And believe me, if I could just stop obsessing about this shit I would. It was clearly a mistake posting any of this here. It just validates my fears that I’m not worth sympathy or empathy and I should just kill mysefl. I have noone in my life to talk about these things with. Can this thread be deleted now?
Honestly dude, just be thankful it’s legal where you are, and on your next birthday go find a nice “GFE” pro as your present to yourself. Tell her the whole deal, if you want. Keep it as something you only allow as a “cheat” on your birthday, since you seem to have a guilt hangup about it.
Anything she says to me will almost certainly be a lie and not genuine. I hate people who decieve and lie. She is there to play a role. Good prostitutes are experts at making men feel like they are good in bed or that they love them. They know how to fake orgasms extremely well. Would you want to have sex with the prostitute in the above story? That seems more immoral to me. I do not want to be used. I do not want my feelins/emotions manipulated and toyed with like there are some condom that you use and then throw away.
Well, they don’t call it recreational sex for nothing. It’s perfectly fine to just have sex for sex’s sake, without being hung up on the other person loving you. It’s not immoral to have sex just for fun.
Yet at the same time I want to sex with good looking woman. It’s like I’m a pedophile. I feel strong desire to have sex with woman but deeply feel that using woman for sex is wrong. Maybe I should get chemically castrated.
The prostitute is rarely ‘having fun’ when she has sex with her clients, and their is no way to distinguish the ones that are. They are professionals, after all.
Alright, maybe GFE is not for you. Good news is that empty, transactional sex is even easier to find! Just make it clear to her first that you want no acting and fakery, just the pure physical encounter. I still think that might be good for you to get past this roadblock. On your next birthday!
My birthday is is several months away. You really think I can survive for so long? I doubt it.
Dude, before you do anything, please call 1-800-273-8255. It’s a hotline for folks thinking about suicide, and it’s worth your time to give them a call.
Do you know that street walkers are much more likely to have a drug problem and other emotional/mental issues? They are some of the more exploited prostitutes. Good thing street prostitution is no legal here. Not that you are necessarily talking about them, but I just wanted to say it.
Do you have reading comprehension? I am not in the US and even if I was I am not going to call a hotline.
If all the terms and boundaries are agreed on, and there is no acting or fakery from either party, I ask you: how could there be anything wrong with that?
If the prostititute actually for some reason would enjoy having sex with me, her making no reactions in that direction would also be a lie. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. No guarantees. Anyway, you would be hard pressed to find a prostitute that was honest in a negative way to a client without them asking, at least the goods ones.
Not the case hopefully with a person that you met outisde of sex work. Then they are at least horny and can say what feels good for them. They can try to direct me. Most prostitutes will not let their guards down when having sex with clients usually. That is too personal for many of them.
You’ve obviously obsessed on it for a while, just think it through and have fun obsessing a few more months until it’s time to stop obsessing and just do it. My guess is you’ll be shocked at how silly it all was, in retrospect.
It seems to me you have never been suicidal. I don’t want to permanently sabotage by future dating prostects. It is the same way I feel about getting a vasectomy. I am pretty sure I never want children but if I meat the right woman, who knows? Yes, this is a highly ironic comment based on my previous posts in this thread.
I think it would be immoral for a woman to not know that the only sex I’ve had is with a prostitute. Most woman would be greatful for that information. Greatful that they dodged a bullet.
Yeah, I can tell. If you’d like to talk about this with someone, I again suggest seeing a qualified therapist. I am not willing or able to help you work out your issues, and I doubt the people on Reddit are either.
I’ll tell you one thing, if you’re a virgin and want a woman to enjoy having sex with you, it would be a good idea to get some practice. Ask the prostitute to show you the ropes and ask her to keep it sort of clinical, and not say stuff like “I love you.”
How do I know anything the prostitute says about my ‘performance’ won’t be a lie? The prostitute is not thinking about what is actually good for me but what they can do to make me pay more/come back.
I’m going to go sleep soon.
I doubt most therapists like talking, let alone thinking about prostitutes. Calling someone or mistaking someone for a sex worker, the preferred term, if they are not one is going to pretty insulting for the mast majority of woman. Somone claiming somone is a sex worker when they are not can easility win a defamation lawsuite.
If she asks, or it comes up naturally in a frank conversation, or if you’ve had unprotected sex and not been tested, then by all means, be honest. Otherwise, if she doesn’t bring it up, maybe she doesn’t care and maybe she hopes you also wouldn’t care about something she feels similar shame/guilt about.
It seems you think you’re gonna find a flawless woman, or something. Even Brad Pitt’s still working on that one!
That is really telling about how society views prostitution and sex work in general, where even the ACCUSATION of it can ruin someones career. Society doesn’t look too kindly on prostitutes or people who use them.