People left behind always wonder how the person could do it. I think a little reflection on that is revealing. If you cannot fathom how they could do such a thing, then its very likely by definition you really cannot understand their suffering. They were in a bad place. A very bad place. A place you probably cannot understand. Its okay to have all sorts of emotions about the suicide. But, for most of them, understanding them is by definition impossible for the folks that are left behind. IMO dwelling on the trying to understand it part is a wasted effort and besides the point.
I’m so sorry. My prayers are with you and your family.
Amen. Well said. Whichever way is best for you to process this, you will find it. Any and all feelings are acceptable. I was able to see how painful life was for her, so I like to think she is pain-free now. If that’s just gooblygook to alleve any guilt I might have, then so be it.
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss.
So terribly sorry for your loss. It’s not an easy road ahead for you or your family, but there are people here who can empathize with you. I lost someone to suicide too and it still hurts and I’m still mad with him about it 13 years later. Try not to feel guilty about feeling angry or any of the other emotions you are experiencing. Take care of yourself. {{{hugs}}}
A little late here, but I also wanted to add my sympathies as a survivor of a brother’s suicide. It was 21 years ago in March. I’m so sorry for what you are going through.
If your nephew is in treatment for a mental health or substance abuse issue, his mother may want to contact his counselor and let him/her know this has happened and when she intends to be there.
“When your brother dies, your childhood fades, there being one less person to remember it with, and you are left disinherited, unarmed, semi-literate, an exile.” - Garrison Keillor