A++ **melodyharmonius.
**I have noticed in this thread and many others that your attitude is awesomesauce.
It might not be that he hates how you look, but that you simply didn’t match the picture in his mind’s eye.
For example, I had seen a photo of my co-worker’s wife. Big toothy grin that was kind of squishing her eyes closed, and round full cheeks. Very cute! But also not a good representation of what she normally looks like. So every time he talked about his wife and their adventures, I pictured this cute girl with almond-shaped eyes and round cheeks. He talked about her a LOT, so I had built up an entire memory bank of this girl, based on what I thought she looked like.
When I met her in person, I just could not reconcile the real person with the similar but different looking person I had been picturing all along. Note: she was still really HOT, but her “round cheeks” were sexy cheekbones, and her almond eyes were only almond shaped when she smiled really, really big.
For the longest while, I irrationally felt that this was no longer the same girl he’d been talking about, but was instead “Wife #2” or something, even though I knoew otherwise.
I eventually got over the disconnect, but still, the person wholly conjured in my mind didn’t totally match the person I shook hands with and I felt really weird about it for awhile.
you are too kind.
Am I the only one who can’t figure out where the photo gallery is? I did check your profile, but saw nothing there.
I don’t know about online, but apparently there have been quite a few guys who never dared approach me because they thought I was “out of their league”; this includes several guys I would have been perfectly happy to, uh, get to know better. Maybe he’s just freaking out. Have you dropped him an “are you alive”?
Brewha, it’s linked in the first sticky. Direct link to King Bobo here
King Bobo, I looked at your picture and you’re fine. The only thing I can think of is that he got cold feet about the reality of taking the next step and actually meeting someone… or he’s one of those jerks who wants only 18 - 25 year olds.
Don’t brood on this, just move on!
Judging maybe, but when it comes to who were are and are not sexually/romantically attracted to, appearance is a significant factor, and we don’t get to choose who turns us on. And it’s not just a matter of beauty: I’ve seen plenty of women who are perfectly good looking but who just don’t “do it” for me and who I can’t imagine having a relationship with. Heck, it could even be that the guy in question thought King Bobo reminded them of a hated ex, or of his mom. Even the hottest babe in the world isn’t going to be attractive to everyone.
Yum!
P.S. Where’s the sticky? This forum has sticky’s that members can post?
I think this needs repeated. George Clooney, Christian Bale, Orlando Bloom, and Hugh Jackman are all handsome men who don’t do a thing for me. One of my friends has a husband who looks like he stepped out of an issue of GQ but he’s a big ol “meh” as far as I’m concerned.
As much as it stings, I’m certain it has more to do with his tastes and what he’s looking for than how YOU look. We can’t be everyone’s cup of tea 
Well holee crap, I was thinking I’d click and get some troll picture- you’re adorable and smiling and look like you love to have fun! I’m betting it wasn’t the pic and he got cold feet (or caught) or some other reason to clam up. Maybe he just wan’t ready to move past the text only realm. Some men are funny that way- they think that cutting off communication is the right way to do things since it’s the easiest. I would send that picture x10 to anyone you are potentially dating.
I’m a nearly 40 year old female if that makes any difference in my opinion.
He’s just not that into you.
No harm, no foul. Accept it and move on.
I think a lot of it may be that no matter what somebody looks like, when you see a picture after you’ve already been talking it’s… unsettling. Better, I think, to see a picture in the beginning.
It’s only unsettling if they weren’t up to your expectations, however inaccurate your expectations may have been.
If the guy was expecting ugliness for whatever reason and then sees her as definitely not being ugly, he’d still be talking to her.
And +1 to what Diosa said.
Sometimes a second grader will come to me and say something like, “Mr. Dorkness, Latonya just told Fred that I like Meghan, and I don’t.”
I’ll ask, “Is she right?” And the kid of course says, “No!”
“So why do you care about the opinion of someone who’s so wrong?”
I guess that’d be my advice to you. It’s hard not to take it personally, because, well, they’re personals. But if this dude is the sort of jackass who would just cut off communication arbitrarily because he doesn’t like how you look, well, why do you care what some jackass thinks about how you look?
I think you need to stop guessing what he’s learned about you, and start analysing what you’ve learned about him.
The most likely explanation is that he’s now terrified to send you a picture of himself. But don’t let that stop you from walking away. Shallowness has all kinds of symptoms. whether he’s decided that he isn’t good-looking enough, or that you aren’t, he’s still made a decision and acted quite rudely based upon a photo. Not. a. keeper.
ETA: Ninja’d by Dorky, who said it much better.
King Bobo, you look absolutely fine. I also t hought “He’s acting like a butthead; don’t waste time or brainpower on him,” but then I looked at the photo closer and I believe I realize why he never contacted you again.
He doesn’t know how to pronounce Banff!
High praise indeed.
You forgot to add, “eukaryotic and bilaterally symmetrical”. 
Yes would agree with that, I didn’t have that many dates with guys I met online but I remember there was something jarring about meeting them in person for the first time, they never looked exactly like what I expected. It’s not that they weren’t as good-looking as the photo, it’s that they were different, and reality hit me that I had started a social exchange with a total stranger. I would imagine seeing someone’s photo, after talking to them for a month and having no idea with they look like, would have a similar effect. And in that case you don’t have pleasant RL interaction to help you warm up to the person.
That said, I agree it could be any number of things, and there’s no reason to think that you’re not a great catch. I think most people who’ve done online dating (if not all of them) can tell you a story about some prospect who they were super excited about but then completely disappeared. It’s hard to avoid, I found the best way to keep from getting down is to find another prospect or three to look forward to getting to know.
And MHO is that it’s better to move the photos and RL interactions up a bit in the timeline. It’s fine to be the first one to suggest meeting, photos, etc. They may not take you up on the invite right away but if they cut off communication then they already made up their mind.
That was you? :mad: You are on my list woman!
Slightly OT: could someone please direct me to this mysterious portrait gallery? I’ve searched high & low.
Thanks.
MMR