Sometimes I am amazed and surprised by how thoughtful and sweet my mother can be. This past weekend, my fiance and I have been discussing things like budgets and costs for when we move in together in a few months. We’ve both been saving money for this, and now we’re looking around at places and figuring out what we need to buy right away vs. what can wait a little while so that we don’t completely deplete what we’ve been able to save. We’re more or less settled on what we need to do for the expenses of moving in, but haven’t necessarily discussed a monthly budget yet, as that’s a wee bit unpredictable. (I’m moving to his area, so I won’t know what kind of job I’ll have; I’ll also be starting a graduate program, so I’m not sure as to how many hours per week I"ll want to be working at this point.)
I haven't been discussing a whole lot with my mother, as well, there's not much to discuss about the details of me moving out. She has, however, not only volunteered to help me move my things three hours away, but, to my surprise, has started buying little things that we'll need to set up a house that we hadn't planned for yet. Apparently all this looking through coupons is for my benefit too! I'm just glad she's thinking of us when she cuts coupons for disposable food storage containers and extra little kitchen doo-dads. I just wanted to express how grateful I am for having such a cool and thoughtful mom. :D
Heya nash! Glad to see things are moving along well for you!
Thoughtful parents are probably the best thing you could hope for when it comes time to move out/get married/do both. After all, especially mothers (typically), they’re far more aware of what is needed to run a household than a typical dad.
I have to admit that I was probably the kid most prepared for not having a meal plan in my dormitory because of my mother’s planning. I not only had a full set of cookware, but had most of the kitchen essentials that I’d need that would actually fit in a dorm room. Sadly enough, I had to hang all of this stuff on a wall, as the useable space in our 10’x11’ room was closer to 8x’6’ for two people. At least my roommate never had to worry about cooking utensils!
I expected the thread title to have been sarcastic. What a refreshing change to see a sweet mom who is appreciated.
It’s also nice to see someone living within their means. I watch design shows like “Moving Up” where homeowners gut perfectly lovely kitchens and baths because they have to have that $40K kitchen RIGHT NOW. I know that’s a on a different scale, but good for you for being prudent with the savings you have, and not getting into debt for immediate gratification.
It is nice to hear about nice mothers. My own mother is thoughtful, wise, giving and a delight to have around. In fact, two years ago she bought a house down the street and I love having her so near.
I completely understand. Right now, we’re starting to look at houses to rent. We’d like a 2bd/2ba if possible, but looking at a handful of listings in the area, we keep seeing 3 and 4 bedroom houses that are way out of our range and would be too much space to fill. It’s a starter place, and neither of us want to go into debt just so we can live beyond our means.
I hate to admit it, but I watch those shows like “Moving Up” (and the wedding planning shows) for the drama of people who know they are living beyond their means. It puts things into perspective for me and makes me happy that I am not wanting all of those excessive luxuries.
::jealous My parents used to live nearby (a few towns away) but have since moved across the country. It was so nice to visit Mom regularly and occasionally pick her up for an expedition (she doesn’t drive and relied on Pop for rides, and he didn’t necessarily enjoy hanging out at the quilt shop).
I hate to admit it, but sometimes I think that if Pop dies before her, it would be fun to room together. But then I feel a little guilty.
