of myself that could lead to greater sexual awareness.

I know, that whole last paragraph is like an invitation to “insert your own joke here”, but I’m trying to be serious about this.

For example, is there any truth to PC muscle training? Has anyone found success with it? What are some other methods men can use to improve orgasm quality? Is it worth as well looking into multiple orgasms? I know there are several books on the subject. What’s worked for you? I do have a lovely partner–my intimacy with her has never been an issue.

I understand very well that sex is all about what’s between the ears as opposed to what’s between your legs, nonetheless I am curious to explore both physical and mental techniques. I am wondering what fellow Dopers have found to work–secrets, per se, that not everyone would know about, but you, personally, would vouch for.

As the guy who started one of the threads about autofellatio, I will say that option is off the table.

Thanks for any help.

Dave

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I am sure each will share his own experience here. I have to be honest in saying my technique has never been the greatest so about 25 years ago I changed my strategy with great success. I make sure the woman knows how much she has turned me on. I let her build me up slowly until she has unleashed the beast so to say. I am not bragging but I have found women tend to want more of it, and I enjoy it a lot myself. If you do have great technique I guess take advantage of that.

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Fitness. Get healthy. Exercise regularly, and the whole body – including the sexy parts – function better.

And, yeah, Kegels are good.

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My husband introduced me to tantric sex. It has added entire dimensions to our lovemaking, especially when dealing with problems of dysfunction or disability.

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Correct me if Im wrong but aren’t you a virgin?

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Virgins are far from ignorant about good sexual responses!

(I have very good hand-penis coordination.)

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What? I killed it already?

I was going to add something odd and almost contradictory: orgasms (well, the male kind, anyway) can be improved by abstinence…and repetition! If you go four or five days without, then the release is better than if you’d been enjoying one a day all along. But the second orgasm in one day is better than the first. So save 'em up, and then go on a spree!