I wish you’d tell us where you are. It’s not like we can track you down or anything.
But, you say prostitution is legal and street prostituting is illegal. So, you’re probably going to go to some sort of brothel, and if you check around and find a “reputable” one, you may also be surprised at how professional they are about it. Talk to whoever is the “madam” of the place, tell them your concerns and they’ll take care of you. You know, some prostitutes kind of do like their job, especially if you live in a sex positive country. They’ll pair you with someone who wants to provide the service you’re looking for. I’m sure in the world of prostitution, teaching a young man the sexual ropes might actually be something they enjoy doing. Tell the prostitute you want to learn, you want her to teach you and give you honest feedback. You’re not going to be a stud the first time.
Heck, I think more young guys should be able to go to a “sex school” to learn all the stuff they don’t know, in a nice safe professional environment.
Also, you said your parents are sex positive, so have you tried just having a beer with dad and talking to him about it?
Or maybe the thought about prostitutes doesn’t even cross her mind. Most people do not think about prostitutes at all. I don’t need to find a flawless woman, but that fact that if I start using prostitutes my potential future chances of having sex ‘for free’ go pretty down if I am honest. The number of woman who have used prostitutes is very small.
Yeah I missed a negation there originally. I managed to edit it in time though. They “are not very sex positive” is what it says now. Brothels are illegal here too. Only private sex with an individual is not illegal. Whether there was payment or not is irrelevant. Even if I told you where I was I doubt you would know about the prostitution laws over here better than me. I’m not really comfortable telling you where I am, sorry.
I have no delusions that I think I would be good in bed with no experience, not to mention woman are highly individualistic when it comes to their sexual needs.
By the time you get to the realistic chance to have sex “for free” like that, being honest about having had sex with a prostitute is an unlikely deal breaker. The hard truth is that she’s already seen past your more significant flaws by that point.
Good news is that you can both just continue looking past each other’s flaws and live (mostly) happily together ever after, if that’s what you both want… and even have some flawed children, if you skip that vasectomy.
Is it rude to post replies without actually having read the oringal post? I sure hope it is. Hint hint. (I’m nice though and I’ll help you: It was 27. My god I know).
Anyway, one last question, then I’m going to sleep. This will probably be extremely insulting/insesitive to you so I’m gonna spoiler tag it. I should’nt be Pit worthy though. Do have a doughter that is at least 18? If you don’t, imagine you do for the sake of it. For some reason, you know she is a prostitute. Would you be OK with me paying her a visit? Why or why not?
As to your original question:
Do not send it in without a rewrite or an explanation of how he dies in the tub with the gas mask on and the girl did not while being in the room while gas leaked from the bathroom into the room of the hotel. It, the gas, was powerful enough to kill through a gas mask but the girl can open the bathroom and spend some not inconsequential amount of time in the gas and not be killed by this super duper deadly gas?
If it ain’t apples & snakes it is sex. The number one trouble for mankind since … well, a really long time ago. :smack:
You can’t think yourself into right acting but you can act yourself into right thinking.
I read your OP, but with the way it was presented as fiction at first, I wasn’t sure which details to take seriously enough to bother remembering, so I must have just focused on the general thrust. Sorry.
No daughters or children, thank Og! But if my theoretical daughter enjoyed what she did and it was done in a professional, legal, ethical, safe way and she didn’t talk about any specifics around me, or better yet, just lied to me about it, I’d be OK with it.
Maybe you’re different though, you don’t seem to tolerate even white lies. Myself, I’m pretty sure I’d prefer to not know some things sometimes. No one has ever accused me of over-sharing, though, so you can see how we might differ.
Yeah I guess this part is a little unclear. John is supposed to use the gas to kil himself here only. The gas is directly connected to the gas mask, he does’nt want to kill or harm the prostitute. The prostitute is in no harm. I could replace the gas with some other suicide like wrist slitting or something.
Like many young guys, I suspect you’re confusing physical intimacy with emotional intimacy.
I also suspect you have a prostitute fetish, but are having some conflict with it due to ingrained cultural or personal beliefs about what prostitution means.
You probably aren’t in a position to have sex with a complete stranger unless you pay them. That is actually the case for the vast majority of people, so you are not nearly as pathetic as you think. You are, however, in a position to begin to develop relationships with women that interest you. I mean theoretically a prostitute could teach you everything you want to know about sex, but that’s not going to bring you what you fundamentally need, which is emotional intimacy and a sense of self-worth. The physical intimacy can grow out of the emotional intimacy.
Some people, they want nothing but transactional sex, and that’s fine, I don’t really care what people do sexually as long as everyone involved is happy and consenting. However, I don’t get the sense that you will be fulfilled in any way from going down that road. I recommend you fantasize all you want about prostitutes, without guilt or shame, while you make some active efforts to develop more meaningful relationships. That is the only thing that is going to make a difference for your depression.
I hope that you don’t choose to kill yourself. I’ve been suicidal before and I understand the magnitude of that despair, but if you can conceive of a loving partner, and children someday, then all is not lost. Good luck.
Oh, and for what it’s worth, I don’t have a prostitution fetish, but I do seem to have a kind of fascination with sex workers from a writer’s perspective. The novel I’m revising now features a close friendship between my protagonist and his prostitute. My take is quite a bit different, in that Stacia (the sex worker) is not faking her concern for Fel, she is actually his friend. They relate to one another, both being pretty low in social status and considered outcasts fending for themselves in a brutal society. And she is one of the few girls who is not racist against him. There are limits on their relationship due to her profession but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t genuinely like him, and he certainly respects her. In fact, it’s his obvious respect for her that sets him apart in her mind.
When I wrote a detailed depiction of a transactional sexual encounter they had, some of the people in my write’rs group seemed a little put off. In the scene, Fel is so wracked with guilt over something unrelated that he did, that he feels the need to please Stacia. In the entire scene, he is focused only on her pleasure. In my view the scene demonstrated his capacity to be nurturing and care about someone other than himself. My writing buddies were worried the power of that relationship undermined the relationship I was trying to develop between Fel and my female protagonist. They didn’t understand why I would include a sex scene that wasn’t between the two protagonists.
This suggested to me that I’m a little more flexible in my view toward sex than other people. (At least insofar as what I think is okay generally… I tend to be pretty conservative, personally.) That some people cannot hold in their mind the idea that you can you can have a meaningful friendship with a person and a transactional sexual relationship AND also have the potential to fall in love with another person strikes me as somewhat sad. Life is full of nuance and different ways of being intimate and relating to other people, and it’s messy but you’ve got to take the bright spots where you find them.
This is perhaps a more hopeful view than yours. Whether it is more realistic, I cannot say.
