Lol. Well that’s impossible at least. 
Sorry, friend. It’s over. Give it enough time and you won’t worry your life no more.
Just went through a breakup myself. I would advise you use this time to upgrade yourself. Hit the gym for sure and work on your career. Spend a little money on clothes and add to your soundtrack for your gym sessions and piece of mind. Practice socializing with people in general, not just women. You will be more attractive to the opposite sex if you work on yourself and not just because your looking better because of your workouts.
Make sure to take it day by day, something which I’ve never done or fully understood until recently. Try to remember the person you were before the breakup, remember your last breakups and how they sucked and realize billions of hearts have been broken before. That will give you perspective. Remenber your gonna get to date and sleep with a greater variety of women now. That will give you something to look forward too.
Aw crud. The way you talked about her church at first set off alarm bells for me, since my own family has been infected (I like to think of these culty organizations as viruses of the mind) by the Jehovah’s Witnesses. Many people don’t realize the JWs are not just slightly off-beat Christians, but an honest to God cult (the JWs are currently being raked over the coals in a court investigation by the Australian govt. for their policy of covering up child sex abuse within the religion and have caused serious psychological damage to many people through their policy of shunning dissident members).
Anyway, based on my experience, I think you need to look at it as to have any chance of getting her back, you need to figure out how to deal with her indoctrination into the cult.
I strongly suggest that you look at the book “Combating Cult Mind Control” by Steven Hassan (he just released an updated edition of it that you can get on Amazon : http://www.amazon.com/Combating-Cult-Mind-Control-Best-selling/dp/0967068827/ ) to help you understand how these types of cults suck people in and your best bet on how to interact with someone who has been infected by the mind virus in such a way that you might be able to convince them to leave.
Directly confronting someone who has gotten into a cult usually does NOT work. They are indoctrinated by the cult to resist any opposition and dig in their heels. The cult survives by convincing the cult member that the outside world is dangerous and loved ones who aren’t part of the cult are evil. You can’t win by just TELLING them, “This is a cult and this is why you need to leave”. Your best bet is to try to use the Socratic method to ask her polite, gentle questions that will get her to think for herself.
When I was in high school, I dated a Mormon who claimed to have been “disfellowshipped”. It was a really intense relationship for about a month, at which point he decided that he needed to get back in the good graces of the church, and that meant that he couldn’t be with me anymore. It hurt like hell for a while, but as I got older, I realized that he had to put something on a pedestal. First, it was me, then it was the church.
Several years ago, said ex-boyfriend tracked me down on Facebook. We chatted for about a month, and the more we talked, the more I could see that he was batshit crazy and staying with him would have been a serious mistake.
So the moral of the story is that some people just go from rush to rush. Sometimes, it’s people, sometimes it’s religion, sometimes it’s something else. They leave a lot of wreckage in their wake.
I like to go from Rush to Rush too, but only when it comes to switching out c.d.'s.
The pedestal thing is interesting. Now that I think about it that may be what she was doing in our relationship for the first few months. I dunno.
I got it out of her that she had feelings for me but they changed, apparently over the last few weeks. I’m not sure if this church could have caused that or if it happened the other way around.
Honestly I don’t think we’re going to have any contact from here on, so I guess I’ll never get a chance to attempt a cult extradition.
Dude - I feel for you.
Having your heart broken sucks.
Going “no contact” can work - it’s worked for me - but in the end those failed as well - so “worked” is up for debate.
Some of us take a long time to recover.
Do what others said and try to improve yourself.
Try and look at this like you were a feiend of yours.
If a friend was in your situation - what would you tell him to do?
I’m guessing you’d realize that:
- someone who had vastly different religious beliefs don’t (usually) make good long term partners
- women (or men) that are flaky like that are nothing but long term pain
- there are women out there (so I’ve heard) that probably want the same thing you do
It will take a long time to get over this. Go and try and do things you enjoy - find a hobby if you don’t have one. Walking helps me. Not sure if it will you.
I wish you the best, but don’t “hope” for her to come back
I’m Christian myself, and while I’m not familiar with Xenos, this sounds like a cult to me too.
You’re better off without her. Work on yourself for a while, and when you’re ready, find yourself another woman.
Break ups suck - so you have my sympathies, OP. But I will add that when you’re measuring your relationship in fractions of a month, you are in a very young/short relationship. It may have seemed long to you, but it’s a blink of the eye.
This religion/breakup thing reminds me of my experience.
I was very close to this Indian-American girl in college. She was a Hindu, and I was a Catholic, though neither of us was very religious or knowledgeable about our religions. When she told me she wanted to be more than friends, I refused, saying that I could not date her because of the difference in religion (I know, a real dick thing to say). We eventually did end up dating for two years, despite my oft-repeated concerns. When we graduated, she broke up with me, saying that she wanted to explore her Hinduism and could not be with a Catholic. Touché!
But the real irony came many years later when I googled my old flame and found out that she ended up marrying a bible-thumping Christian guy, gave up her professional career, and now writes Christian books for kids. :smack:
I’m not certain, but I think you have the timeline wrong.
I think you should head to the lake retreat coming up. Win her back!! Do it. That’s what she’s probably looking for, her knight in shining armour to win her back.
Good luck. Don’t take any firearms.
Dude, my sympathies. I’ve recently just been through almost the exact same thing as you. Except my relationship was over 4 years. She started working with her church a LOT more, working with 2 different Elks clubs, etc. 4 years, down the drain because I told her that I couldn’t have a relationship where we saw each other 1 day per month, and that 1 day, she got a call from the Elks and left immediately.
That was in January and we broke up February 7th. I did the whole begging her back thing, told her I’d get more involved in her church, the Elks, etc., but that was a no-go. I then started hanging out with some friends that I hadn’t seen for awhile.
I broke off all contact with her. Deleted her contact info out of my phone, all of my email accounts, FB, etc. I asked my friends who had posted pictures of both of us to please remove them.
It took about 2 months for the initial loneliness to wear off. Then, started the retrospect of the relationship and I realized how much better off I was without her. Know why? She hadn’t had a job in over a year! I was paying for all the groceries, all her hair/skin care products, virtually EVERYTHING! Without her, I was finally able to afford to go out!
So, I signed up for a couple dating sites. That started very slowly for me with no replies, etc. It was depressing. But now? I’ve been on 3 dates with 3 different women between this past Saturday and last night (Wednesday).
I think back to how I was willing to change just about anything for her, but I can say she did me the biggest favor she could by telling me no.
Give it some time! It will work out when you least expect it! I’m having the time of my life right now. And no, I’m not just doing hook-ups. I am genuinely having a great time meeting new women and having wonderful conversations.
Good luck, and know that it will all work out! 
Hey man, pretty funny…literally the SAME EXACT thing happened to me, right around this time last year. The comparisons from the length of the original relationship, the sudden drop out of nowhere and even down to the triviacrack.
Was just wondering how this turned out for you.
My condolences on the ended relationship. That said, you can’t ‘get her back’, because, well… she’s not a ball, and you’re not a ball-obsessed Labrador retriever. It takes two to have a relationship. One party checked out, so there is no relationship.
When it’s been longer since your girlfriend broke up with you (11 months) ZOMBIE THREAD ALERT, than you were together, 7.5 months, I’m guessing the OP is doing fine, since he hasn’t posted here in about 10 months.
He’s not here anymore. So . . . . how did things turn out for YOU?
Maybe he killed himself in despair, since he hasn’t posted here in 10 months. One can’t assume anything.
I hate when you never get closure in these threads.
It’s that dreaded 7.5 month itch; Very few relationships survive it, really.
I was wondering if she came back after another month and a half.
*Nine months later
She’s ringin’ my doorbell
Nine months later
I ain’t feelin’ too well
Who woulda thought, who could ever surmise?
That chick would hunt me down like the FBI?
Callin’ all cars, put out an APB
Because this papoose that she’s totin’ looks alot like ME
Get it outta here, now!*