Oh what am i to do!!!
I’ve fallen for a women who i know very well is a flirt and had willingly gone to bed with a man just for company!
Am i being too conservative? or maybe i shouldn’t pursue a relationship with her but leave it as it is now to avoid me “getting hurt”…:smack:
Love is but a sickness and life a terminal disease.
Go with your gut feeling. It’s always right. At least, it has been for me when it comes to relationships. When I ignore it, I regret it terribly.
Sadly, my gut feelings been wrong before. sob sob
au contraire
You deserve better. Look elsewhere.
But don’t forget to think about the person who ends up being dragged into your gut feeling, and discarded along with it? I hate being that person 
Pardon? I’m afraid I don’t quite follow.
What I meant was, if you have a bad feeling about something, it’s probably right. Whenever I’ve had a gut feeling telling me to stay away (from getting into a relationship with a certain person) and I’ve ignored it, the person has ended up hurting me quite badly.
Well, this is a mult-layered question. First off, do you like this woman the way she is, non-spotless past and all? If you can’t get past her past, you have no future together. None. End it now.
Secondly, can you be more specific about what your fears are going into this relationship? Are you afraid she’ll cheat on you? Are you afraid she’ll dump you on a whim? A woman who flirts is not necessarily a woman who cheats or takes relationships lightly.
And thirdly, what does being conservative have to do with anything? Are we back to her non-spotless past again? If so, see my first point.
Ah, I was thinking along the lines of following a gut instinct in terms of liking someone. And/or making a decision based on gut instinct that involves someone else, as that someone else’s gut instict is ignored.
But that still doesn’t make sense, does it? Ah well, it did at the time… nevermind 
If this woman is just a tease, forget that. It may hurt to push her away, but its gonna hurt way less than her leading you on and telling you that she never really liked you.
Trust me, I just got used for sex for three months, then dumped.
Sometimmes you have to tell your gut to shut the hell up.
I wish I would have!
She likes to flirt and she likes to get laid once in a while because she’s lonely. Why exactly is that a bad thing?
You’ve fallen for her. Go for it. If it doesn’t work out, you’ll be hurt. On the other hand, it may have been the perfect relationship for you that you never had. You never know until you try. All you can do is be yourself, go for the gusto, and see what happens. If it works out, super. If it doesn’t, you had a good time while it lasted. The perfect woman doesn’t always come along with a banner across her chest telling you that she is for you. Go for the moment while you have it, and enjoy what you can. Life is strange. Deal with it:)
“Life is a toil, and love is a trouble,
Beauty will fade, and riches will flee”
- Life Is A Toil (Am. Traditional)
yes, I’ll shut up now. as you were.
featherlou,
Well, i wouldn’t mind her if it was just the past…thing is shes still doing it. Hence i wonder if its just me being conservative.
And yes i’m afraid she’ll dump me on a whim.
Now, does “she’s still doing it” mean she’s doing it, and you would like to start dating her, or you’ve started a relationship with her and she’s still sleeping around? Cause those are two completely different things. Have you asked her out? Does she know you want to date her?
Afraid she’ll dump you on a whim - that’s a toughie. No one ever knows what will happen in relationships - we’re all taking chances and hoping for the best. Sometimes we get hurt, and sometimes we don’t. You never get hurt if you don’t try, but you don’t have the fun and the connection to other humans, either.
So I guess the bottom line is, do you think pursuing a relationship with her is worth it? Or do you need to give yourself a stern talking-to and keep looking for someone else better suited to you?
I tell you she’s bad. Don’t come whining to me when she breaks your heart.
<male perspective>“Getting laid is always a good idea.”</male perspective> 
Oh, I am with you on this. It is the most unpopular opinion to have. Because the guy in the post is seen as a guy who wants commitment, and doesn’t want his heart to break. And she’s a shameless hussy who’s going to hurt him.
And his new infatuation is not the “good girl” he would like her to be. If his gut instinct is to “force” a relationship on her, even though she behaves in a way he in not comfortable with, her gut instinct is ignored. Who knows what she wants. It sounds like she doesn’t want to be tied down in the confines of a traditional realationship. A very honest person.
Hey Nish, you are already hurting. I’m sorry to say, but imho, she is not the girl for you. Nothing is “wrong” with either of you. It just ain’t a good match.