I hear that one on a daily basis, usually from different people.
Wow. I’d forgotten. I mean, I feel bad for you and stuff, but I didn’t really feel it.
There was a former coworker that I had a real thing for. When I asked her out, she said she was sort of involved with someone. I didn’t know if she was telling the truth, or if she was just letting me down easy. And I figured that if I never found out, I’d be good with it. A little ignorance can be comforting.
Be sheer coincidence, I was thinking about her just now. I’ve totally gotten over her, I never see her or talk to her anymore, but I was just musing about what if, and thinking that some day, in some alternate universe, it could still happen. Idle musing.
Be sheer coincidence, I was in the presence of some other coworkers just now, and one asked the other if she’d heard from her. Yep, got an e-mail. She’s happy going back to school, she sold the house, and she’s got a new man in her life.
Wow. Unintentional sucker punch to the gut.
Now I know exactly how you feel.
You’re welcome.
Outside a high school dance, following a couple of weeks of what seemed like successful flirting: “You seem like a really nice guy, but, I just broke up with my last boyfriend, and the next time I go out with a guy, I want to prove that I can do better.”
30 seconds after losing my virginity: “Well, you lasted longer than [best friend] did on his first try!” :o
Yeah, but do your Mom and the clerk at the Starbucks really know you well enough to form an educated opinion? 
I lost my billfold once. A couple of days later it appeared in my mailbox inside a brown paper bag. There was a note inside that said:
"Too bad you’re not good looking or I would’ve returned it personally.
Karen"
Talk about ambivalent feelings…
Besides, who looks good in their driver’s license photo?
Thanks, um, bitch.
I’ll third this suggestion. If I know you and you pretend like you want to see me, don’t do this garbage where you don’t answer your phone because you see its me, because then I don’t know for sure without calling several times and then I feel like an ass. You ought to feel bad too. All it takes is a simple text or picking up of the phone to give off some lame excuse and then all parties are fine about it. We’re all adults and in the adult playbook this is standard operating procedure. Give a lame excuse and hope they figure it out.
Psst. Guys, you’re really ruining the whole ‘‘Dopers are arrogant apathetic assholes’’ reputation we’ve got going! :eek: 
A friend, who I used to babysit for when she was a kid, at her 25th birthday party said to me: “When I was younger, I used to look up to you like you were what a boyfriend should be. Hahahahahahaha! How stupid is that?!”
At the time, she was young and cute, and I had recently split up with a long-term partner, and was still feeling ridiculously vulnerable because of it. I was gutted by the comment in ways she’ll never know, for quite a long time afterwards.
Ten years on, however, she’s now single, and something of a social leper, and I’ve been happily married for five years. But still, how fucking rude. (Come to think of it, it’s probably comments and attitudes like that which keep her single…)
I actually did personally return a wallet to a pretty lady in my apartment complex once. She was at work and her roommate was home. Ms. Roomie called her to tell her what happened and apparently told her I was cute, since Ms. Grateful wanted to rush home and thank me in person. For some reason I can’t comprehend, I said “no thanks” and walked out.
Stupid! Stupid! Stupid! I was single, lonely, and slimmer and better looking than I am today. Why didn’t I do it? I kicked myself all the way back to my apartment.
He also tells me that my looks don’t matter—he loves me for my mind.
Why does that hurt?
Although I can’t really add that to this as something “Nasty”, just painful…
I was in fifth grade and trying to deal with being enrolled in a school of kids who all knew each other from birth but didn’t know me. I was doing my best to just live my life and let it all run off my back when one girl just ripped into me one day.
“You act like you think you’re good-looking. Is that it? Do you actually think you’re Good looking…?! Who the Fuck told you that? Your mother…!?”
A charmer, that one…
Not me, but my best friend’s former husband at one point in their marriage informed her quite seriously that he absolutely had to look at internet porn so that he could imagine the internet porn ladies’ faces over her face when they were having sex.
This would be one of the major reasons he is her former husband.
For me personally, there was one fellow of my acquaintance who turned to me and said “Too bad you’re so ugly - you’d make a great girlfriend!”
And then he was confused and hurt when I got angry with him.
Him: You know, you’d be perfect if I could take your head and put it on a skinny body.
Me: stares back incredulously
(I’m 5’3", and I weigh 110 pounds)
Sorry if I am repeating what someone else said, but I got sick of reading the posts. Surely the OP realises that what was said is flirting, not any form of repulsion.
I have a similar “relationship” with a woman at work. We keep bumping into each other at lunchtime. I acussed her of stalking me and she now refers to herself in emails as “your stalker.” I am pretty sure that if I were interested and if I played my cards right…
This is going to require a bit of setup:
Way way back in French class of something like second grade, we had to make up imaginary animals by putting two real ones together. A elephapuppy. A rhinotiger. A zebrafish. No, I really don’t know why.
At any rate, a couple of girls got together and came up with a “pigoraffe”–some sort of bizarre, freaky cross between a very tall giraffe and a fat pink pig, the kind of hand-drawn picture Dr. Moreau would have up on his fridge.
At recess, a couple of the guys on the playground point at me: “Look! It’s the pigoraffe!”
Of course it’s stupid and hilarious now. But that one stayed with me for a while.
True. Those that do know me well enough usually aren’t that nice.
Well, I long ago learned that it’s bad form to bad-mouth a man’s boorish behavior to his wife. I’m sure your husband loves you very much, and you him, and he has many good qualities. Charm, unfortunately, isn’t one of them. He needs to learn that every woman is beautiful if you look into her eyes long enough.
Well there is…