Even if GF does not want to press charges, I’m wondering whether the authorities might have some objections to whatever happened. Maybe in the realm of making false reports?
I’m not exactly sure what happened, why it was thought that the GF was carjacked, when it was reported to what authorities, and what official action was taken. If an abduction was reported, it seems odd that some considerable actions weren’t taken. And if it turns out to have been a false report filed over what seems - at best - a family squabble - I can imagine authorities making things unpleasant for those involved.
So, Supes old pal, you need to understand some things about addiction and the people who make money off of it. These guys, as I said earlier, felt perfectly justified in taking your GF’s car. They felt it was owed to them. Next time they may well feel that she owes it to them to perform services for the men they solicit until the “debt” is “paid.” and they’ll feel perfectly justified in doing that too.
Chances are good that they got your and/or GF’s address from the information in her wallet and phone. You are now, in their books, a guarantor for any loan SIL may take out. They will consider your belongings as being justifiably theirs when she falls behind again. And if you have ANYTHING they want, they will see to it that she falls behind.
Regardless of whether GF presses charges, you must go to the FBI and tell them everything you know. If you don’t, you could lose everything you own and be roped in as a suspect on top of it all. Type it all up in a Word document and submit it to their tips line: https://tips.fbi.gov/
Then contact the Louisville office and try to get an appointment to discuss what you’ve encountered with one of their agents: 12401 Sycamore Station Place, Louisville, KY 40299-6198 (502) 263-6000
Through no fault of your own, you have entered the wringer. Failure to act will result in your being dragged down to the absolute bottom along with the SIL.
As for GF, try to make her understand that the only way to save SIL is to help her hit an absolute bottom. Law Enforcement and the courts can help her do that in a manner other than death. There are no good choices here, but her best chance is for everyone around her to start coming down as hard as possible on her at every turn. Make her life a living hell until she gets into detox. Do it as many times as necessary. I’ve known people who went through detox/rehab several times before it stuck. The ones who live are the ones who do NOT have enablers. Enablers kill.
Still praying for a positive outcome. {{{{{SuperDude}}}}
Something about this story doesn’t smell right to me–not the story that Superdude is saying, but the story he’s being told. Called SD while being chased, rather than calling 911. Ex military, and been through Police Academy, but chose the second-worst option for dealing with this–random turns hoping to lose them–and didn’t make it to safety. The texts seem…I dunno. Contrived, somehow (gut feeling, nothing more).
The sister, who she’s not really in contact with, knows the make and model of the car, and her possible locations as to where she can be found?
I sincerely hope I’m wrong, and if I am, I will be more than happy to apologize for my skepticism, but I can’t help but wonder if GF is more involved in this than she’s letting on, and staged this to some degree.
I want to be perfectly clear–my suspicion is nothing more than speculation based on the story as it was was relayed, and any motivation I may be ascribing to it is used as a means of rationalizing the behavior I’m suspicious of.
It’s entirely possible, perhaps even likely, that this is all based on my experiences having been married to an extremely manipulative, mentally ill woman who would lie as easily as she would breathe. My skeptical gland is very sensitive, and activates easily.
I mentioned this over on GB, where we’re also discussing this matter - some have questioned the veracity of the texts that OP transcribed for us. I (and others) can confirm that there are in fact grown adults who type and text exactly in the manner presented, particularly adults involved in activities such as collecting drug debts.
I just saw that there was an update. Thankfully she is well and unharmed. However, the fallout from dealing with sis is going to probably leave a mark.
I have some relatives that also make poor life choices and being held accountable for their mistakes is one of those things that creeps into your head on a night when you can’t sleep and your brain likes to torture you. One relative was always like “Oh, I met someone who lived in your town. He said he lived down the street from you.” Stop telling strangers where I live! Maybe it was a waiter, but I’m going to triple check the locks now because maybe it was your dealer.
Police need to have witnesses willing to call it a kidnapping in the first place, and willing to cooperate and find further details afterward. It would be different if we were talking about child abduction - they would be all over that and wouldn’t give two shits who’s willing to cooperate because they’d force people to cooperate. But with adults, they know drama happens and people “escape” from their families and lives. They’re not going to get involved until it’s indisputably clear that there’s a reason to.
They have limited resources for one thing. But for another, people go “missing” every day - it’s pretty common. They also deal with family and domestic drama all the time. It also depends on the laws of the state. Some states, for instance, would investigate if they suspected it was a domestic abuse case, or if it was related to a statute that required mandatory criminal filings. But that doesn’t really appear to be an angle here.
Also, I may have missed it but I didn’t see where the alleged abduction took place across state lines, so it might not necessarily an FBI matter, either. If it happened entirely within the borders of one state, it’s for the local state police and state bureau of investigation to deal with. The FBI might look into it to make sure it’s not within their jurisdiction, but if it’s not, they move on to something else.
Probably true, asahi. My impression is it would be tough to identify all the “bad actors” and the “true story” in this situation. The agencies are likely happy to be able to classify it under, “shit they don’t have to deal with” (at least today!)
If I was in anyway related to someone who was somehow involved in something this fucked up, I’d sure be taking some definite steps to distance myself from as many aspects of the situation as I could. IMO, with people who act this stupidly, it is rarely a “one off.”
I wouldn’t say they’re “happy” to classify it as something they don’t have to deal with; they’re just simply not going to deal with it unless they can establish for sure that they need to deal with it. Law enforcement doesn’t exist to involve itself in familial disputes; they’re there to keep the peace. Unless they have people willing to come forward and say, with some evidence in hand, that “I was forced into a car and detained/abducted against my will,” then nothing is going to happen.
I’m giving the OP the benefit of the doubt, so this isn’t a swipe at the OP, but I am genuinely curious: what evidence exists that your gf was “carjacked”? See, a carjacking isn’t just two scary looking individuals walking up to a car and saying “Give me a ride to a safe house while you text your boyfriend that we’re doing this.” Carjacking, more often than not, involves firearms, aggravated assault, assault with a deadly weapon - that kind of shit. And trust me, police absolutely WOULD investigate THAT!
So where’s the evidence? OP, are YOU getting the whole story here?
It’s a reference, I believe, to the Giraffe Board, which is a message board for Dopers who want a message board where they can freely talk about this message board. Weird, I know.
Yeah, Giraffe Boards. Not sure if I’m permitted to link, but a quick google will find it. There’s an ongoing thread where we discuss current SDMB happenings.
It’s helpful to first spell out any abbreviations before you use them. People throw up random initials all the time on the Dope. I find it maddening but it seems folks are sometimes more concerned about abbreviating every thing they can rather than writing clearly and meaningfully. I would blame smartphones but Dopers really should know better.
It’s understandable that your girlfriend wants to protect her sister. So you need to tell her to do that. What she’s doing now is not protecting her. It is endangering her. The only way for your girlfriend to protect her sister is to get the police involved.
Thanks for the lecture, Dad, but my use of “GB” (it means Giraffe Boards) was not out of laziness but more out of an assumption that most Dopers were aware of its existence. But your concern is noted and will be given the appropriate amount of consideration going forward.