It all started at my college’s queer group- we were having a women’s meeting and were talking about to what extent we all fit various queer women stereotypes. (I wear Birkenstocks and love folk music, among other things.) I find myself idly amused that when I go out with my queer female friends, I am very often “the straight-looking” one. It probably has something to do with my hair length, which is just past my shoulders.
At any rate, satisfy my idle curiosity (And straight girls, if you want to take it for kicks, be my guest):
What do you identify as?
How short is your hair?
Is it a natural color?
If you play sports, what are they?
Do people look at you and think you are terribly terribly gay?
Do you shave your legs?
Your head? Your armpits?
What about the queer female community annoys you?
What is your idea of dressing up?
Do you wear makeup?
What are “stereotypically lesbian” things that you do/wear/eat? (Expansive question, I know, but work with me. ;))
What queer/ friendly female recording artists do you listen to?
Any thoughts on the butch-femme thing?
Were you a repressed Catholic schoolgirl?
What do you feel are three very important queer woman issues?
How good is your gaydar?
How “incestuous” is your dating scene?
Describe your dating patterns. (U-Haul, serial monogamy, whatever.)
Did you/do you date men? How’s that working for you?
Any thoughts on good and bad representations of queer woman in popular culture?
and in closing,
Tell me a coming out story. Doesn’t have to be yours. Funny, tragic, whatever.
Normally this is the part where I insert some smartass remark, like “Orange.” I still can’t say “I’m gay” out loud. I am sweating profusely replying to this thread.
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The bottom of my earlobes. No bangs or layers.
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More or less. I had it dyed bronze for a while, looked really cool, and it’s mostly washed out by now.
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I go snowboarding once in a while, but nothing really serious. Oh yeah, and I’ve been on many all-girl canoe trips.
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I sure hope not.
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No. No point.
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I shave my armpits, yes. I’d probably never shave my head. I like my hair.
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I HATE FOLK MUSIC. With a passion. I will listen to Bob Dylan on occasion, but that’s it.
And especially where I live, there’s a personality cult. Be politically apathetic, don’t like folk, don’t have 10 piercings on the right side of your body, wear closed-toed shoes all the time, and don’t slobber over Angelina Jolie and Ani DiFranco, and you are not gay.
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Clothes that were washed in the last month. No, really. I’ll usually wear a pair of black slacks, a plain-colored shirt, shoes that aren’t tennis shoes, and maybe a pair of earrings or something.
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Yes.
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I’m a vegetarian, and I own a plaster bust of Sappho (STOP LAUGHING AT ME, YOU PUNKS!!) I also own three pairs of Ugly Corduroy Pants, and I got one of them dumpster diving.
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None. I do not like the vast majority of female recording artists. I own a Nelly Furtado album and some Garbage CDs (if they count) but that’s it.
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Say it with me now: SHELTERED!
I have only a foggy idea of what you’re talking about. Enlighten me please?
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No, but I went to school with hundreds of them :eek:
Gimme some credit here, I was never Catholic.
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See my answer to #13.
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Non-existent. I kind of wish I had some.
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Well, I live in Wisconsin, where most couples are cousins anyway
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Another “I’m Sheltered” answer. What is an incestuous dating circle?
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I have never been on a date. Remember, I spent my entire life living in backwater towns, and I’m only 18.
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Aside from my funny story abut being stood up by the Jehovah’s Witness kid, no.
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No.
If my sister finds this thread, this will be my coming out story. >_<
I’m a bi chick. (Hey, I’m a Crow, and Crows can be chicks. I’m sure not an old Crow!) I can be a dyke, if you smile when you say it. I date mostly guys but have had my heart broken on both sides of the fence.
My hair is just below my earlobes today. Thursday it was more than a foot longer, but I got it cut for my birthday and sent it off to the bald girls in Florida (www.locksoflove.com if you’re interested). It’s all one length except my bangs. I have never in my life had a mullet.
Umm…mostly. My hair is usually some flavor of red, and tomorrow it’ll be burgundy.
I do not play sports. I do not dance (standing up). I watch hockey, though.
Apparently when I posted my wedding announcement in my hometown paper, the mass reaction was “Corr’s getting married…to a GUY?” Everyone but me apparently knew I was queer, and simply hadn’t bothered to tell me yet.
Leg-shaving…hm. Sometimes, not always. Not a necessity.
Head? Never. I have a lumpy head. Armpits, always.
What annoys me about the lesbians around here is that they’re all so SHORT. There’s some kind of height requirement or something, I think. “You must be this tall to ride this ride.” I’m 8" taller than every one I’ve ever met…and I have a thing for tall women. Alas.
Dressing up: Long skirt, dress shoes, tights or hose, nice shirt and vest.
I own some makeup, and I’m technically familiar with how it’s applied. I wore some last on 9/23/95 (when I got married).
Stereotypically lesbian things that I eat? Um…women! Other than that, I’m a meat-eating type. I refer to wearing chick clothes as “being in drag” and occasionally shock people online by blurting out, “I’m wearing women’s underwear!”
Music? That’s the stuff with notes in it, right? Uhm. I guess if I listened to any, I’d have more thoughts on that.
The butch-femme thing…hmm. It’s outdated. I don’t role-play for my relationships, I already impersonate a happy employee 40 hours a week, that’s enough.
I’m not a Catholic, but I’ve met a few repressed Baptists. They’re not fun until they open up a bit.
queer woman issues: Health care. Too many studies are based on the idea of heterosexual child-bearing women. We really have no idea whether being solely sexual with women affects your reproductive health, how it affects disease transmission, and there’s a tremendous culture of denial about the existence of the lesbian at all in health studies. Politically I’d have to say the adoption movement to allow two women to co-parent a child that one bears. I don’t have a third issue in mind.
Gaydar? My ex-husband used to spot 'em for me. I can’t find them anywhere.
Hm. I refer to one person I know as “the ex-husband of my ex-husband’s ex-girlfriend” and another as “the ex-girlfriend of my first girlfriend’s ex”…pretty incestuous, I’d say. My ex-husband is now living with the first woman I ever dated and her girlfriend. I can’t even figure out how to describe their relationship to me now!
Serial polygamy with the occasional crash and burn into celibacy. Now trying the monogamy thing, and it’s much less stressful.
I like dating men. They’re just as warm, cuddly, and soft as women, and they don’t use my deodorant.
Stuck on this one. No idea.
I don’t have any good stories of my own…and all the good ones I know about other people, I’m not free to share.
What do you identify as?
Lesbian with very mild bi tendancies.
How short is your hair?
My hair is extremely curly, so it’s actually about down to my shoulder blades. Dry, however, it’s a little past my shoulders.
Is it a natural color?
There’s a blonde streak.
If you play sports, what are they?
I used to swim and play field hockey.
Do people look at you and think you are terribly terribly gay?
Generally people realize that I am gay because I mention my girlfriend a lot and because I frequently keep company with very obviously gay people.
Do you shave your legs?
Only if I’m going to wear shorts. I almost never wear shorts.
Your head? Your armpits?
No, yes.
What about the queer female community annoys you?
Lesbians who hate men and/or spell “women” incorrectly on purpose.
What is your idea of dressing up?
Generally, a nice pair of slacks and a sweater. If my mother is somehow involved, a dress.
Do you wear makeup?
I’m generally allergic.
What are “stereotypically lesbian” things that you do/wear/eat? (Expansive question, I know, but work with me. ;))
Do: Listen to folk music, listen to Sleater-Kinney et all, have a geek girl librarian thing, be very assertive and not very easily intimidated. Oh, and I have a nearly exhaustive knowledge of lesbian pop culture (films, books, whatever) and Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Wear: Ripped sweatshirts, birkenstocks, rainbow stuff. Eat: Um… I kind of like hummus, but not excessively. I’m omniverous.
What queer/ friendly female recording artists do you listen to?
A lot. Dar Williams, Ani DiFranco, Sleater-Kinney, Team Dresch, the Nields, Melissa Etheridge, Melissa Ferrick, Catie Curtis… the list goes on. But I listen to all kinds of music.
Any thoughts on the butch-femme thing?
It doesn’t really seem to apply so much to my generation.
Were you a repressed Catholic schoolgirl?
No, but I know a lot of lesbians who are.
What do you feel are three very important queer woman issues?
Heath. The appalling gay teen suicide rate. Women’s rights in general, especially people of color issues.
How good is your gaydar?
Damn good.
How “incestuous” is your dating scene?
I’ve been dating quietgirl for almost three years. However, at my school it’s very incestuous.
Describe your dating patterns. (U-Haul, serial monogamy, whatever.)
Consistent. I’m blissfully happy with Jen, so that’s not changing anytime soon.
Did you/do you date men? How’s that working for you?
The last boy I dated was my freshman year in high school. It didn’t work so well. He was a fundamentalist christian, which didn’t help.
Any thoughts on good and bad representations of queer woman in popular culture?
Willow/Tara from Buffy, Kerry Weaver from ER= Good. Big lesbian mama who gets herself a man and/or killed in the course of the show = bad.
and in closing,
Tell me a coming out story. Doesn’t have to be yours. Funny, tragic, whatever.
I’m at the point where I’m so out that it’s shocking to me when someone doesn’t know. So my senior year in high school I managed to scare the hell out of a poor freshman when I came to play practice talking about my girlfriend… poor girl took it hard. “Girlfriend? What?” “Oh, didn’t you know that Andy’s gay? What rock have you been under?”
Bottom of my ears right now. It’s growing out from a crew cut. I’m debating whether to grow it longer or hack it all off again.
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I’m sure it must occur in nature at some point. Not really natural for hair, but close if you don’t look for long. It’s sort of maroon.
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I was in winterguard in high school. That’s all I’ve ever done on an official team. I play soft/baseball, rugby, football, soccer, what have you if there’s a game going on for the hell of it.
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Well, no one’s ever looked at me and said “goodness Dai, you certainly are gay today!”, but people tend not to be surprised by it. I know a lot of guys who are less ‘masculine’ than I am. People online tend to think I’m male.
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Not recently. Occasionally I get weird urges to shave them. Maybe once a month or so.
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Armpits yes. I’ve never shaved my head, but I’m tempted at times.
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Um… I really have no idea. I can’t think of anything off the top of my head other than the kind of stuff that annoys me about people in general.
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Well, my preferred method is nice pants, a button up shirt, and some sort of non-grubby-sneakers shoes. I’ll wear a dresss if I have to, but I complain about being in drag the whole time.
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Not on a regular basis, but I have been known to on occasion. Wehn I do, I tend not to go for the ‘natural look’. Ok, I wear purple lipstick.
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I wear men’s clothing… and ‘bad-ass boots’. (Ok, it’s what my sister calls them and it describes them as well as anything.) I used to have a crew cut. I’ve usually worn my hair very short for 4 years now. Eat? I’m going to not answer what I first thought up. ~_^
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Well, I tend not to think of music in terms of ‘queer friendly’… Just in terms of ‘do I like it?’ I do listen to Ani DiFranco. Should that go in the ‘stereotypical lesbian’ part too? Other female… hmmm. Nelly Furtado is good. Joydrop has a female vocalist at any rate. I like Sarah McLachlan and Tracy Chapman.
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Eh. Not really.
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Not that I’m aware of. I once wore a plaid skirt though.
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Well, if I can step out of ‘queer woman’ and into queer in general… I still think that getting people past stereotypical assumptions is a big one. Add to that equal protection under law (and don’t even try to tell me it’s already there). I’m not sure about a third.
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Not too great. I can only pick it up if it’s obvious.
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I’ve never dated anyone related to me. But I suspect you meant something different by that.
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I’ve been in two actual relationships, both with males. I’ve been briefly involved, not long enough to ‘count’ with one woman.
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I do indeed. It seems to work pretty well.
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Well, I want to slap Ellen. Does that count?
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I don’t really have one, that I can think of.**
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Oh, I hate the clone mentality. Nice to know I’m not alone.
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Say it with me now: SHELTERED!
I have only a foggy idea of what you’re talking about. Enlighten me please?
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No problem.
Back in “the days of yore” as I shall snarkily refer to them, there was a tendancy for lesbian couples to have one member of the couple be very masculine (butch) and one very feminine (femme). The couple very often embraced traditional gender roles in this way. It’s not as common anymore among younger lesbians, but still very much around.
Watch the 1970s segment of “if these walls could talk 2” or Fried Green Tomatoes if you want to see some butch/femme couples.
An incestuous dating scene is one where there’s a small group of women and they all end up dating each other. Person A goes out with person B who breaks up with her to go out with person C, who is person A’s ex and so on and so forth.
Or, as a slogan would have it, “an army of ex-lovers cannot fail.”
That’s a lesbian stereotype? Wow, I had no idea. (I’m a straight chick who loves Birkenstocks and folk music…FWIW, the Spark test said I’m bi, which just means I fit a lot of the stereotypes. I do, in fact, prefer guys…)
[sub]And I’m still a repressed Catholic schoolgirl…[/sub]
Birks have long been a lesbian stereotype, yes. Actually, “women who wear sensible shoes” has long been a euphanism for those of us who are sapphically inclined…
It is worth noting that in general a lot of lesbian stereotypes are nowhere near as hard and fast as gay male ones. A woman in a suit is not necessarily going to be percieved as a lesbian, but a guy in a dress will almost always be percieved as gay.
I love Birkenstocks and Doc Martens. I never wear makeup or shave my legs or armpits. I love Ani DiFranco, and I’ve seen the Indigo Girls in concert nine times–even had dinner with them once. Not only that, but I am sexually attracted to women! Does that make me a lesbian?
What do you identify as?
Married straight chick, nominated “honorary lesbian” by gay friends.
How short is your hair?
For about 10 years it was pretty much a crewcut, with purple/auburn/burgundy tint now & then. Now I’ve grown it out past my shoulders (and stil growing); once it started going gray, I decided I wanted a cool hippie-earth-mother braid down my back.
Is it a natural color?
See above. I still do the tint now & then, but usually it’s dark brown with a little silver here & there.
If you play sports, what are they?
Don’t get into sports much, never played one. Used to run alone.
Do people look at you and think you are terribly terribly gay?
Not terribly, but I have been mistaken for lesbian a few times – sometimes when in the company of gay friends, sometimes in the company of “gay-looking”-but-straight friends, sometimes with straight friends.
Do you shave your legs?
Heck no. I hardly ever show them anymore anyway, and my leg hair is very fine.
Your head? Your armpits?
Head, no (but the idea doesn’t offend me). Pits, no (see Leg Hair).
What about the queer female community annoys you?
Someone mentioned man-hating and “womyn”-spelling. Add me to that list.
What is your idea of dressing up?
I love flowing ethnic clothing, because it flatters my oversized self. Even if my body did still work with the skirt/pantyhose/heels thing that I used to love, I think I’ve grown past that. I feel naked without jewelry, and I usually wear something distinctive.
Do you wear makeup?
Used to, but not anymore.
What are “stereotypically lesbian” things that you do/wear/eat?
For the past year or so, I’ve been wearing Birks and boots to protect my chronic ingrown toenail. Semi-vegetarian.
What queer/ friendly female recording artists do you listen to?
Love k.d. lang. There are probably others, but I can’t think of any offhand.
Any thoughts on the butch-femme thing?
Not really – to each her own.
Were you a repressed Catholic schoolgirl?
Not Catholic, but definitely repressed!
What do you feel are three very important queer woman issues?
Hmmm, I don’t feel qualified to answer this.
How good is your gaydar?
Well, I sensed that there was “something” about my friend Maura when I first met her, so when I learned that she was definitely gay, it didn’t surprise me at all. For all of my other gay friends, I knew about their gayness before I met them. Otherwise, I really have no clue how my gaydar is.
How “incestuous” is your dating scene?
N/A (but I’m glad you explained this!). My friends are almost all old married folks. (Bo-ring!)
Describe your dating patterns. (U-Haul, serial monogamy, whatever.)
Boring old monogamy. I married my first boyfriend, NOT out of desperation but because I struck gold on my first try. We’ve been married 11½ years.
Did you/do you date men? How’s that working for you?
See #18.
Any thoughts on good and bad representations of queer woman in popular culture?
I prefer not to be clubbed over the head: “Look, this character is a lesbian!” Why not just let the story tell itself? I am following Kerry Weaver’s explorations with interest. She’s a fascinating character.
Tell me a coming out story. Doesn’t have to be yours. Funny, tragic, whatever.
Hmmm, racking my brains and don’t have one. I think my family has figured out that I am straight.
Is it a natural color?
Almost, thank god. I’ve had a rough hair year.
If you play sports, what are they?
Nope. None.
Do people look at you and think you are terribly terribly gay?
No
Do you shave your legs?
Yes
Your head? Your armpits?
No. Yes.
What about the queer female community annoys you?
A lot of them don’t like bi girls.
What is your idea of dressing up?
A gown, heels, makeup, nails, hair, the whole deal.
Do you wear makeup?
Not if I don’t have to.
What are “stereotypically lesbian” things that you do/wear/eat? (Expansive question, I know, but work with me. ;))
Hmm… I prefer pants. That’s kind of it. And I like girls, does that count?
What queer/ friendly female recording artists do you listen to?
None religiously. I’m not a music fanatic, unless you’re talking about GLBT Choruses. Then, I’m a freak.
Any thoughts on the butch-femme thing?
Yep, I’m pretty femme looking, except for the dress and makeup… ok, but I’m not butch looking either. I’m definately more femme acting.
Were you a repressed Catholic schoolgirl?
Nope, I grew up Jewish.
What do you feel are three very important queer woman issues?
AIDS, marriage rights, and adoption rights
How good is your gaydar?
Excellent.
How “incestuous” is your dating scene?
What dating scene?
Describe your dating patterns. (U-Haul, serial monogamy, whatever.)
serial monogomy until I meet my true love. Then, the U Haul
Did you/do you date men? How’s that working for you?
Yes, I date men, sometimes. It works out okay, sometimes, othertimes, not so ok.
Any thoughts on good and bad representations of queer woman in popular culture?
Note to Rosie: COME ON OUT, the water is fine.
Tell me a coming out story. Doesn’t have to be yours. Funny, tragic, whatever.
Uh, okay, I came out to my mom in a diner in Pennsylvania, as we were about to get into the car, which my father, who already knew was driving. For three Hours. All kinds of bad.
My follow-up post on the two questions I didn’t know jack about.
Butch/femme: I know what you’re talking about now, but I still don’t get it.
Incestuous dating? There are only about 15 other bi women or lesbians where I live. And that’s an all-time high in my life. You bet it’s incestuous.
Issues: That one about the medical studies was a good answer. I hadn’t even thought of that. And we need it for straight women who never had kids as well.
I am not getting married. I was not going to get married back when I thought I was straight, and my sentiments aren’t going to change now. My personal freedom has always been more important to me than having an SO. Put me down in the “several torrid affairs” category.
Oh yes, how could I forget about the bisexual girls? A bisexual girlfriend will crawl into your bed at 2 AM after getting rammed every which way by a league of men! Bisexual people obviously have no morals and cannot commit to one partner! And, of course, EVERYONE knows that bisexual girls aren’t really bisexual. They’re just doing it to be cool and rebellious until the Stepford genes kick in and they settle down with a square-jawed young man behind a white picket fence and start popping out babies!
Aren’t you so glad we’re lesbians? WE know that true love knows no gender.
How short is your hair?
Down to my shoulder blades
Is it a natural color?
Yes
If you play sports, what are they?
None
Do people look at you and think you are terribly terribly gay?
Yes, but probably not the gay you meant:)
Do you shave your legs?
Occasionally
Your head? Your armpits?
Nope
What about the queer female community annoys you?
The non acceptance of
What is your idea of dressing up?
Wearing clothes.
Do you wear makeup?
What are “stereotypically lesbian” things that you do/wear/eat? (Expansive question, I know, but work with me. )
Dunno.
What queer/ friendly female recording artists do you listen to?
I rarely listen to music
Any thoughts on the butch-femme thing?
Butches are often FTMs from what I’ve seen.
Were you a repressed Catholic schoolgirl?
No
What do you feel are three very important queer woman issues?
Couldn’t say
How good is your gaydar?
Good. I rarely miss details.
How “incestuous” is your dating scene?
Describe your dating patterns. (U-Haul, serial monogamy, whatever.)
Did you/do you date men? How’s that working for you?
I don’t date much.
Any thoughts on good and bad representations of queer woman in popular culture?
A good story should not show any trace of the authors political leanings. Babylon 5 was a good one.
What do you identify as? Bisexual, though slightly more inclined towards guys. I am very much in the closet; I fear my roommate’s reaction, among other things. Only three close friends, my boyfriend, and my ex know for sure. Also, I often feel like I should have been born a bisexual-leaning-towards-gay protective midwestern guy…but this is probably too much information.
How short is your hair? A few inches past my shoulders. So not terribly short at all.
Is it a natural color? Yes, although it’s not my natural color…
If you play sports, what are they? I used to do track and field, and archery.
Do people look at you and think you are terribly terribly gay? If they do, they don’t say so.
Do you shave your legs? Yes, unless it’s winter and I know that I’m not going to be undressing for anyone for a while…I get razor rash.
Your head? Your armpits? No. Yes.
What about the queer female community annoys you? The whole anti-guy thing that some people have (I suppose it’s not solely a “queer female community” thing; more of a hyperactive extension of feminism). I happen to like guys, too, and I have mostly guy friends. Also, the anti-bi thing, which I’ve only come across once, in relating to my ex-girlfriend…gah…
What is your idea of dressing up? Depends on my mood…either a skirt/top number, or a very feminine dress…lace or whatever…
Do you wear makeup? Yes, although not every day. If I’m just going to be lounging around the house, it’s not worth it.
What are “stereotypically lesbian” things that you do/wear/eat? (Expansive question, I know, but work with me. ) I’ve been considering no-red-meat-or-pork for some time, but mostly for health reasons. I seldom wear skirts/dresses on my own. Someone said that BtVS fell into this category, and I’m a devotee :-). I also, until recently, wore guy Vans as my shoes.
What queer/ friendly female recording artists do you listen to? Melissa Etheridge…and that’s about it. I’m much more about REM, etc.
Any thoughts on the butch-femme thing? I’m not into it. I’m me.
Were you a repressed Catholic schoolgirl? Nopers.
What do you feel are three very important queer woman issues? Marriage rights, adoption rights, and general acceptance into society.
How good is your gaydar? Embarassingly bad.
How “incestuous” is your dating scene? Scene?
Describe your dating patterns. (U-Haul, serial monogamy, whatever.) Two monogamous relationships. One lasted for a month or so. The other has been on and off for 2 and a half years.
Did you/do you date men? How’s that working for you? Yes, I do date a man. It works just fine. Much better than the woman I dated…
Any thoughts on good and bad representations of queer woman in popular culture? …another vote against Ellen…
Tell me a coming out story. Doesn’t have to be yours. Funny, tragic, whatever. I’ve vented about this before in the Pit…but I’ll relate it again here. My ex-girlfriend outed me to my parents while I was in college. She didn’t run it by me first, and we’d been broken up for nearly a year. She just called my house and told them. I had to swear to my parents that I was just experimenting; otherwise, they would have disowned me. So, basically, I had to lie. I also ended up having to come out to my boyfriend; he wanted to know why I was so upset. He was about 1000 times cooler about it than I thought he would be. (Sum total of his reaction: “Jesus Christ, Gabe, that’s it? I thought you’d killed someone”). On a lighter note, the person who passed around a petition for Alliance on campus knew. First time someone ever picked up on me. Made me happy, for some odd reason. Still scared to come out totally, though. And NEVER to my parents…
Queer. Lesbian if you want to get paticular about it, but I much prefer the term “queer” cos I’m weird as fuck & I dig the word’s nonsexual meaning (I like to say that yeah, I’m queer, but it’s not being gay that makes me so)
I’ve got long hair right now, about down to the middle of my back, but I think this summer I’m gonna cut it super short, like army-boy short, then send my tresses to the afformentioned Locks of Love.
Yep. A blondish-brownish color.
Uh, no.
No, they think I’m fabulously gay. Seriously, no I don’t think most people would guess just by lookin’ at me.
Occasionally. In the summertime, mostly.
Pits, same as legs, summer only mostly. Head - not yet. But I’m considering it.
Of the queer community in general, I’m kinda turned off by the obligatory political aspect of it. I don’t like feeling that I am required by queer law to march in pride parades & wear pink triangle buttons & rainbow tube socks & sign petitions & shout slogans & lobby for Change[sup]TM[/sup] & overthrow the system, etc., etc., etc. Yes, yes, yes, I know it’s important; I don’t care. I just wanna kiss girls - leave me alone. Do the straights make a federal case out of their sexuality? I don’t like that being gay is automatically a “big deal” and by virture of being gay I’m expected center my whole life around this one aspect of myself.
I like to compare it to being vegetarian. I just don’t eat meat. I don’t liberate lab animals or douse fur coats in red paint or scream “Meat is murder!” to anyone ordering a hamburger. I just don’t eat meat; that’s all. So I’m queer. I like girls. That’s all.
A nice skirt, something long & swingy, with a simple top.
No. I’ve been thinking of buying a tube of lipstick, but I don’t know when I’d ever wear it.
I’ll be watching this thread to see what exactly constitutes a “stereotypical lesbian” thing. Cos I really don’t know.
Uhm, I have a Melissa Ferrick CD. I used to have a M. Ethridge CD, but I sold it. Uhhh… I really dig the 10K Maniacs song “Stockton Gala Days” - does that count?
Me no likey. I agree with whoever said that it doesn’t apply to our generation (I’m 22).
Uhm, no. Should I have been?
::mind goes blank::
Poor to nonexistant.
::shrug:: I’m far too shy to join the local queer scene, let alone date.
You’re taunting me aren’t you?
There’s this girl I like - I adore her, we have so much in commen it’s eerie - and I’ve done every subtly flirtatious thing I can think of to let her know how I feel, but I’m pretty sure she’s straight. Or at least not interested in me like I’m interested in her.
So that’s my dating pattern: admire a girl from varying distances of afar & wait for them to make to first move, which they never do.
I’ve had crushes on guys like I have crushes on girls, but I’ve never been in a realtionship with anybody. I don’t find the idea of sex with a boy to be completely repulsive, & friendship with a boy is cool, but I have zero interset in a romantic relationship with a boy. I can’t see the attraction.
Not really, sorry.
Heh. This ties in with my idea that being gay is not a big deal. And it ISN’T, to me. Apparently it is to my parents. I came out to them just this past October, and I’d been hoping to just make my little speech & talk a bit & go on with the day, but then out of nowhere they’re crying & hugging me & telling its-okay-we-still-love-you etc., etc. And cos they’re crying, I’m crying & I don’t know why. And I thinking “GAH! Where did all these emotions come from? Stop it!”
I wish I’d done something different, something silly & unserious, but I still can’t think of anything good.
