Ok, I’ll admit it. I was the Phreak you were scared of in high school. Y’know, the nice guy who always looked out for everyone else. The one who had no fashion sense and no athletic ability. The total square, daddy-o. The one who had a small group of tight friends who knew him for his innner self.
Four years later that guy is reforming. The haircut is passable. The clothes are generic office casual. He is now in his mid twenties. Working 5-6 days a week at a well-to-do middle class job. The job is unfulfulling socially. He wants to branch out. He NEEDS to date. (Not that he ever did in the past but now he knows how much he longs for more than a generic friend in his life.) He didn’t make many friends in college, and most of his friends are married. He doesn’t drink (waaay too strict alcohol penalties in this state). So, what advice do you have for my friend Cletus?
PS, he is uncomfortable with large social situations at times, like S.A.D. but just his mental outlook from being sh#t on so much in life. How does he make the first move? It seems he can make friends with anyone he choses but he can’t seem to make the next step. (He is probably more mature for his age as his elders compliment him on the type of person he is-though as a early-mid twenties guy he wants to go out and “party” with the fresh 20 year olds from college. He never partied much in his life-parents kinda made him an old maid before his time)