I’m a bitch.
My husband has an ex-wife. No children were produced from this union, but for two years he has paid her rent. Not because the court ordered him to, but because he didn’t want to leave her “out in the cold.”
Last month, we married. At the beginning of May, we told her that we would pay half of June’s rent and then there would be no more payments. The ex-wife called my husband and asked him “How could you do this to me? I don’t have a job. I’ll be evicted and Sweetie [her cat] and I will be homeless.” Then her boyfriend, who lives in Germany, called Mr. Maven many times. :mad: German BF said the Ex needed help and he could not support her because he has an ex-wife and kids. Mr. Maven broke down and paid the full amount. He did it mainly to get the German BF to leave him alone.
Today, the Ex sent Mr. Maven an email stating that she still did not have a job and that she needed him to continue paying her rent.
Hubby: I don’t want her to be evicted.
Me: She had 30 days to find something. That’s more than most people get!!
Hubby: What about the cat? I don’t want her to be put to sleep in the pound.
Me: I lived with 12 cats when I lived with my friends. We have two and three-quarters cats now. We’ll take the cat. Sweetie can’t help her situation, but your ex can take care of herself.
Hubby: I just feel bad for her.
Me: I have known you for over a year. I’ve met Ex. She has never thanked you for making those payments. The only time she talks to you is to ask for money. If she had shown any appreciation, I would feel more comfortable about helping her. I feel like she’s just using you and emotionally blackmailing you.
Hubby: Do we have to put $ in savings? We could use that money to . . .
Me: If we were to put less in savings, I would rather it go toward some outstanding debts we have. Hell, I would rather see you use the money to buy that kayak you’ve been drooling over.
Hubby: What about her boyfriend?
Me: If the boyfriend calls, tell him that it’s illegal to harass someone on the phone in the U.S. If Ex calls, tell her that you’ll get a restraining order against them both. Let her try to get into Germany with that on the books.
Hubby: I wish I had a thick skin like you.
sigh I feel like a horrible person. If we stopped putting money in savings, we could pay Ex’s rent, but she’s had time to get her act together. She’s an adult (older than me, and I’m 29.) She can take care of herself.
Yep. I’m a cast-iron bitch.