My deepest condolences. You are in my thoughts and praryers. Remember you best times with her whenever you need to and know that those memories will be with you always and when you need her most.
Kellibelli, I am truly sorry.
Kelli, I’m so sorry to hear the news. I’ll be thinking of you.
Kelli, I’m so very sorry about your Mom. The loss of someone we love, and at such a young age, is shocking beyond words. I’ve been there. Beyond the numbness and the feeling of unreality that will help you survive the coming days, what will help you the most is the sharing of grief with those you love, family and friends. My heartfelt sympathy, Kelli, to you and your family.
(((kelli)))
Oh Kels… you’re my oldest friend here… I’m so sorry.
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–John
Kelli,
I am very sorry for your loss, I have been down that road myself. A mother that is ravaged by cancer.
I don’t know if this helps you any but I have been there, I was 15, three days after my birthday, my mom had turned 45 just 8 days before her death.
We went on a family trip that my father (they were divorced) had put together for us (excluding my father) to Disney World. The first day or so was great, the third day a tumor was pressing on her brain and I remember distinctly that she was putting red pistachios in her rum and coke. I assume she thought it was ice. A journal that she was writing was showing the tumor really messing her up. A woman that was MENSA, a professor, a smart woman by all normal standards.
She went down hill from there, horribly.
The reason I tell you this is that cancer can do funky things to people and it’s not just your mom that did weird things, it can happen to anyone…so do your best to remember your momma in her health rather than in her dying days. It will never be easy as I still have those memories but I do have a few good ones that I cling to and I hope you can pull those out of your memory vault rather than hand on to the tissue thing or other odd things while watching her die from this disease.
In either case, my heart feels with you. I have been down that road so I can honestly say I know what you are feeling. We haven’t been the best of buddies but if you need to, please email me, at anytime. Occasionally you can find me on AOL/AIM at “coflower1” so try it if you need someone else (like I am sure many here were in the same boat) that truly understands what it’s like to lose a mom.
My blessings to you, your kids and the rest of your family. My heart is with you at this time of loss.
Kelli,
You find whatever comfort you can. And, you be as mad as you need to be. And cry as much as you need to.
I don’t have words to make it better, as much as I might wish I do. You, of course, know that as well as I do. My best is to provide you with the smattering of comfort that I can give, which is to say that whatever YOU need to do to feel better…that’s the best you can do, and as insignificant as I may be in your life, I hope that the simple fact that I understand how you feel…means something toward validating your emotions.
My best wishes for you.
Brian
I had forgotten this for quite some time, but it applies here, and thanks to you, liz, for helping me to remember:)
My grandfather (phantomdiver’s father-in-law) had been a member of MENSA for something on the order of 70 years. He’d worked in various moderately to very prestigious literary positions, written books, had translations published, you get my point.
A year or so of cancer rendered him unable to form sentences. The night before he died the only cogent thing that came out of him was something about the birds outside.
Bittersweet memories I have of this man, for obvious reasons. But cancer can reduce the world’s brains to all but.
For now.
My thoughts are with you and your family, kellibelli.
Peace to you all.
There are no words, really.
kelli, I wish you and your family strength and wisdom in the tough times ahead. I recently lost a close family member myself, also at a much too young age, much like your mother. Take comfort in the fact that she has to suffer no longer - and take your time to mourn.
Sometimes, life can be almost too tough to take. Take good care of yourself, and your children.
Kelli,
I’m so so sorry . I don’t know what I can possibly say to console you or be useful to you or anything. I feel for you, I really, really do. I lost my mom, too.
Today would be my mom’s birthday. We always celebrated it together, since mine is on the 18th. She died two and a half years ago, just when I was 18 (heart attack) and …I dunno… it’s still painful. I’m not sure how I managed to cope–it was all a blur–so I’m afraid I’m of no help to you there.
A few months later, my grandmom – her mom-- died.The woman who was working in the newspapers in Clarksville in her eighties was suffering from Alzheimers the last half decade of her life. The second damned hardest thing to deal with is having someone who so showered you with love and gifts not know who you are. (I still have my blankee she gave me as a babe.) The damned harder thing is trying to tell grandma that her daughter --if she remembers her, she remembers as that 19 year old in what resembles pigtails – has died. Why the brain must be that damn fragile, I don’t realy know.
I think everybody else in this thread had said what all I could if I had but an inkling of eloquence. I wish you and your clan the best. I send you my condolenses
I’m sorry kelli. 
Kelli
I’m so sorry, words aren’t adequate. I am glad she’s no longer in pain and suffering, and I’m sure you are too, and I hope that knowledge will carry you through this horrible time.
Remember the love, and take one day at a time.
{{{hugs}}}
I’m so sorry to hear that, Kelli. My thoughts are with you.
I am sorry for your loss… ((Kelli))
The next few days will go very fast. Pay attention to your body and let your emotions do whatever they want. Breathe well and rest accordingly. Sit down to eat. Accept many hugs. Ask stories of your mom from people that show up if you can do it… These things can make you smile like nothing else could right now.
This week marks twenty years of my grandmother’s death from cancer. My Mom, my sister and I still call one another. It was hard. She was sweet.
Peter
Kelli I’m so sorry. You’ve had a bad time of it.
I hope in time you will only remember the good times.
Thinking of you and your family.
Peter
My deepest sympathy to you Kells on your loss. My prayer is that you will find the peace you need to help you and your family through this.
kelli, i’m so sorry.
i hope the good memories of your mom will give you comfort.