Ok, it's NOT that I'm gay, but that guy looks...

I’m sure this is a pretty common caveat when a straight man completes the sentence with “…hot/good looking/etc.” Not universal certainly, since straight guys can evaluate other guys and not feel weird about it, but.

In some settings, it’s probably used as an indicator that the person may very well be gay. Why, some may reason, would a guy 1) even say ‘I’m not gay’, and 2) even comment on another guy’s looks?

But here’s an odd twist on it: Was having drinks with a mixed group not too long ago, and one guy said, several times “Look, I’m not gay, but that’s one ugly man!”

Um, what? So odd, to have to qualify your sexuality in order to call someone ugly. I even made a joke with the dude that you don’t have to do that, we’re not going to think you’re gay for saying someone isn’t good looking.

His explanation was that the way he grew up, you didn’t want there to be any doubt that you weren’t gay. Which may very well be the case, but it’s not like the group that evening was a bunch of 50 year-old rednecks.

Anyway, mundane and pointless.

Next time he says it respond with “Look, I’m not gay, but I’d like to fuck you.”

But what if he says “Look, ok?” Awwwwkwaarrrrd.

No homo.

I might think a guy is good looking, or ugly, but it’s not something I would usually vocalize.

Hmmm. Maybe as an experiment, I’ll preface all my SDMB posts from now on with “Look, I’m not gay, but”…

Look, I’m not gay, but let’s just say I’ve never been to Minnesota. If you know what I mean.

Remember to end them with “Also, I think Carthage must be destroyed.” while you are at it. :slight_smile:

Not even the airport restroom?

Actually, I would be fascinated to know who straight guys consider to be attractive men. I wonder how that lines up with straight women and gay men… you know, in general.

Look, I’m not gay, but if that guy were homework I’d do him on my desk every night.

What? Oh yeah, that’s right! I AM gay. :smiley:

Whew, in that case I bet you’re relieved!


that kind of freaked me out, because I am in Minnesota.

I’m not gay but this is one of the funnier threads I’ve read today.

Look, I’m not straight but in my experience, it doesn’t line up that well. A group of straight guys I worked with asked which of them I thought was the hottest. They were shocked by my pick. They assumed I would pick the tallest one.

Look, I’m not gay but I would turn for Raul Julia {at least when he was alive}.

They’re all gay and said that only to show they aren’t.

If guy comments that another guy is “hot”, that’s enough to garner gender probation from there on. A comment about being ugly is barely a warning shot.

Many a 20-something redneck may well have a 50-something redneck inside waiting to bust out. Like in Alien, only with banjo music.

“Hey, I don’t wanna sound like a queer or nothin’, but I think unicorns are kick ass!”

“I don’t wanna sound like a queer or nothin’, but I think Depeche Mode is a sweet band!”

“Dude, I don’t wanna sound like a queer or nothin’, but I think you got a hot ass!”

“I don’t want to sound like a queer or nothin’, but I’d kinda like to make love to you tonight.”

-Dave the Lighting Guy