Other than using “Mom” this is how I’d handle the situation.
I’m glad I’m not the only one!
My family likes to tell a story of me,age 2, lost in the grocery store, running up the aisles and calling “Mommy! Mommy {Last Name!}” because precocious lil ole me had figured out that a lot of ladies were named “mom”.
I have no side in this debate. I usually will say “my mom” but not always. Context is everything, I guess.
I know nobody is doing it out of malice but when I hear someone use “Mom” or “Dad” the little voice in the back of my head makes me think they are claiming the title for their mother or father and insulting my Mom and Dad.
My conscience mind is smart enough to figure it out, that’s why it’s just a small annoyance, buts it’s still there.
My 6-year-old will often refer to his mother as “my Mom”, even when talking to me (and refer to me as “my Dad” to my mom). He’ll also occasionally refer to his grandparents in terms of their relationship to us, as in “your mom” or “Mom’s dad”; I’ve caught him saying “my cousin, who is your nephew”, too. He’s a very precise child.
As a side note: if you encounter someone referring to his parents as “Mother-of-Mine” and “Father-of-Mine”, run.
I think that’s my problem with it. It just seems arrogant.
Aww!
Agree with OP. Also find it annoying.
“The parental units” is far worse. Also anyone over age ten who calls said parental units Mommy or Daddy.
What if it’s “Child of mine”? If it helps I only use it when I’m about to make a comment like “Child of mine I love you but that was the most boneheaded move you’ve made in years”
Totally 100% agree with the OP
It does sound arrogant. I’m in the UK and I get really wound up when people whether you know them or not say “Mom / Mum” and "Dad"without the ‘my’ in front.
I know they are talking about their own parent but it really annoys me because it’s not my parent.
If its someone I know I will purposely act awkward and say things like “Why is my dad coming to dinner with you?” almost to get my frustration out.
The issue isn’t that there’s ambiguity as to who’s being referred to.
The issue is that it assumes a level of familiarity that the other person may be uncomfortable with, since “Mom” is not his or her mother, and they may have very well never met her before. On top of that, it’s egocentric since it eliminates the possibility of there being more than one “Mom”. Consider the following exchange:
Person A: “Mom always does that.”
Person B, who is in no way related to Person A and has never met Person A’s mother: “Yeah, Mom… err, uh, my mom does too.”
Person A has effectively disacknowledged the existence of other mothers in the world, because Person A’s mom is now The Mom, and Person B’s mom is just someone else’s mother.
That reminds me, I dated a guy who, though divorced, still referred to his ex-wife as “mom” when he spoke to his teenaged kids. As in “What time is mom picking you up?” It gave me the creeps.
OK, that I don’t understand how it’s creepy. To them she is Mom, so why would he call her anything else? Did you think he should start calling her by her first name to their children just because they got divorced? Now that would be weird if he did.
I agree. It’s not creepy if she’s their mother.
Sometimes when speaking with my sister, she will say something like “Mom is coming over for dinner”, and I assume she’s speaking of OUR mother… but then as the conversation continues it becomes evident that she is speaking of her mother-in-law, who she also calls Mom. Very confusing and annoying. In my mind, OUR mom is Mom, everybody else’s mom is something else. Why the heck she can’t just say “Judy is coming over for dinner” or “Dave’s mom…” I don’t know.
I’d say either “Mom” or “my mother”. Which one would depend on who I was talking to: a friend, “Mom”; an acquaintance, “my mother”. “My Mom” just sounds weird, maybe because I’ve never heard anybody over age 5 use its Spanish equivalent.
Yeah, the Nephew is the same age and does that too. Sometimes it’s for clarification: “… and I was with J, I mean a classmate of mine, not uncle J, and…”; sometimes he’ll spill out as many relationships as he can think of, as a game “…and uncle J who is Dad’s little brother and he’s your little brother too and Dad is your little bother too but not as little and uncle J is also Mom’s Brother-in-law and Grandma M’s son and I’m not sure what is he for Grandma B or for Uncle I will be coming for lunch too…”
We’ve been known to address Mom (or refer to her) as “Mother of mine” or “mother dearest” in similar circumstances. “The quasi-maternal unit” is reserved for sibling conversations in which the speaker is putting a lot of effort into not throttling said unit (we’ve been told there is no internet, no computer games and no Warhammer 40K tournaments in prison, and the library’s selection tends to suck).
Ha, I call my kid Child of Mine, but I’ve watched too much Doctor Who, which is what I suspect **Alessan ** was hinting at 
I agree, when speaking to non-family members, it’s “my mum” or “my dad”, not Mum and Dad.
Hence it annoys me when my brother talks to me saying “my mum this, my dad that” - we’re not THAT distant and yes, we share the same parents, brother dearest 
I registered just to comment on this this regarding people who uses only “Mom” instead of “my Mom,” to refer to their mother.
I agree with OP, and it bugs me when friends, and even strangers, say things like “Mom bought me a hat,” instead of, “My Mom bought me a hat.”
BUT have you all ever heard siblings, blood related brothers and sisters, using “my Mom” instead of “Mom?” Now that, to me, is as annoying as what was stated above.
Sister A sibling of Brother B: Who is going to drive us to the store?
Brother B sibling of Sister A: My Mom is going to drive us.
Sister A: How is she going to do that without a car?
Brother B: Uncle Joe let my Mom borrow his car.
These same idiots however don’t apply their dumb grammar to the nouns “sister” or “brother” though … they speak normally when referring to basically any other “label” than “Mom/Dad.”
Dumb-Friend A unrelated to Friend B, doesn’t tell him, “Sister is going to bring me to the store.” Friend A actually knows to say, “My sister is going to bring me to the store.”
But immediately after saying that, Dumb-Friend A wouldn’t think twice about making an idiotic statement like, “But Mom is taking me to the airport.”
I always forget to mock these dolts by saying something like, “Wait, my Mom isn’t even in town.”
But, my previous example of those who use “my Mom” when speaking to their own siblings… all I can do is :smack:
I also have a feeling these same morons spell “your” when they mean “you are.”
And nine times out of ten, since I participate in other forums, folks would spell “loose” when they mean “lose.”
And I go even further to think these dumb asses probably leave “seconds on the microwave” or “cupboards open” or “forget to turn the TV off” or “just get up and leave their plates on the table” and I go even further to think these same people were one of those kids that would just “drop all their stuff on the ground, and run off to play” …
Do you all know of kids who do this? Kids who “drop their backpack in front of a door” or “kick their shoes out in the open and throw their jackets on the floor.”
Comedian Louis CK talks about this in one of his skits, and this habit is also featured in most recent movie, the Karate Kid with Jackie Chan.
Basically these people are “arrogant” as one poster put it, they’re self-centered, but sadly, and perhaps even more-so, weren’t taught by their Parents.
I mean, Mom taught me good mann - oh, would you look at that, some dumb-ass got to me, I almost wrote “Mom taught me good manners” instead of “My Mom taught me good manners.”
(I did that on purpose to prove a point.)
Plus these same people do feel ashamed when they “forget” to use the phrase “my Mom” since they are some times embarrassed if you respond, “So I am a part of your family now?”
I’m sure the girls I say this to immediately think, “Ew, no, ah, he’s not part of my family.” Then they immediately correct themselves, “My Mom, my Mom.”
Just FYI, I’m 25, male, and would vote for making it illegal to improperly use “your” instead of “you’re.” As for this “my Mom” slash “Mom” issue … it happens less often than the aforementioned grammatical errors.
The most common I’ve seen is “your/you’re” and “loose/lose.” Like I said, nine times out of ten, on the Internet, in comments, in forums, people are making these mistake…
And yes, I would join the Grammar Nazi clan if there was one…
I never take seriously the comments of someone who refers to spelling mistakes as grammatical errors.