She is still sleeping with, and in love with the ‘baby daddy’. If she wasn’t sleeping with him, she wouldn’t need to wait until he was ‘gone for a week’. She could do whatever she wanted to, whenever she wanted to. She still loves him because of the slightly bitter sounding ‘…“baby Daddy” constantly reminds her that they aren’t dating’ comment. He is using her for sex, but not dating her. She is trying to get him back. She is shamelessly flirting with every guy she sees to make herself feel better about herself after being rejected by the man she loves. If you see her you may get laid, or she may just get some satisfaction from shooting you down. Or she may arrange to have him see you together to make him jealous.
Sorry, don’t mean to be so negative. I just hadn’t seen this take on the situation yet.
Yeah, further developments in her story about our trainer have me thinking that she may have made it all up. I may be “washing my hair” the next few times she wants to “kick it”.
Don’t see the contradiction, myself. Most of us would consider a NSA BJ to be AOK (dnooman said he wouldn’t turn one down, not that he was fishing for one) but it doesn’t hurt to point out that TANSTAAFL.
I’d recommend a large dose of “stay home and jerk off” to you, given that you seem to think any woman’s first thought about inviting a guy home would be the hope that he won’t rape her. Those who respect the male sex would consider the possibility that not being a date-rapist might be the default setting. :rolleyes:
Oh wow, I’d *never *have thought of that, but it fits!
Malacandra, where do you get the default ‘date rape’ attitude? I’m not getting that from this thread. If anything, Dnoorman’s saying he’s too slow on picking up the clues.
And Dnoorman, if it’s any consolation at all, I prefer the too slow guys, it gives me a nice safe feeling of being in control.
Best of luck with the whole NSA BJ thing, but not with her, yeah?
Here. ‘Hey, this guy seems nice and I feel like he won’t rape me in my home if I invite him over to watch TV’. Anyone who’s really as paranoid about that about men should leave 'em alone, I’m thinking.
Ah, you were replying to Cat fight, not Dnoorman as I assumed. My mistake.
Now I have to defend my preference for the ‘take it slow’ guys - that’s opposed to the ‘you were a bit fast’ comment** Dnoorman** had experienced. I also like the ‘I have read the signs *correctly *and am taking charge’ guys. Whee.
Assuming that “U of M” is Michigan, which plays at 8 this Saturday: run, far far away!
Assuming that “U of M” is Maryland, which plays at 8 this Saturday: take her, ravage her, make her yours; she has excellent taste!
What? Am I missing the point?
In seriousness, agreed with everybody saying she’s more trouble than she’s worth. Get away.
Right. 'cause we all know the majority of assaults and attempted rapes are from creepy hobos who live in alleyways, not friends, boyfriends or coworkers, and they all wear ‘I’m charming now but I’ve also got a pocket full of rufies’ tees.
Sorry, I’m sure dnooman is a really nice guy in real life, but if I am going to be alone in a private setting with a guy I’ve known all of three weeks, I do occasionally checklist who knows where I am, what friends do we have in common, has he ever flashed his dark side, will we be drinking, etc. It doesn’t mean I haven’t had guys over whether as friends or to fool around. But it also doesn’t mean I’ve heard my fair share of ‘he wanted a little more than I was willing to give’ from girlfriends, especially when there was a miscommunication (like, say, he assumed ‘Let’s watch TV’ meant ‘Sex at my place?’).
It is to shrug. Were I to describe my thought processes in interacting with a Black guy in terms of guessing he probably wasn’t going to beat me up and steal my watch, you’d be jumping my shit like it was going out of fashion, yesno?
Very few people do actually ask to be mugged and then change their minds afterwards. Tolerably few even act as if they want to be mugged. Consensual mugging is extremely rare. What does this have to do with whether I am a despicable racist bigot?
I think your girlfriends who’ve had trouble with guys who wanted to take a little more that they wanted to give want to have a word with maggenpye:
and then they can all get their stories straight and not act like the occasional mixed message meant that all women were in danger of being almost raped all the time.
