Just tell them that it’s the 20th century now.
Having gone through a variety of weddings, including my own a long time ago and my daughter’s more recently, I think there are only a few unbreakable rules for weddings:
(1) The couple has to get married;
(2) Everyone invited should have fun.
Pretty well everything else is optional, as long as you obey rule (2).
Yeah, my in-laws still don’t think we’re “really” married because my dress was ivory instead of white-white. Weddings just bring out the crazy.
Your guests will find it interesting and talk about it for a while, and then everyone will forget. Most people have an idea in their heads of what a wedding should look like, and “woman in poofy white dress” is usually part of that picture. But there’s no reason to buy and wear something you hate, and makes you look like a person you don’t want to be.
Be prepared for lots of “she’s wearing the pants already!” unhumor.
WTF? I’ve been to places where it wasn’t certain that participants would be wearing clothes, let alone wearing the proper shade of white. Weddings are defined by the newlyweds celebrating their union in front of witnesses assembled, not by some fashion tyrant stuck in the eighteenth century.
I think a nice bridal pantsuit is just fine. My one regret about my wedding is that I didn’t really like my wedding dress; if I had it to do over, I’d find something that suited me better.
I’ve heard somewhere (maybe it was on the Dope) that cake smashing is directly related to how the actual marriage goes - violent cake-smashing seems to end in divorce. The only one who got cake smashed in their face was my husband, done by his best man. I’m not sure what that means. 
(According to the Catholic church, my husband isn’t married, either. They don’t care about a heathen like me.)
And once they get used to the bride wearing pants, then we spring the 21st century on them when naked weddings are the norm. 
Yes, totally agree with “comfortable”+“fits the formality of the wedding”. IMHO decisions are only bad form when they are inconsiderate of the guests and (if applicable) church and event staff. The fun comes in when we bicker over what exactly is or is not inconsiderate, but a pants outfit that would otherwise be appropriate for a formal event sounds universally harmless to me.
I like the idea of the 2nd outfit you posted, the black one that would be in white(ish).
It’s her wedding she should wear what she’s comfortable in. #3 on that page is very pretty. #1 looks like she’s about to attend a business meeting (and I can’t picture anyone under 50 wearing that, either). #2 is ok, but IMO that jacket doesn’t go with the pants well.
Well… is your husband married to his best man today?
I think that answers the question.
God, I’m showing my age – my dementia means that I no longer know which century I’m in.:smack:
I bet there is a Bromance still going on.
I always hated the cake smashing and the garter belt crap. Didn’t do either at our wedding, and it put a bee in alot of old people’s noses.
I thought it was intentional, as in, they’ll still be that far behind the times.
People will talk about what the bride wears, no matter what it is. She might as well wear something she likes, and she’ll actually look more like the happy bride she is if she wears something that’s in character for her.
Ugh. I loathe the garter and the very idea of the cake-smashing, though I’m glad to say that I’ve never seen cake-smashing in person. I thought the cake-smashing was a relatively-new thing, though.
Another loathsome thing is the mass clanking of spoons against glasses to signal the Happy Newlyweds to kiss. :: shudder ::
I thought one has a year to get the wedding gift to the couple. Is that true–I can’t attend a shower without a gift? Can it be a small gift, with the Wedding Gift to be delivered within the year?
If it were me, I’d be tempted to mess with their heads. Your bride should wear any of the lovely suits you linked to and you should wear a dress. Ok, maybe too burlesque or vaudeville for you, but it would take all commentary off her…
What is wrong with a nice white suit for a wedding? Let her wear whatever she wants that meets the formality of the occasion.
Ivory means living in sin, eh? Who knew? Gosh, I’m glad I wore white! The white/ivory/cream dress tradition started in the Victorian era, so while it’s been with us for quite some time, it’s not like it came down to us from thousands of years ago.
It’s my understanding that registry cards are ok in a shower invite, but a no-no in a wedding or reception invite. I also heartily dislike the cake-face stuff, the money dance, the garter nonsense and the wishing well. We didn’t have any of that and I hope my kids don’t. Actually, I hope my kids show some sense and have simple, quiet weddings that don’t break our bank or bankrupt their starts in life.
Oh.
gigi. Yes, you do have up to one year for a wedding gift (a dispensation I’ve only used once). According to Miss Manners (whom I tend to see the sense of), you must bring a gift to a shower. That’s the PURPOSE of the “shower” as someone else noted upthread. Now, that gift can be a note promising a future gift (I suppose), but that gift should then be something like a quilt you made yourself or that rocking chair you made in your woodworking shop in the garage etc. IOW, something you can’t run to the mall and get…
That’s my traditional gift for someone close to me. I guess I could bring fabric swatches to the shower. 
I want you as a friend. I admire and respect the skill and time it takes to do such things. Someday I’m going to take a quilting class and then make one for each of my kids.
I learned how to knit (ok, one stitch) last year. I’m getting there!
Heh. I learned to knit (literally, knit) many years ago from Mom. A couple of years ago a friend taught me to purl and whole worlds were opened up. Unfortunately those worlds were misshapen and mangled-looking so I will stick to the clean geometry of quilting!
Hey, I only knit one stitch and crochet one stitch, and my scarves kick ass! Don’t let anybody tell one stitch isn’t enough! 
That would be a really short scarf…