More Miscellaneous Morning Musings - An MMP

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Good morning everyone.

First, Jane, I also send kudos for the stuff you’re doing with your friend. Seriously, many people would only put up with something like that for a short space of time and then eventually drift away. People like you are very rare.

Second, I’m glad you’re feeling better today, shoe.

Well, my mushroom haul was very paltry. I am disappointed but have decided I’m going back out there tomorrow since it’s a holiday for me anyway. We didn’t find any mushrooms until a couple of hours in, and by then my friend was over it. I was surprised at how little she knew since she’d gone mushroom hunting before. I had to tell her to get a permit (which she did), and then she showed up without a knife. Oddly, when I was shopping for a folding knife on Friday, something told me to buy two. Good thing I did! At any rate, she didn’t spot any, and finally, I realized she just wasn’t good at seeing them. The chanterelles often sort of hide or you think it’s just another leaf when looking at the ground. At any rate, I started spotting them and kept offering to split my spot, but she wouldn’t accept that. So finally, I’d point at a spot and tell her there was a mushroom and she’d go and get it and any around it. Once I started spotting them, I wanted to keep going, but she was done and wanted to leave. I was disappointed because I was so excited about being out there to hunt mushrooms again, but it’s not like I could make her stay, lol, even if I was the one driving!

It was very nice seeing my friend again, and we’ve decided we’d like to start seeing each other more. Honestly, I kind of think she was using this as an opening to see if I would be amenable to socializing with her again. She was part of the gang of folks my husband and hung out with for many years. We got together almost every weekend. But, things sort of went south with a couple of the folks, and one of the other people was always just wasted (totally drunk AND high), and that stuff just got really, really, old. The drunk was obnoxiously loud and actually got us kicked out of a restaurant on Kauai. I was so angry and embarrassed. I forgave her, but by the time we all “broke up”, I had started finding excuses to not hang out with them. Two of the folks were divorcing, and the female half of that couple, just said things that pissed me off no end. It was like she was trying to be shocking all the time and her favorite subject seemed to be naughty things. I’m all for a little joking, but she was nosing into our sex lives and I was just over it. Finally, she said things to my husband via text that just sent me over the edge and it was during a time when he and I were not in a very good place. I was seriously considering divorce because of how he was treating me. I accused her of some things (and I still believe they are true) and two months later, we were no longer hanging out. I felt totally betrayed because she knew my husband and I were in a really bad place. She completely denied even saying those things and when I showed her the texts, she didn’t even apologize. She just shrugged her shoulders. I was DONE and had to concede that many of the things her ex-husband said about her to me in private had been true.

The remaining member of the group, was the only one I didn’t feel betrayed by, but she and the woman who liked to be shocking had been (and are still) friends for years, so I was sort of the odd woman out. This friend was also tired of the drunk’s shenanigans and also stopped hanging out with her.

Shocking woman has remarried and is supposedly very happy. I have no desire to see her again and she probably feels the same about me. I noted yesterday that my friend was guarded in her replies to me about her, so I left it alone. She shared some things, but I know she is loyal to her friend and that’s fine. I was trying to be polite by asking how she was doing because I know they’re still friends.

It all seems to so stupid and high school, but if you knew what the ex-friend said to my husband, I think you all would have been done too.

In a couple of weeks, I’ll reach out to G to see if she wants to do something. I know she wants to see my husband too, but I don’t think he’s interested. Another set of friends asked about this group once, and he frankly stated there was too much drama at the end and he didn’t want that. Ironically, this was the group of friends that never had any drama for most of the friendship. If someone said or did something that was not liked, it was addressed immediately and everyone moved on.

Ugh, that was a lot of silly stuff, wasn’t it?

I’ll spend my day attending to weekend chores, and that’s about it

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Last night was a blast! It was great to see my friends, and the music was amazing. I’ve known the singer since she was in high school – about 12 years now – and she is just ridiculously talented at both singing and composing. I split a turkey club sandwich with one of my friends, which left room for sweet potato tots (yum) and some cake for dessert. :smiley:

My dad and brother are coming down from MD (near Baltimore) in a little while: Dad’s birthday is three weeks after mine (his is 10/12), so we’re having a dual celebration lunch at Olive Garden (more yum!). Normally, I go to them; they haven’t been to my place since before the pandemic. But since the lunch idea started as being for my birthday, I figure they can come here for a change. :slight_smile: They’re scheduled to get here at 1:30, but my dad tends to run a little early and it’s already 12:15 so I should probably go get showered and dressed.

Heh! I’m only 50, but I sometimes feel that way when I come across pictures of high school classmates. :slight_smile:

“Whew,” indeed!!

I started taking iron supplements a few weeks ago, at my doctor’s direction, due to some mild anemia. I was hoping for an energy boost, but haven’t noticed a difference so far. They’re just OTC, though, so maybe the dose will help my iron levels but isn’t enough for me to feel any different. Or maybe they have been helping my energy and I would have been feeling even slothier!

Here’s one more! {{{{shoe}}}}

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Thank you. I had no words for these weird muddled mixed-up emotions.

I DON’T WANT TO FEEL THESE THINGS.

ETA: taters that’s a shit-load of drama. I’d run far away, but I know how things get, once you’re entangled with ppl and their b.s.

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@purplehorseshoe
Tuck these away for later. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{ :blue_heart::green_heart::purple_heart:}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

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Thank you. They are stored in my heart.

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Home again, exhausted. But FCD instructed SIL how to install the various and sundry bits, and before he had to leave for work, SIL installed a bunch of shelves and Daughter had started loading them up.

We got the crib mostly assembled, but some hardware was missing - there may or may not be a bag left in the attic - I’ll have a peek later. But it’s nothing that can’t be resolved by a couple of engineers. Since sliding sides of cribs are no longer considered safe, we’ll get some lag screws and attach the sliding side at its highest setting and leave it there. It won’t be the prettiest, what with the screw heads visible, but it’ll be safe, and it’ll work for the next 2 years or so.

Roxy insists her brother will sleep in her bed with her and the crib is for “the baby” - I think she’s a tad confused. :rofl: I was surprised how much space the crib took - suddenly, Roxy’s room is very crowded. They’ll figure it out eventually.

I think it’s about time to assume the knit position. I’m tired and achy and I just want to chill.

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Sending more virtual hugs your way shoe. Our hearts don’t always know what’s best for us.

I did four years in the Air Force, Hubs was an 18 year Marine. How about you?

Good news on the Roxie front and I’m glad she’s feeling better.

Our friend said the chicken salad was “OK” and that he’d eat it again, so I think tomorrow I’m going to go and pay for a week of lunch deliveries and see how it goes. We don’t have meals on wheels out here, these hot lunches are provided by church ladies and cost 7 bucks a day which includes delivery. Fingers crossed that it works out, knowing that he’s getting at least one hot meal a day would be pretty helpful.

Hubs cooked up a batch of beer this morning. Part of the process involves putting the covered pot in the sink and filling the sink with ice and water to cool the beer down as fast as possible. He turned his back for a few minutes and when he looked again George was on the counter BAD CAT!!! playing with the ice cubes.

George has turned into a real jerk around water, we can’t keep him out of it. He has a heavy porcelain kitty fountain that he can’t dump yet, but when we put a bowl of water down so the fountain can go through the dishwasher, the bowl gets dumped and water gets tracked all over the house. We have to keep the toilet lids down and he has to be locked out when the bathtub is filling so he doesn’t go for a swim. I know that he can swim because he’s paddled around in the bathtub before. Little jerk!

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11-ish years in the Navy (spousal unit did just under 4 in the Navy before getting a medical discharge.) Then I worked for the Navy as an engineer for 26 years, plus several post-retirement jobs with contractors supporting the Navy - see a pattern there? :wink:

Man, Taz can be a pain in the butt, but next to your George, he’s a saint!

I need to get the bins of diapers that I brought home from my daughter’s last week, run then thru the wash, and send them back, now that she’s got space to store them all. She sent me a couple of pics - the closet is coming together nicely. But they really need a bigger house. Some day…

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Wow, FCM, you sure do have much more tolerance for bullshit than me! Local government work has its own levels of foolishness, federal jobs are worse but the levels of unnecessary bureaucracy involving the military is a very different level of specialness.

I’ve been noticing that the toilet in my bathroom has sounded different when flushed recently, but put that down to it sounding different because the lid was down. This morning it backed up and when I was plunging it, icky stuff came up into the bathtub. We’ve got it unblocked, but Hubs wants to have the septic tank pumped. I’m not convinced its time, but I guess I’d rather pay to have it done now instead of having it fully back up at the start of a long weekend. I’m kinda grossed out that I can’t wash the towels I used cleaning up the mess, but I’ve got them hanging out on the porch so they aren’t stinking up the house.

This is going to be very upsetting for the cats. Tomorrow is George’s big day, so the food will be picked up at 8pm and they won’t get breakfast at 6:30. George will get stuffed into a carrier at 7:30 and taken away, then I will give VBC and VGC their breakfast. At some point during the day, a big stinky truck will pull into their back yard and strangers will talk and do things in their yard. Then George will come home smelling funny and wearing a cone of shame.

It’s going to be a very long and hard day for them, I’ll try to remember to get them a can of junk food for their dinner.

Housing prices have skyrocketed out this way, a friend’s daughter spent almost a year looking for a home with a yard and ended up buying a small fixer-upper in a not great neighborhood for a whole lot of money because that was the best she could do.

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But when you’re a working drone with zero desire for supervisory or management positions, you can ignore much of the BS and do your job. The reason I left active duty was that I’d made the jump from enlisted to officer, then discovered the politics and assorted crap saturating the officer corps. So when I’d fulfilled my contractual obligation, I returned to the civilian world.

Once I started working as an engineer, it was easy to just do my job and roll with the rest. I finally decided to retire when I was facing the 7th reorganization in 10 years - enough was enough.

We didn’t have that done for the first 8 years we lived here, and I have no idea when, if ever, the previous owners had it done. But when the guy found and opened the septic tank, it was pretty well packed. ugh. We’ve had it done every 3 years since then, plus I flush enzymes monthly. So far, so good.

FCD gave up on napping - he’s watching a show on the discovery of neutrinos. I guess he got bored with football. :wink: He doesn’t want supper. We’ll graze or whatever. I want pizza, but I don’t want to go fetch it, so no pizza for me. Not sure what I’ll eat but I’ll find something.

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Howdy Y’all! We deheathenated. I Verged without major incident. The plaque for my friend Tom’s columbarium spot came in the mail at church Firday, so I got that put on his spot since I was there and all. In case I haven’t mentioned it before, ploppin’ folks in their columbarium spots and dealin’ with the little plaques is a church janitor Junior Warden responsibility. A blank plate is secured over the cremains of the dearly departed until the acutal plaque arrives. We can’t just leave it open. That would be tacky.

We have fed and the biiiiiiiiiiig trash can has been hauled all the way down to the road for pickup tomorrow. Even though tomorrow is a fed holiday, it’s not a trash folks holiday.

That’s all folks!

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metal mouse, although the fit itself is excellent, it’s the support that is making the difference in how my weight bearing joints feel.

taters, I was never one of those folks who was a natural at finding mushrooms. Occasionally, dumb luck would allow me to spot one, but not on a regular basis. My Uncle Charles, however… :slight_smile:

I got a few administrative things done in the studio this afternoon now that my printer is properly set up. Then I built a righteous beast loaf (baked sweet potatoes and sauteed summer squish on the side) for supper. I usually use half ground chuck and half ground pork, but Italian sausage was on sale for $3.39 / lb this week, so I used that. I had a whole mess of mini bell peppers and a handful of mushrooms that needed used, so they went in with the onion and I seasoned it with sweet basil, garlic and oregano. It got topped with some shredded parm and mozzarella. I’s stuffeded! :slight_smile:

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I slightly lowered the doses of antihistamines yesterday, and I started paying for it last night. It takes so long to rein in the itching once it breaks loose. But this is a minor issue. It’s a lovely, sunny day, and one of my kids has already called, so I’m happy.

shoe, in my experience, a loss comes with the echos of previous losses. I hope you’re being gentle with yourself. Add me to the dogpile: {{{{{{shoe}}}}}}

FCM, yay on Roxy’s COVID-free status and imminent return to school!

I SO thought that sentence was going to end with George sipping a brewski. I wouldn’t want him to break training before the Feline Swim Olympics.

Oopsie, hope you had a great and yummy time at OG.

Taters, sounds like a very painful betrayal. What a horrible thing to do to you. It’s nice that you were able to see the one group member you still trust.

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Shoe sometimes life is hard. I admire your strength and determination moving ahead. You’re doing great. {{{hugs}}}

I sympathize, believe me. A (formerly) good friend of mine asked my husband to donate sperm to help her get pregnant. She went on to specify that she didn’t want to use artificial insemination.

What a great resource you’ve found! I hope it works out.

Hubby is watching videos on taxes. I’m hoping we can switch to something else soon…

swampie I’m glad your friend’s slot is all set up. It sounds like one of your more important duties.

Speaking of churches, my dad was just “volunteered” into being the head of the board of directors for his church. This is just in time for a lawsuit against the church by people who had bad experiences with the boy scouts. I won’t learn any more, I’m sure. Oddly, I’m glad he’s keeping busy. He’s 81, and still as sharp as he ever was, but I think having something to do helps anyone stay sharp and interested in life. Of course, he also has season tickets to Stanford Women’s Volleyball and Basketball. Let me know if you ever need a play-by-play on a game, or a detailed biography on a player or coach. :wink:

I was hoping to do some work on the house today, but I’m not feeling so great. There’s a big pressure swing today and that usually takes me out. Not sure what to do for dinner tonight, which probably means that we’ll order Outback. 'Beamer loves it and we take turns picking.

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Lunch was very yummy — but Dad and bro didn’t arrive until more like 2pm, so it was ~2:30 before we ate. Pasta, a few breadsticks, and a slice of cake were quite satisfying. I didn’t expect to be up for eating much of a dinner, but now it’s 7pm and I’m actually hungry.

Mmm, Outback! That inspired me, but it turns out there are no Outbacks nearby that deliver (I am way too lazy to go pick it up). I’m not sure how I got from Outback to P.F. Chang’s, but some kung pao chicken will be here within the hour. :slight_smile:

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I was all set to start talking about the progress I’m making on my house, then realized that you probably are referring to the home you live in. I hope you start feeling better shortly!

I really do hope it works. Our friend of course won’t let anyone in his house, but I can request that the driver call so friend has time to go outside and meet the car or that they just leave the food in a designated place. Church lady food usually isn’t great food, but it is familiar food and plentiful. They also do a hot breakfast, but I won’t sign him up for them until I know the lunches are working out.

The last owners were required to have the septic tank pumped and inspected during the sale four years ago. That’s a law or something out here. I’m only doubtful because the tank is rated for a family of 5 and all of our water using appliances are the good for the environment sort.

We are going to friend’s place for dinner tonight, the husband is a plumber and I have already told Hubs that we will NOT be talking full septic tanks over dinner. Once reminded that we all would be hearing about icky septic disasters, he agreed that sewage discussions should be saved for dessert.

Constant itching isn’t minor. I’d be a raving lunatic by now, I sure hope you get some relief soon.

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But that’s how it worked in The Big Chill. :wink: I like that movie - it was the first date for me and FCD - but that plot element when Glenn Close asked Kevin Kline to sleep with their friend who wanted a baby… :roll_eyes: I can’t believe your former friend thought it was a good idea!

Things are winding up here. FCD has therapy at 7 tomorrow morning, and I’ll get up with him and launder the diapers and liners. Once they’re dry, I’ll pack 'em all in a bag to take over there next time I go. I may bake 'nanner bread to take to FL - if I can make enough space in the freezer. We head south 2 weeks from Tuesday. rah.

But for now, continued chillage.

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:rofl:

Oh, I’m quite sure the baby wasn’t the point at all. :grimacing:

Still watching tax videos. Send help.

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Cleaned, watched handegg, Took a nap. Got pig and sweet N.O.T.s in the oven.

:face_with_raised_eyebrow:
But after that Packers/Bengals game, I need something less stressful to occupy my Sundays. Like bomb disposal. :bomb:

[quote=“Taters, post:261, topic:951848”]
Ugh, that was a lot of silly stuff, wasn’t it?
[/quote]Dunno. Sounds like you cut the superfluous drama out of your life, about from mushroom friend.

Good idea. When I lived in Durham, the septic tank gave no end of problems.

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Evening all. Spent the afternoon watching tackleball (Direct TV has given us access to all the NFL games for free, along with a ‘as it happens’ show that focuses in on the good bits (Red Zone)). Also solved puzzles, did laundry, and ate a big bowl of sallit. This evening I went out and ate at Wahlburgers and then walked around the new Trader Joe’s they just opened in Huntsville. Nothing I particularly wanted there, but it is an interesting place to browse. Inside now and need to put my washing away, I’ll do that in a little bit.

Not to you, Taters; and we’re humbled you trust us with it. Glad you made amends with the one person you could (not counting husband-unit).

Oopsie, glad you had a good weekend, glad dinner with Dad and brother was nice.

Unknown, good luck with the cats tomorrow. Maybe this will make George a little less of a jerk.

Sunny, regarding former good friend: :astonished:

OK, time for folding and storing. All y’all have a good night and I’ll catch you on the next MMP.