colander, I know you don’t like me, but you’ve gotten me to laugh out loud twice in this thread so far. Thank you so much.
I’m going to start playing your drinking game.
Heh. When it comes to this message board, it eventually becomes difficult for me to hold grudges against posters for anything less awful than, say, bragging about trapping and drowning their neighbor’s pets.
Is she a good cook? Then shut up.
I said that the blog I made was even more shocking and yet I don’t want people here to see my blog. i.e. shocking people isn’t my main objective.
BTW remember my opening post:
“BTW I also listen to John Gottman’s material which says things like that the ratio between negative to positive interactions should be about 1:5”
If I was serious about shocking treatment of my wife, I wouldn’t be trying to keep in mind high ratios like that.
She doesn’t know much about cooking but someone else that lives with us does all the cooking at the moment. If she was a good cook though (and ugly) it would mean that that song would apply to me and that’s on topic.
She wanted to get married or eventually end the relationship… BTW I thought in most people’s cases they can’t do better… I mean for every relationship there would be another girl who is a lot more intelligent, caring, funny, hotter, etc. Also the fact that many people cheat suggests that they haven’t found the best girl in the world.
I’m not sure exactly what you mean by “objectifying” her but I’m glad I’m not thinking that I could do better!
I’d rather not think too much about that because my wife lacks some of those perfect qualities (such as a flat narrow stomach [without abs showing through])
BTW I was just visiting a pickup artist messageboard and they’re saying not to put women on a pedestal (even “10’s”) if you want to have one night stands with them… there was also a long quoted article in a post that ended with “Every woman is a 6.”
Also on their boards:
When asked which PUA said that, another person replied:
So according to some people, to get a really pretty girl you can’t put her up on a pedestal (which a pretty girl might deserve) and if you get her she’s probably not that good in bed. I mean marriage is about having the same sexual partner forever - and looks fade.
Pedestals can be unstable. That’s why Mrs. bought a surplus exam table complete with stirrups when our favorite club closed.
It has a pull out step, and is very handy.
But, she’s a solid 9, so we really don’t belong here after all.
Good luck with your 5. And remember what the wise George Carlin said. “I never fucked a ten, but one night, I fucked five twos.”
The romance… it burns!
:rolleyes:
You’re sure it aint a goiter?:dubious:
That’s not quite what I meant, although helping her out with the hard bits on her feet kind of qualifies. I guess I’m asking what you do on a regular basis that makes her feel special.
What is it about her that you love? You’ve already mentioned how her neck and hands look, but I’m asking for substantial things, not things that will fade in time.
I can’t speak to most people, but I assume that quite a lot of people are like me - in that they get married to the people they fall in love with. I didn’t marry my wife because I thought I couldn’t do any better, I married my wife because she was the woman I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
I mean that it seems that you are looking at your wife as though she were a used car. She’s the best used car that you can afford, despite the dings, and the way the muffler sounds.
You aren’t personalizing her - you aren’t indicating that she is a person you like to spend time with. It seems (and I could be wrong or taking your posts the wrong way) that your wife is simply the best woman you could snag and your purpose in snagging her was to check off the ‘wife’ entry on your life’s to-do list.
You seem to already do this though - I’m not sure why you have a problem now. It’s this sort of thing that gives the impression (correctly or, hopefully, incorrectly) that you value your wife based solely on how attractive she is. The moment she is no longer attractive you are going to pitch her to the curb.
No her neck doesn’t look fat… it looks nice like this one:
I give her money for fuel - sometimes I’m quite generous and she appreciates that.
I’ve already said this a lot but I think she’s a low maintenance sex machine. Some people will complain that I’ve said that too many times already but you missed it. Like I’ve said already she’s very loyal, affectionate and fun/funny. Those are things that won’t fade in time. Also I think her hands/neck will still be fairly nice looking still in the future.
Yes I love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her.
She’s not the best used car I can afford - she’s the best used car that anyone is willing to sell me. i.e. I can’t do any better.
I spend heaps of time with her and I enjoy the time I spend with her. I guess I’ve got to explicitly say that since you almost assume the worst about me in every way.
That’s true she is the best woman I can snag.
We have sex in the dark and she manually gives me an erection so how attractive she isn’t everything… though I’d prefer she was attractive so that I could honestly compliment her about that.
I don’t plan on getting a divorce unless it is absolutely necessary. Anyway a non-attractive but affectionate/fun/etc is still the best I can do. I don’t want to be alone. But I don’t want my wife to know that I’d still stick with her no matter how ugly she might get…
..wait, what??
Man after having read some of your old threads I have to say I’m rooting for you 
I think it’s certainly possible for your to have a happy marriage even if you don’t find your wife to be the most physically attractive woman around - I mean that’s pretty much the stereotype for older couples in media 
I find it a bit sad that people suggest that you stick with prostitutes instead of with your partner just because you have Aspbergers - I think people just aren’t used to seeing things laid out as bluntly as you put them. Assuming you have the sense to not be so blunt with her (and from what I can tell that is the case), you using this forum as an outlet to complain about her flaws from time to time is really no worse than other people who use the forum to rant about their spouses 
I figure that since she was willing to marry you, she recognizes your affection for her even if the people on this forum don’t.
That does sound special.
But if she even inherits 5 million dollars she’ll be a solid 10.
Guys, we have been down this road before and trust me, it is exactly as it seems at first glance. You will find no redemptive revelation at the end of the JohnClay journey. It is like a tarbaby, only fatter.
LOL!
“But there ain’t no Coup de Ville hiding at the bottom of a cracker jack box.”