Yay for you standing up for yourself!
He owns 1/2. Anything more than that, in her mind, is delusional entitlement.
Rub your junk on everything while you are there!
There’s a difference between taking the high road and being a doormat. Glad you decided to quit doing the latter.
Good luck to you. Looks like you’re going to need it.
Well done Cell Guy It’s just chance that she’s away at this moment, but it’s meant a nice calm step for you to get back into the house, and you can relax knowing she’s away for a while. Gather your strength for the impending wrath. Who does this bloody woman think she is?
You’ve been out of the house for ten months you say? She should take the next ten out then.
I simply cannot smile large enough at Cell Guy’s post. Good for you. Enjoy it, but don’t dawdle. Don’t let her sneak in and kill you while you’re sleeping in YOUR bed.
Make sure that you get EVERYTHING that is yours out of there, no matter how small.
My sugestion is take pictures before you leave–just in case something happens. You might want evidence in case something happens between your leaveing and any sale in the future, you know what I’m saying…
Also wanted to pat Cell Guy on the back.
Second this. Get out your digital camera and take 10 minutes, it might save loads of trouble.
Wow, this has been going on 9 months? I am glad that you are fighting back, it is the right thing to do.
I’d also do a few walk-through videos. Walk around the property and note the condition of everything.
Good luck. 
Good for you, finally standing up for yourself.
I’m curious about how much security taking pictures and video would provide. Even with a time+date stamp, there would be no proof that he didn’t cause damage after taking the pictures. A smart, destructive person could easily do so.
What else can/should he do to help protect himself, ideally? Lawyer or police walk through before leaving, assuming he leaves? Other witnesses? Any ideas? Or would this likely be enough?
I think it would be neat to befoul the toilets and sinks and anything else that is obvious, and then painstakingly and perfectly clean precisely half of them. A nice day/night filth line would be hilarious.
But then again, I wouldn’t be dealing with any repercussions.
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That’s what I was aiming for - I know the house is technically half his, but his ex has proven that he’s not dealing with a normal person.
Very good idea.
How long were you married?
If nothing else, if she decides to sell the piano, big-screen TV, and the china hutch to finance her rendezvous, he’ll have it on record that they used to be there.
Good for you, Cell Guy! Maybe your reclaiming of your house will get her to stop stalling and start negotiating.
Good for ya Cell! i bet it felt GOOD too.
Your ex sounds psycho (she dumped you for a guy online, is deeply entitled but sounds like she is stringing you along in case the guy online doesn’t pan out) and at first it sounded like you couldn’t/wouldn’t stand up for yourself and fight back. I wouldn’t get deeply involved with anyone else until you work on yourself and figure out more healthy ways to have boundaries and a willingness to defend yourself.
Anyway, hope everything works out.
Similar scenarios have happened to almost every dirvorced man I have met, including my father, and currently my step brother. The courts aren’t fair between the genders, so you are wise to get aggressive.
Push this divorce through, maintain the moral high ground (for your benefit), spend time with your buddies, and keep dating. There are great women out there!
Good on you for reclaiming your house, I must admit if it were me I’d have changed the locks and left her out in the cold for a dose of her own medicine. However, that’s just me feeling petty and spiteful.
If I were you, I’d not only take photos of the state of the house and the contents, I’d also remove anything of yours that you place any value on and store that elsewhere. She is bound to be more than hacked off when she comes back from her little trip, and it wouldn’t surprise me at all if you came home to find she’d taken out her anger on your possessions.