She has been my friend for about 17 years. I really didn’t like her very much when we first met and she didn’t like me much either. As we got to know each other better, we became better friends.
I drove her to and from work when we were teenagers, she kept me away from drugs and I babysat her when she did them, we helped each other through bad break-ups and when we each got married, we were each others maid of honor.
After I had my first child, things stayed the same between us. She didn’t have children at the time and I had to move about 100 miles away from her. But, we still taked on the phone 2-3 times a week and she and her husband would come up for the weekend. After some time she became pregnant, when she thought she was miscarrying she called me and I stayed on hold while she called the doctor.
Two years later she did have a child, but at the same time, I had a stillborn. Then things got really weird. I told her that I would help her with her baby as much as possible (advice and such) and she got very paranoid and said " What do you mean ? You lost your baby." What the hell was that about ? I did have two other kids.
Fast forward to now, she will never come up to visit me anymore. We only talk on the phone once every two weeks and when I come to visit her, she always has to cut the visit short for some reason. We are no longer invited to her kids birthday parties or BBQs.
I almost feel like she’s embarrased to admit she knows me, since she won’t let me associate with her new friends or family anymore.
I guess that over time these things tend to happen, but it still makes me sad. 
That is sad, dragongirl. People’s lives just diverge from time to time.
I would confront her in a loving way about this, either on the phone, via email or written letter, which ever one makes you more comfortable. If the friendship is dying anyway, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Haj
People come, people go unfortunatly. Such is life. My best friend since middle school seem to be drifting away recently. Im going through the college thing, hes not. Seems like there’s a million things always buzzing around my mind, his mind seems to have atrophied. It sucks we had tons of great times together, if we do drift apart compleltly, Im not sure Ill find another person that is as good a friend as he is.
My best friend since middle school (±15 yrs) is pretty much killing our relationship over a few ($150) dollars.
I loaned her the money a few weeks ago (taking money from my bills to pay help her pay her rent) and she hasn’t paid me back yet.
But I’m not really upset about that - I understand that sometimes you just can’t pay someone back when you intended to initially and that’s ok. Plus I know that you really shouldn’t loan money unless you can afford to give it away.
What’s hurting me is the fact that she lied to me when I called and asked her if she had it - she told me to meet her someplace and then never showed up - and then proceeded to move* to NJ without calling me or sending me an email or anything.
Of course it occurred to me that maybe something had come up and she wasn’t able to make it - but this is the very first time that if something like that were to happen she wouldn’t have called and apologized by now. She hasn’t made any attempt to contact me at all.
Her fiancee lives in NJ and I knew she was moving soon but it wasn’t supposed to be until the following weekend because her last day at work wasn’t supposed to be until the 26th. So imagine my surprise when I call her aunt’s house looking for her - not to ask about the money but to see if we could get together before she left - and she’d been gone for a few days already.
If I knew her fiancee’s phone number or mailing address I would call her and tell her how I feel but I don’t. Her family didn’t have the number when I called the last time and I’m reluctant to call them again because I feel that if she really wanted for me to be able to contact her she’d make that information available to me herself. We’ve moved away from each other plenty of times before this and have never failed to maintain contact.
I thought our friendship meant more to her than this. I’m very hurt that she couldn’t/wouldn’t just tell me she didn’t have the money (and it isn’t as if I’ve been hounding her for it - whenever I called I always made sure to discuss other things instead of focusing on that because even though I really did need for her to pay me back on time - I wasn’t willing to risk our friendship).
Ugh.
That’s too bad, dragongirl. I lost my best friend a few years ago. We’d been like brothers from the fourth grade all the way into our twenties. It’s always sad to lose somebody you’re close to. I’m sorry to hear about you and your friend.
Sometimes losing your best friend is a good thing.
People change. Who she was 17 years ago apparently isn’t who she is now.
What kind of “best friend” would throw it in your face that you had a stillborn baby?
sounds to me like she has been watching too many movies
on lifetime!!!
Tell her that you dont plan to run away with her baby
anytime soon and then smile.
Some people need enemas at certain times in life.