After being inspired by a similar thread, I’ve gotten to wondering what it would be like to lose your virginity while in your 30s/40s ? A friend of mine is 34 and it still a virgin, which doesnt surprise me because he doesnt take risks with women. Its my job to lay on the peer pressure and get him desperate enough to end this madness.
Its my opinion that the longer you wait, the less sexually-ambitious you are, and you start having trouble getting aroused. I imagine that if you are 34 years old and was initiating sex with someone, you’d experience severe performance anxiety and combine that with zero experience, its a disaster waiting to happen.
But on the other hand maybe these late bloomers constructively use their years of pent up sexual tension and have no problems at all.
Any Dopers gotten laid late in the game? How was it?
I’ll second this. I can’t help thinking of Mr. S’s friend, who is nearly 50, still lives with his parents,* and is pathologically afraid of women. We’re quite sure he still has his silver bullet. He’s got enough problems as it is without having his friends hassle him.
This is the guy who, at around age 40, told Mr S he was thinking of moving out of his parents’ house but then said, “I dunno – it seems like a pretty big step.”
Heh, I thought I’m an old ass virgin at 24 The few (3) times I’ve been nekkid with a girl nothing has stirred in my groins, no matter how much i fancied the girls I was lying with. Dunno if its nerves or just being used to being the only person who makes me come
The last time it was so frustrating I stopped foolin about, apologised and said we should just go to sleep. Knowing that I was a virgin already, she then asked if I was sure I wasn’t gay. Which was nice of her really… :o
Just out of curiousity, was it three different girls? Sometimes all it takes is patience (on her part mostly, but yours too) and high enough level of arousal that your brain shuts off and stops messing with you and your little friend. I popped the cherry of a twenty-eight year old virgin, and it was about a week and a half of heavy making out and sleeping together before we actually slept together, if you get my innuendo. He’d be hard enough to hammer nails, then as soon as his tool got within three inches of the sheath, he’d noodle. It became kind of a fun game to try and sneak up on it… I dunno, it was fun and interesting, and I knew we’d get there eventually.
As to the OP: Everything in due time and all that, there are lots of fun things out there that don’t involve penile penetration. Ragging on, peer pressuring, whatevering a friend because they haven’t had sex just smacks of high school and cheezy movies.
A little too much “self practice” can make the real thing a little “loose”. This goes away quickly however. 1st time was awful, second (with different person) was incredible. I think a legal Nevada hooker is the way to go once you are past a certain age. (That’s not what I did.)
Yeah, three different girls. I didn’t spend much time with them, either in bed or askin them out so I suppose I didn’t have enough time to feel comfortable. No idea when I’ll get the chance to do so again either…
Yeah, I know bout the whole self practice thing. My sister and her b/f are headin over to the Netherlands with another mate of mine this summer for a few weeks and said I should pop over to say hi. Maybe I should pay to lose my flower
Why not? A professional should know what to do to make it a good time for you.
However I think the 3 different girls thing is your whole problem. If you’ve managed to get 3 women to want to have sex with you than you’re obviously doing something right. So get a girlfriend, or at least someone who would be willing to have sex with you a few times. When you know someone well enough that you’re comfortable being naked together and touching each other while in that state the pressure goes away and sex becomes much more enjoyable. Or in your case enjoyable, period ;). I speak from experience!
I don’t know if you’d consider 26 to be “old-ass”.
But my first time wasn’t fun.It took us many times of trying before he could even get in, considering I waited til age 26.
So it wasn’t enjoyable.
The next time was 5 yeasr later, with my almost husband and I did enjoy it.
We did have to use shampoo for lube as he had trouble entering too.,
Guess its different for women the first time than men,obviously.
Well, maybe you are. Something ain’t right…if you’re wanting to do it but can’t muster the physical interest. Do you get a charge out of men? Or maybe it’s a medical condition. I’d look into it.
Well, maybe you are. Something ain’t right…if you’re wanting to do it but can’t muster the physical interest. Do you get a charge out of men? Or maybe it’s a medical condition. I’d look into it.
Dunno bout that, I think I was maybe diving in at the deep end (no puns intended.) I suppose its my utter lack of experience as much as anything else. And one more reason I’d really love to have a long term g/f
The few (3) times I’ve been nekkid with a girl nothing has stirred in my groins, no matter how much i fancied the girls I was lying with. Dunno if its nerves or just being used to being the only person who makes me come 
I dunno, it was fun and interesting, and I knew we’d get there eventually.
