I live in a nice, relatively upscale neighborhood (no gate or anything, but well-kept homes, etc.)
My house was the last house built in the housing plan. It was wedged between two existing houses. It was always supposed to be built, but the folks on either side of us had lived in their homes for 3-5 years before we got here.
So, they took advantage of the space. I can understand that, as I would have too. It was basically an open field. So, their dogs were allowed to “do their business”, trash, grass clippings, dead tree branches, etc. were all deposited on this lot. When we moved in, the builder had cleaned up most of the trash, but some things have been hard to change. Like my neighbor’s dog taking a dump on my yard.
I have mentioned this to him on a couple of occasions, but it doesn’t seem to register. So today (I’m embarrassed to admit) I finally lost it. I threw the doggy do over his fence into his yard. I didn’t care if he saw me or not, and I was hopping mad and ready for an argument. It never came. But dammit, I should be permitted to mow my own yard without stepping in his dog’s crapola. Especially since I don’t have a dog.
That’s just one gripe. Both neighbors on either side of me seem to have a “we were here first, therefore we can do anything we want. You, however, must take our advice.” Well, that’s just crazy. My neighbor across the street (an older gentleman, in his 60’s) tried to explain it this way… “They were there first.” Ah, so what??? I pay my taxes, I have a property line. I have a right to my space.
Here’s the question I have. My one neighbor has just been too much, and we’ve had it. So we’ve decided to build a natural wall out of leland cypresses (or something of that ilk) to shut them out. I don’t want to see them any more. I don’t want to see their kids any more. I don’t want to be friends. I just want to block him out and be left alone. So I’m going to. I’ve already checked with my township zoning office, and I’ve been given the thumbs up.
But I’ve been told that this is rude of me and I shouldn’t do it. After all, it will be close to his property line (exactly! I want him to stay on his land, I’ll stay on mine), and that doing this will brand us as “stand-offish” in the neighborhood. I don’t understand. Both of my neighbors have done landscaping that has been right against (and in one instance completely over) my property line, and they never asked me for my opinion. Why should I give anyone a courtesy that wasn’t given to me and my wife?
Are we being rude by doing what we want with our yard? Is there some unwritten neighborhood etiquette that I’m not aware of? Just because we were the last ones to move in doesn’t mean a hill of beans in my book. I want their pets, their kids, and their toys out of my yard. That’s my right. And since I don’t want to call the police on every occassion the property line is breached, I think this is a reasonable solution.
I would appreciate any thoughts.