Sorry he turned out to be a jerk. If you need a bright side to look on…
At least next time you really like someone and want the relationship to move forward, you won’t be so scared.
If it’s any comfort, some girls specifically choose a jerk they know they’ll never see again (ideally a drifter jerk, or traveling band member jerk) just to get it over with without having to see him again, and so they can move on to guys they actually want relationships with who wont have to fret over being their ‘first.’ Now if only that had been the case this time! You are still free to tell or not tell guys you meet that you’re not that experienced, as vaguely as you’d like, but you may find it a relief not to have the big V still in the mix.
I dunno. Felt pretty good to me. It was probably the best 20 seconds of my life. (uber dude ^)
Undoubtedly. Experience (can) build character and learning from experience builds wisdom.
I’m sorry. That’s a really crappy thing to do to a person. 
Oh, sweetie. I’m sorry
He’s an ass.
I have no helpful advice to offer but, sheesh, what a jackass!
I’m so sorry.
Some people are just assholes. Better you find out now rather than get invested with him and then find out! Now you can move on to find someone better and you won’t have to worry about being so inexperienced.
Thanks for the sympathy, guys! It really does help to hear that it was a kinda crappy thing to do. I tend to fight a losing battle against low self esteem, so this really doesn’t help much. I can’t blame it on him, though–he certainly didn’t make me any promises.
The worst thing is, I’ve just moved to a brand new city, I hardly know anyone, and I thought this guy would like, be my friend. I thought he liked me as a human being. He was really fun to hang out with, and he seemed to like hanging out with me. Honestly, I don’t feel particularly comfortable with most people and I felt almost immediately comfortable with him. I’m not going to be in this country that much longer, so I just wanted a nice casual relationship and someone to keep me company. He didn’t have to stop talking to me all together.
Man. I’m getting over it. Yes. Slowly but surely.
And yes, I am comforted to know that it will be easier in the future! Now the only problem is that I know what I’m missing… :smack:
Yeah, the knowing what you’re missing now part certainly sucks!
Don’t let him wreck other relationships for you - there are good guys out there. I just haven’t found them yet… 