She’s not dead yet.
My no good siblings were a beyond unhelpful when my dad was sick and dying. I had a lot of anger for them when they questioned the way I took care of my dad, but wouldn’t actually do anything to help him themselves. And as the decent sibling, you’re trapped - you can’t throw your hands up and walk away because nobody else will step in. If my siblings had the gall to accuse me of misappropriating money after letting me do all the work I would’ve lost it.
I wish he’d just come live with me… I’ve got to go… Thanks All!
As close as your family may be, you should stay out of this one. This is a problem between siblings and you’re not one of them. They’re all wrong if they’ve involved you in any way.
I can’t believe ex-husbands are still expected to support former wives. Child support - most definitely. Alimony?? No way.
Your hands are tied because you’re busy fussing about the wrong things!
Stop worrying about minor family squables and how uncomfortable they make you feel – get off your behind and get you father into treatment before he drinks himself to death! He is your father, getting him help when he needs it should be your first priority. Do it!
Even if she left the workforce to run the house by mutual agreement?
Yes. If there are children involved, she’d get child support. Or does she expect to remain out of the workforce forever, based on a decision which was made when there were dependent children involved?
You don’t have to be dead to have your financials audited by a professional. Especially if fraud or elder abuse are suspected.
You have to be dead to have an estate.
First you say your grandmother has mentioned things about money to your father. But then you say your grandmother is “too far gone to know what’s what”." So it doesn’t sound like she’s a very reliable source.
Maybe it’s just me, but given the subsequent postings, I feel like the OP knows that her father is having issues, but instead of addressing them, she’s projecting the guilt / blame onto the Aunt and other family members.
Not forever, but how realistic is it for someone who has been out of the workforce for a decade or more to get a decent paying job?
She sacrificed her career while he advanced his. I think it is only fair for him to support her while she gets retrained in order to reenter the workforce.
(Of course genders can be reversed and the same applies)
I believe it’s usual for the court to award spousal-support for a limited amount of time or until the recipient of support gets remarried.
Nuh uh, don’t neither!